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On the other hand, it does really p**s me off when you know an introductory message has been read but the receiver doesn't even bother to acknowledge it! That's just downright fu**ing rude. At least drop a single line back saying thanks for taking the time to write! It doesn't take that long to do and it makes a real difference to the sender, especially if they've genuinely taken a bit of time over their message and their profile!
I posted this response on the let some steam off thread, it might explain why some of us don't answer. My profile says not meeting for now, yet I still get requests. Likewise couples looking for other couples or solo females would probably agree the majority of the mail they get is from solo guys:
it might help to remember that the mail you send is most likely unsolicited, there is no onus to respond. Yes, it might seem rude not to respond but that's the chance you take. Not everyone feels they want to log on to this site to compose emails and some of us have tired of the fact that when you email and say thanks for the email but it's not for me right now it leads to further emails asking why not, how can I change your mind, ah go on , ya will ya will ya will..........
I personally do not answer mail. I log in to chat and perform my mod duties. I won't apologise for not responding, that's my choice. I understand that it seems rude but it's a choice I have made in order to protect my enjoyment of the site. To give an idea as to why, I'd say that since joining the site I have received over 7,000 emails (a conservative estimate). If I had answered every single one I'd have tired fairly quickly of the whole thing.
Fair points Stig, as someone who enjoys the forums and loves contributing to the posts that catch my interest........ not as a mod, can I just say I am sooooooo tired of the negativity. I am in no way detracting from any negative experience that any other member has had nor am I invalidating any dispute. But enough is enough as far as I am concerned.
Ill feeling is contagious and effects the greater demographic eventually, not just those integral to the issue. I can honestly say that the general malcontent has left me with no interest in even reading the forums the last few days. My personal opinion is that the new wave of 'bright and breezey' threads have been posted to counter-act this.
Can we move forward, can we accept that any grievances were at least heard if not resolved and take on board that there is a governing body (Admin) available to EVERYONE when it is felt that resolution is not being reached at ground level.
Now I am off to read the happy threads, dying to see what Kitty comes up with next!!!!!!
Ill feeling is contagious and effects the greater demographic eventually, not just those integral to the issue. I can honestly say that the general malcontent has left me with no interest in even reading the forums the last few days. My personal opinion is that the new wave of 'bright and breezey' threads have been posted to counter-act this.
Can we move forward, can we accept that any grievances were at least heard if not resolved and take on board that there is a governing body (Admin) available to EVERYONE when it is felt that resolution is not being reached at ground level.
Now I am off to read the happy threads, dying to see what Kitty comes up with next!!!!!!
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Im kind of like the love child of dawn french and jonny vegas...throw in some rottwieler dna and you gots me! me is well good looking like
Actually was just thinking of you the other night, someone on T.V. reminded me of you!!! Fooked if I can remember who, I'll let you know if it comes to me ..........
lol KK i editted my text before I saw your response. Absolutely no offence can be taken from your post because it was coherent and logical. As I said, it's a good post to open a valid discussion. I'm sure that some relevant points will be raised but remember if it dissolves into a baser argument nothing constructive can come of it and those who would wish to be involved in this discussion will just tune out.
Usually I find threads are locked at the OP's request when it degenerates into an unpleasant mess, I know this was the case on one I locked earlier this week. I know this is not the one you are referring to as there was no reference to mods. All I can say is that if you feel a thread has unjustifiably been locked go to the mod who locked it and ask. My own personal instinct is that I need to act as a mod and either mediate on a thread or even lock it if I feel that one particular person is being discussed. I completely agree that the forums are a fantastic media for open discussion and censorship is not an activity indulged in here. However, like an iceberg, what is openly visible is simply the tip of the issue.
