Reply or not??

30 Jan 2010

Just wondering do you reply to mails that dont interest you or just ignore em? Or if you send a mail would you get the hint when you dont get a reply or keep mailing the same person over and over again in the hopes they will reply? And if you got a reply back saying other party wasnt interested would you push for more info?

30 Jan 2010

Hi KK, The general rule of thumb with most is if the person does not interest you don't reply, as sometimes this may open a line of commuinication you do not wish to pursue. as for them getting back asking for a reason to no reply, its none of they're business, and you are entitled to not reply to them,. you owe nothing to no one on here. Then again some choose to keep up a line of contact, the decision rests souly with yourself. Hope that helps.

30 Jan 2010

"Rule of thumb" simply ignore them. . .

Quote by user=kkgirl
Just wondering do you reply to mails that dont interest you or just ignore em?
Or if you send a mail would you get the hint when you dont get a reply or keep mailing the same person over and over again in the hopes they will reply?
And if you got a reply back saying other party wasnt interested would you push for more info?

30 Jan 2010

Id gear more towards ignore but there was a thread here where a bloke said he actually confronted two peeps who didnt reply in a chatroom which kinda got me thinking a little, a dangerous thing for me to do.

30 Jan 2010

always report abusive behaviour to the site moderators , this is after all a site where folks have the right to say no without reprecussions , but sadly as in all walks of life , some folk just cant take no for an answer , these types we refer to as pests , and they soon find out that their type is not wanted on here .

30 Jan 2010

We just ignore them, and if we send a mail and dont get a reply thats fine,,,,we can take the hint lol. If we are told they are not intrested in us, we just put it down to experiance and think what a good time they have missed out on rotflmao

31 Jan 2010

If i ever got any mails lol i would reply even if it was to say i wasn't interested as it's only politeness i think but that's just me biggrin

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31 Jan 2010

I must admit I prefer reply - even if not interested as I don't always trust that technology has actually sent the first mail ??? Strange that and I work in IT but there you go. Plus it doesn't take much to just sy no thanks not interested. However I'm not as experienced on this site as others and certainly would not have the volumn of mails, wanted or unwanted for me to have any real opinion, plus it must make a difference depending on the content of that first initial email! But politeness is politeness as well.

1 Feb 2010

What puzzles me is when you see a very detailed profile, setting out exactly what the person is looking for and you fit the bill precisely, so you send off a chatty email saying hi, why you think you fit the bill etc., and you get silence in return. Now that always puggles me....

1 Feb 2010

Hi KK, I've seen that thread you are talking about and in fact posted on it too. Their point is a very good question but I think the follow up was ill-timed. It is not a bad discussion though. I can see how you would get wierded out by it happening - but I thnk a reply is in order under proper circumstances, ie the person obviously read your profile, and after a reasonable amount of time - a few days or even a week or so. For the genuine person doing the writing it can be frustrating after having first built up the courage to write to a complete stranger and do it as well as they can, to be ignored..... It is a whole game of psychology being human isn't it ;)

2 Feb 2010

Quote by user=kkgirl
Just wondering do you reply to mails that dont interest you or just ignore em?
Or if you send a mail would you get the hint when you dont get a reply or keep mailing the same person over and over again in the hopes they will reply?
And if you got a reply back saying other party wasnt interested would you push for more info?

Hi KK,
This is a very interesting topic and one that has also puzzled me.
I have always held the belief that its rude not to reply to someone, even if they are of no interest to someone.
I see no harm at all in replying to a mail, by thanking them for their interest, but sorry, I have found what I have wanted and leave it at that.
Its all well and fine for people to simply say ignore the mails, but I have also found in the chatrooms, when I genuinely say hi to someone, there is no response. I do realise everyone is on here for their own reasons, yet there is still no excuse for rudeness, and I just wonder, if people actually did reply, or did say hi, then maybe, just maybe, people will start to see that for the most part, the majority of people on here are respectful and genuine.

2 Feb 2010

I have clearly stated in my profile that if I am interested I will reply so I dont think I am being rude by not replying to all ......especially when most of the mails I get are from people who havent actually read my profile in the first place cause if they had they wouldnt be mailing me lol xxxxxxxxxxanny

2 Feb 2010

:2fingers:thank you dora :2fingers: