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tom4
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 60
0 km · Galway
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id you say used to meet up Virgo girlI have a scary variation on that. Years ago long before swing4 was a pup even (before you could get phone pics), I was chatting for ages to a woman from the South East. Eventually met up and she was very negative to me. Said I looked nothing like my pic, very disappointed etc etc. I argued I never sent her a pic but she insisted that I did. I thought we would just chat anyway (as we had chatted for months and I thought had become pals). But no way, after 10 minutes she left me sitting in a hotel in nowhere land.
I put it down to experience but thought it odd. After all even if I wasnt Brad fecking Pitt even if there was no sexual spark we would have chatted?
Weeks later spoke to another woman on the same site, told her about my experience and she said oh ya thats such and such, she does that to every guy she meets, she gets a kick out of it.......
The world of swinging is populated by queer folk sometimes.........
Interesting post. On one level it occurs to me that the conversation you are suggesting guys have with their wives may be the one Tiger Woods tried to have that fateful night, so maybe dont overestimate the understanding of spouses!!
As for the issue of asking questions, looking for photos, details of how where and with what etc that is par for the course and is not a single guy issue Im afraid. I have spoken to loads of women (and indeed guys pretending to be women) and you pretty quickly realise they want to talk the talk but not walk the walk. I think guys are worse at it though. Pretty sure guys happy whack off chatting to couples and others about what they like etc.
If early on you are getting the bums rush about photos, contact details, then its generally a messer you are dealing with.
I think the majority of people on this site want to talk or listen to others and its purely a fantasy on their part. The trick is to work out who they are.
Here we go again, all men are shites, couples are loverly and women are angels. Fact is there are gobshites of both sexes and there are nice people of both sexes. There are the morons who go into a room and wank off and get annoyed because a girl on cam wont put her toes in her ears for them. There are also the women who routinely post each and every whisper they get, even from a guy saying "Hi" once.
They are the same creature those two, getting off on others and using them for whatever odd form of pleasure they are looking for. They have no more intention of meeting someone or chatting to someone than the Pope (though I wonder who the guy with the username BenedictXVI is lol).
Titans point is well made and his original post dosent single out single males. Unfortunately the follow ups arent quite as fair and a bit of balance is required.
The piece of advice that says ignore the first Hi whisper is still I think good advice. If the eejit says Hi a second time by all means I will help anyone show him the door.
It is really intimidating to have to ask in a room can I whisper because in 9 out of 10 cases guys get no answer and in fairness folks, we single guys have to be thick skined but its pretty shagging annoying to ask and get silence in response
Oh you can be banned for many misdeamours or more serious offences such as whispering, (bad) giving off in the room (badderer) (is that a word !) or various other offences. You can appeal to admin about a ban and usually they will take a look and see. But be warned, piss off a mod and expect a leather whip in a way that might not be as much fun as they are in certain movies!
and as he did she realised with a shock why he had never sent a face pic. It wasnt just the pockmarked face with really really weird red and yellow spots, it was the fact that his head was about half the size it should have been for his body. Now she knew what all those texts about telling her his shoe size but not not his hat size were hinting at........
As a married guy who is on here thought I might put in my tuppence worth. My profile is not very detailed for obvious reasons but does make it clear from the off that I am attached and I tend to be very upfront about it when I chat to people. Reactions are varied, from its ok we are only chatting, to a very very long lecture on how terrible I am. It certainly has cut short many potential friendships with women who just do not want to know about a married guy at any level. I much prefer it that way to be honest. I don’t see the point of lieing about something as fundamental as that.
Which brings me to four points:
1. If people do have a problem with chatting to attached men can you perhaps just get over it and move on to the single guys! Do you really on a swinging site have to give the guy a lecture on how awful he is? Do you not see the daftness in it? We all have different reasons to be on the site. Dont be moralistic about others. Its a long lonely road to a very drafty higher moral ground.
2. Why do people have trouble chatting to attached males but seemingly have no problem chatting or meeting attached females. I know I know there are several of you who would not meet an attached female but the majority of people have no such problem.
3. Attached guys. Embrace the truth and fecking admit you are attached! Ok you will find lots of potential pals will not talk to you but at least the ones who do are likely to be genuine.
4. Which brings me to the last point. Lots of people are in here to talk. And talk and talk and talk. Most of us around for a while have come to recognise Mandy the 25 year old 42dd hottie who is actually Cyril the 50 year accountant wanking away to his hearts content (I find when the 25 yr old hottie asks me how big a cock I have after asking my name is a dead giveaway). These are the guys who also arrange meetings but don’t show. They are here for the beer. To talk and wank and get off. They see women they chat to the same way they see porn they watch. As objects. For gratification. You wont change them. You just need to try to spot them from a distance and run!
People just need to be a bit more discerning in who they talk to. And approach all new contacts with an open and highly suspicious mind!
I am imagining some poor eejit on his supervalu vouchers taking his three day stay in the hotel. Nice empty sauna. Sitting back thinking about how great life is. Peace, quiet, steam rising gently to cleanse his pores. Then the door opens and one, then two then three then more people start to crowd in...
Whatever fecking happened to the pint of plain down the local pub and handing around the bacon fries to cut the ice?
I agree with all the comments here though its always the guys who do not go on cam and generally have nothing to say that abuse the women on cam. Think of it from their point of view though. You are on cam so by definition loose and available for sex there and then. They have consented to allow themselves to have sex with you, have taken the trouble to whisper you and tell you that, and gasp, you ignore them, or worse still say no. Whats the boy to do? Go back to his mammy? (I suspect some of them do but lets not go there lol) If you read their abusiveness with the foregoing in mind, it all makes sense. All the sadder for it, but makes sense!
God me posting a second post how awful!
Ladies thanks for all the comments. As someone who has more than once sent a whisper comprising of hi how are you I appreciate your understanding.
I know the rules say ask before you whisper but jaysus you need a hard neck and brass balls to say to someone in open chat can i whisper ad then be told no thanks. Much nicer I think to whisper once and if someone dosent come back take that as a no thanks and move on.
There are a minority of "women" in chat for whom outing single guys who politely whisper is a bloodsport, but they belong in the same holding pen as the RUHORNY whispering single guys. In fact, me wonders if you checked the undercarriage of some of these "ladies" what you would find !!!
Well said Offally. Some Guys are their own worst enemies I know and annoy the arse out of lots of people. But hey so can some of the women. When it comes to it people are people and eiter morons or decent regardless of their sex. Problem with lots of the people in swing is that they are far too forgiving of the women and far too hard on the guys. Bit of balance be nice.
Not a bad set of rules Bi-ath but might I suggest it apply to all users of the chatrooms not just the men. The female equivalent of the annoying single male is the female who mistakes all the attention she gets in a chatroom for real affectionas opposed to morons looking for tits out, and acts the prima donna as a result. Maybe I am old fashioned but I kinda work out who is a moron from talking and listening to them rather than because they have tackle between their legs !
I have a celtic tigger story about the place. Friends of mine went with a group skiing there few years back. Hated it. Food awful, accomodation terrible, roads and infrastructure rotten, ppl nasty. But between them they bought six apartments. At 50K each "they couldnt leave them behind". Ah, dem was da days !
Well I had mine done about 5 years ago. I had a condition that meant my foreskin was getting tighter which made sex uncomfortable. Not during it (all the endorphens keep discomfort at bay) but day afterwards wss john wayne time!
Have to say the few weeks after the op were awful and consideing I had told ppl I had a heria op, Iput the cause of hernia ops back for years.
All good now though -0)