KK without seeming defensive I agree it might seem that when a mod is attacked we all close ranks but hun I assure you we take a lot of flack in silence. We are often unable to respond in the way we would if we returned to our regular member state, sometimes the instinct is to go 'yeah but hang on what about when you.....' 'yeah but such and such did this......' but we can't. I'm not strumming the sympathy violin here but the other mods have my support, they do not deserve some of what they endure and for god's sake if there is a problem with any mod bring it to admin directly. It's an adult site, if you have a valid complaint and can provide examples this will be dealt with. Do not make random, vague statements. Have the courage to direct your issue to the person in question or leave it to Admin to direct it.I'm not being argumentative with you KK, you know I loves ya hun, but your post has provided an avenue for discussion.
KK without seeming defensive I agree it might seem that when a mod is attacked we all close ranks but hun I assure you we take a lot of flack in silence. We are often unable to respond in the way we would if we returned to our regular member state, sometimes the instinct is to go 'yeah but hang on what about when you.....' 'yeah but such and such did this......' but we can't. I'm not strumming the sympathy violin here but the other mods have my support, they do not deserve some of what they endure and for god's sake if there is a problem with any mod bring it to admin directly. It's an adult site, if you have a valid complaint and can provide examples this will be dealt with. Do not make random, vague statements. Have the courage to direct your issue to the person in question or leave it to Admin to direct it.I'm not being argumentative with you KK, you know I loves ya hun, but your post has provided an avenue for discussion.
Well I know my cream egg was a famous one, gifted to me by a couple who had strategically and anatomically inserted it...... don't know why everyone else got theirs....... Unfortunately I sold the car I had stowed it in with the egg still in situ, I sincerely hope the new owner did not eat it in a normal fashion. That's not what it was intended for!
My first meet 'n' greet was fantastic. Great venue, great music, great people. It was held over a weekend and it took me about 4 days to recover. It was a whirlwind of laughs, giggles, introductions and flirting.
All I can say is it's like being in the best nightclub ever, where everyone mingles, everyone's happy and there's no drama. Go and enjoy, but remember they are addictive!
All I can say is it's like being in the best nightclub ever, where everyone mingles, everyone's happy and there's no drama. Go and enjoy, but remember they are addictive!
The people organising the party will be best at advising on what to bring, wear etc. My own experience is that you dress as for a night out, with the sexy stuff to change into later. Don't worry about making an impression or mixing well, it usually starts just like a social gathering and everyone is so happy to be there and welcoming that you might even forget for a while what you are there for.. as I said a quick mail to the organisers will soon answer all your questions.
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thanks 4 the advice edan i.l get it sorted. it not that i cant hook up but wen u do post an add 9 times out of ten u dont get a reply were as if a female posted lukin 4 a guy they wud get plenty of reply.s. just taught id post it as it siad 2 me a few times...thanks
I think you might find that most single fems here do not respond to ads placed on 'letsmeetup' I know I never have. It's just not the way it works in general and if that's the avenue you are hoping to use it probably won't prove too effective. Why would a single fem need to go looking for an ad when there are plenty of lovely talkative men to be found in the chat room. The groundwork needs to be put in and a connection formed, this is usually through chat. The trend would seem to dictate that those that persevere, who can openly demonstrate their personality and demeanour on chat get further here. Those who hold back, who post occassional meet requests on the forums, who come into chat and post only comments along the lines of 'male in west seeks female for meet' do not thrive. When was the last time you were in a nightclub, went up to a woman and said 'do you wanna go have sex'and actually got somewhere........... Mark; good luck, formulate an approach that best suits you and shows you in your best light and if you really want to enjoy the perks of the site remember that it's a two way street ya get what ya give. Be impersonal and you will get an impersonal response.... (lack of response is highly impersonal).
Quote by user=Titan79When it comes to Kevin Wilspon Xmas songs, 'Hey Santa clause you C**t' is my personal Fave.;)
The novelty Christmas song............. e.g. Grandma got run over by a reindeer. Current favourite is Kevin Wilson's 'ho ho f**king ho'! Go find it folks.
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LMFAO here, that silhouette in the window at the end......... knew santa was dodgy.
