I drive too when bored or annoyed, bloody stereo's not working so it doesn't have the same effect. I also log in and read the forums. Am I really boring that I have no interesting activity to relieve boredom......... must google something for future.
Having been let down myself more than once I was at a loss as to how intimidating a single femme could be. I couldn’t understand why a single guy would back out of a meet. I talk for a long time before meeting so the time and effort spent on one person, for it to come to nothing, was frustrating.
I can only think that on this site we have the ability to talk things up so much, to discuss our physical wants and how we envision the meet going that before we even get together we have enormous expectations. I think for some single men, the fantasy carries them away. They are convinced it is what they want and when they talk the talk they genuinely mean it. It is only when the reality is so close that self-doubt creeps in and male insecurity rears its bloody head. I understand men may have performance anxieties and how this may have a domino effect on the actual meet. If I as a single femme can be intimidating, I would imagine it is doubly intimidating to meet a couple.
I’m in no doubt there is a sector of men on here simply for the talk, pics and cams. For those single guys who genuinely want to meet all I can say is jump on in there. So what if your first meet isn’t all you can hope for, a lot of people here will say neither was theirs. It will get better. As for performance anxiety……. Without being overly crude all I can say is………. Darlin you may cum fast the first and even second time, by the third you’ll be playing your A-Game. :smoke:
Avalon sorry still can't get over that........ was it a student house?
avalon says , no hun , it wasnt but it was a rented house , the only one in my street , all the rest are owner occupied ...
Sorry meant to put more on that post, if you are willng to take the time you might think of doing a memeber search to find people registered under similar profiles to yours. Send them a template email inviting them to the group and asking they spread the word. It can do no harm, unfortunatley the mountain does not always come to Mohammed so take the killer heels off for a while and put on some mountaineering boots :wave2:
OMG Dar please clarify........ the cucumber in the fridge, it eemmmmmmmmm hadn't been 'used' had it? PMSL
In the interest of balance and to recognise true talent I've decided to start my first ever thread. I want to show appreciation of the straight (or bi) single male, sorry Hynes for robbing your theme.
I want to move away from the single male bashing and say thank you guys for giving me so many laugh lines. I thank ye for being witty, flirty and able to laugh at yourselves. I thank ye for the banter and the sexy pics. For the guys I've met I am thankful of their stamina; some not unlike a Duracell bunny sprinkled in fairy dust.
I am thankful of whispered interesting links (cough cough) , for D.I.Y. tips and where to pick up cheap car parts. I appreciate getting the ego-boost I sometimes need and the emoticon kisses. Some of my dearest and oldest friends on this site are single males, those that spoil it barely feature on my radar.
Lets make January Appreciation of the Single Male month, maybe share some jokes a single male told you or just tell what he has done to brighten your day......¦ Or maybe I'm just a sap .....¦
In my interactions on this site I do not take looks or walks of life into consideration, I am friendly with people with personality. In terms of actual meets, I meet who I am attracted to. My preference is towards men over 6 foot, masculine and dark haired. Only one of my meets has actually had all these attributes. At the end of the day I was attracted to the person and the social aspect I would enjoy on these meets. Would I agree to meet someone knowing full well they intended it to be more than a social meeting and I would have no interest in this - no!
I said is it fair of them to allow you continue applying knowing they were never going to accept, not fair on them. Again is it fair of them to ignore your request and allow you to continue applying. Your point is valid that it was insensitive to reply and discuss your physiology, it is not fair to run people down for having preferences though. By being on this site I am not saying I am willing to meet with anyone I would not welcome the advances of in a more main-stream setting.
If I applied for a party and was turned down because it is 20-30 age group, like you have done, I would say ffs why didn't they put that on the ad. Can I complain because they have set tastes; no.
I posted that before you editted your post to remove some of your original text Dar. As I said feelings were undoubtedly hurt and in no way do I make light of that. The fact that people found this in poor taste and defended you is admirable. Now this issue has been highlighted I am sure party organisers will take this on board when next advertising.
It is a persons right to determine what they wish to achieve at a party that I was defending. Attraction cannot be forced, if it could why do we bother filling out profiles in the first place showing us as people and who we want to meet. Discretions and tastes are not left in the cloak room when signing in...... I accept I will not float everyone's boat nor will they mine. I guess my point is, what if that person had simply said to you sorry we are full now. Is it fair of them to allow you to continue applying for their parties knowing full well their feelings on the matter?
No one defended blunt honesty............
It would seem we are in agreement so that it is not the criteria for the party that was offensive but the response received. Without the benefit of reading the exact transcript of the response sent to Dar, and not his interpretation, I would imagine that the party organiser foolishly went with brutal honesty as the best policy.
Feelings have been hurt, people are indignant at the offense. This is real life........... we all experience it and we are inviting further heartache if we imagine it will be any different on the virtual world. One point to consider...... on the chat room a comment was made on main chat denegrating skinny people. Not one person objected, would the room have been as silent if it had been a fat joke? If we are going to be P.C. let it be across the board.
Is the complaint that the party organiser had an image criteria for the party or is it that they listed the reasons an applicant did not fulfill this criteria? If it is the latter then yes, the repsonse might have been handled better.
But if it is the fact that there was a 'suitable type' clause for this party then this is the organisers right. To dictate to a person who should be allowed to attend private functions is only a short step from telling anyone else attending the party........'oh and you will be expected to take one for the team'.
I don't attend parties so I am not defending my own actions here, I just think there is such a vast mix of people on this site that everyone has the potential to have a wonderful time. Accept each other as we are, either in looks or in opinions, move away from what you don't like and embrace what you do.
Confused now......... so when someone offered to do my splash-back; was it not the sink region they were thinking of? Did I waste my time buying Laura Ashley tiles?
Titan being the divil I am I had to respond. I asked him if he was drunk, he said yes. I asked if that line had ever worked before, he said no. Conversation ended with me telling him his request wasn't very ambitious and we left it at that :crazy:
Titan, anyone who has contact with you knows why you are one of the true successes on this site. With regard to the person making the comment I can just say............. HURT PEOPLE HURT! Someone happy in their own lot wouldn't have made such a comment, either in badness or in poor judgement.
Southside, somewhere in these forums there is reference to a sister site in Australia. As members here I think you may be allowed access to the Australian site also. Sorry I'm not sure where the thread is containing the link but maybe someone else knows...........
Darlin thanks for the memory, I'll still be chuckling over it in the old folks home.
