Okay we have all been chatting about no-shows, but what about those when you or the other person does turn up, and you think OMG there is no sexual spark, but they are keen to hop into bed..
Do you go ahead regardless?
Would you simply explain and leave?
Or would you make up an excuse, perhaps the dog died, ect...lol.
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Sympathy Shags.
Good post virgo!
For me I believe honesty is the best policy. I'm always aware that chatting to someone on cam is a lot different from meeting in the flesh, and I have had experiences where there has been no "spark" - on my part and vice versa. I believe that if you are not honest about it and use the lame excuses - dog ate the cat and whatnot - you're giving a false impression and the other person thinks there's a possibility of a second meet.
I would never shag someone if I wasn't feeling 100% comfortable about.
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:welcome:Hi Virgo , was just reading your post and thought I would reply . Personaly I belive if people agree to meet up then we should go with the belive that its nice to make freinds and if nothing happens or sparks then nothing lost , I would deff not have shag with somebody i dont fancy but would still sit and have a chat and a drink with them , would i tell them there is no spark ?????? i would reserve my opinion and just try and make all parties feel realxed and welcomed , its always nice to be nice !
xxx Fire xxx I got the wrong idea when I saw this thread title...i was kinda hopin someone was offerin sympathy shags.......:violin:
Plain and simple answer..NO...be honest..dont leave the other person thinking that there is a possible cvhance of fun in the future..but if you've met them then surely there was a basis for the meet and you can retain some level of friendship ?
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Nope, I wouldnt did it a few times when younger and felt like a mug afterward. Prevention is better than cure. Like firestorm said go have a meet and see what happens, I dont ever assume I'll end up in bed with anyone I meet, be it first meet or the fifth.
I have a scary variation on that. Years ago long before swing4 was a pup even (before you could get phone pics), I was chatting for ages to a woman from the South East. Eventually met up and she was very negative to me. Said I looked nothing like my pic, very disappointed etc etc. I argued I never sent her a pic but she insisted that I did. I thought we would just chat anyway (as we had chatted for months and I thought had become pals). But no way, after 10 minutes she left me sitting in a hotel in nowhere land.
I put it down to experience but thought it odd. After all even if I wasnt Brad fecking Pitt even if there was no sexual spark we would have chatted?
Weeks later spoke to another woman on the same site, told her about my experience and she said oh ya thats such and such, she does that to every guy she meets, she gets a kick out of it.......
The world of swinging is populated by queer folk sometimes.........
Oh god am nearly ashamed to tell I was chatting to a guy for nearly two months,last summer, not on this site..
He seemed like a great guy, fitted the bill, fun, tall, hairy and intelligent..
We agreed to meet one day, when he arrived he was really well dressed , brought flowers and wine, walked in and winked and called me 'Doll':scared:I freaked this is one of my pet hates, I thought okay will try to delay and make him coffee, the whole time he was winking and using the word 'Doll'.
I nipped to the loo and texted a friend from here
begging him to help me get out of shagging the guy, I just couldn't get past the winks and 'Doll'..
Now when we chatted he told me he was funny about his bottie being touched, it freaked him out, so my friend ( who shall remain anonymous ):giggle:suggested I get him onto a chair give him a BJ and just when he was about to cum, insert a pinkie
and he would freak and leave.
So I did , sat him down, did the teasing required , and wey hey just when he was about to cum I inserted the pinkie, dear god he shot a load for Ireland!!!!!!!!!! I duly ducked and stood up, waiting for the freak out, he gasped , winked and said ' can we go again doll'?
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Feck my friend and his advice:grin::grin:
begging him to help me get out of shagging the guy, I just couldn't get past the winks and 'Doll'..
Now when we chatted he told me he was funny about his bottie being touched, it freaked him out, so my friend ( who shall remain anonymous ):giggle:suggested I get him onto a chair give him a BJ and just when he was about to cum, insert a pinkieand he would freak and leave.
So I did , sat him down, did the teasing required , and wey hey just when he was about to cum I inserted the pinkie, dear god he shot a load for Ireland!!!!!!!!!! I duly ducked and stood up, waiting for the freak out, he gasped , winked and said ' can we go again doll'?:(
Feck my friend and his advice:grin::grin: Virgo if i had you hear i would make you lick my couch clean
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We will be honest and say yes we have done sympathy shags when we started, well we didnt want to hurt ppls feelings and say feck no you look like yoda, so we done our duty lol
But as we have become more seasoned there is not a chance in hell we will give one for the team again or take one for the team either:scared:
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We will be honest and say yes we have done sympathy shags when we started, well we didnt want to hurt ppls feelings and say feck no you look like yoda, so we done our duty lol
But as we have become more seasoned there is not a chance in hell we will give one for the team again or take one for the team either:scared: when I was starting out on my adventures I did on occassion sympathy shag...a memorable one being in Kerry... I had been chatting & texting the lady for ages & her phone voice was so sexy...well I had a vision of what she would be like ... so I flew to Kerry to be met by her at the airport ... not the person I expected at all ...height, size, looks (and yes I know dont judge book by the cover) but what could I do...no flights till the next day ... so into her car & back to her house ...barely in the door & she had me out of my clothes and her mouth around my cock ... well then my penis brain took over... I gave in and enjoyed the ride ... actually the sex turned out to be great, the whole visit was brilliant,we became great friends & still laugh about that 1st meet ...because I wasn't what she expected either but having made me travel all that way she was feeling sorry for me ... so the 1st shag for both of us was sympathy...lol...
Hay all, we would have to say no, def no, has to be something, spark, desire, want,
our policy has always been to meet for a drinks only night to see how we got on with the couple first, and the agreement was always that there was no chance of it turning into a full meet, but to get an idea of the people, and this would help to weed out the no shows, then later we would talk and see if all agree to the real meet.
This served us well, and in the past we have only came across one person that this wasnt acceptable, he wanted it to be sex assured, hence to say that that meet never came up, we didnt make the plans at all, it;s a simple thing, you have to accept everyones wishes before a meet, or you dont know what or who you are meeting,
Great post virgo, x x x
Without sympathy shags I wouldnt get much sex so I'm all for them!! Joking. I have given into them before but they are not always a mistake. My last serious boyfriend resulted from a sympathy shag. We had been friends online for ages and then he came to visit. I didnt fancy him but knew I liked him as a person so I fucked him senseless. Then he became my adoring slave and I began to fancy him and we were together on and off for 2 years.
Now I would have to fancy the guy or girl somewhat before shagging but its not always a mistake to just fuck for the fun of it.
I always meet up for a drink first in a pub whether it's for a date or for a swing meet. If the spark isn't there, I say it straight out. I expect the guy to do the same if he's not into me. No point in wasting his time or mine in sympathy shags. I don't shag anyone who I don't connect with, plain & simple.
Now.. if the spark's there, well.. either I bring him home or arrange another more convenient time.
Sunny
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