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Over 90 days ago
Female, 48
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Quote by vanity
, I JOINED IN ON CHAT ON MAIN SCREEN LATELY JUST TO MAKE CONVERSATION AND WAS TOLD BUTT OUT WHO ASKED FOR YOUR OPIONION, THINK PEOPLE SHOULD STOP JUDGING OTHERS TILL THEY REALLY GET TO KNOW THEM SO MANY PEOPLE HAVE LEFT BECAUSE THEY DONT FEEL THERE IS FUN IN THE SITE ANYMORE IF YOUR NOT PART OF THE CLICK, AS LONG AS WE MAKE OUR OWN FUN IM HAPPY BUT IT IS NICE TO BE INCLUDED NOW AND AGAIN RANT OVER
If anyone feels their conversation is reserved for certain other chatters then they need to take it off main chat. Move to a private room or conduct it in whispers, the OPEN chat-room is there for all to use and this butt out attitude will be reviewed if reported, how the hell can we encourage new members to stay and enhance the site when they have to fear the most public of forums we have.
Quote by garble
l I'm gonna say in closing this post is that at some point, a high proportion of us females will be mothers to sons. Their time to go out in the world will come ....... perhaps we should try to treat the men here like we would hope our sons would be treated,,,,,,,,, even though they can sometimes be eejits!
Is that a bit of a matriarchic view though? Would it not be better to treat people based on the merits and shortcomings of their characters.
Hmmmmmmmmm I prefer yummy mummy to matriarch thank you! The absolute horror I have experienced at the thought of mothering anyone here is immeasurable, I had merely wanted to create an emotion or sentiment that our female members might find easier to reconcile to themselves. Fostering this attitude would then allow an atmosphere wherein each individual male could then display his own personal merits or shortcomings. While I'm sure that the mother reference prompted the 'matriarch' classification, I could equally have used the 'do onto others as you would have done onto you' reference.
Quote by Kitten28
Totally Agree.... Always one for chat but lately just having been feeling it!
At the same time new members should always feel welcome in chat but the atmosphere has Definitly changed
Same as that, I had thought it was just coming from me and a change in my circumstances. Worrying if it's a common sentiment
Mark hun my responses are just discussions on a topic, not a personal argument, if so it would not be carried out on a public forum. No need for a peace pipe and I gave up smoking - AGAIN - in January. These topics are ways for us to put forward our points of view and our reasons for some behaviours that we might not get the chance to discuss otherwise.... I agree templates are highly impersonal, but you could put that on your template.... 'You interest me, would you like to talk, my name is mark and I ............' Now you mailed me, and I did respond; you have to agree that your presence on the forums has made you known to me, I already had an impression formed. Like it or not had I not been previously aware of you and you mailed me, it would have gone unanswered. And much like the chicken and the egg, which came first; did some people have 'bad manners' (as someone else puts it) when they joined the site, or have these 'bad manners' developed as a result of experiences on the site. For the record, I used to answer ALL mail. As for door-step sales people, you can spot them a mile away!Like the canvassing politicians they only call when you're on the loo or have the first forkfull of dinner in your mouth.
Quote by markgudlick
Ok ladies we understand now....but how many girls have sent a first message to a guy and did,nt get a responce....not bloody many......its just a lot harder for guys as not as many girls out there...I personally send a (hi I'm mark etc) ,I'm not rude nor do I ask for meets for nsa fun etc. I do it to mainly say hi, get to know girls,have a laugh, bit of banter and don't expect sex at all. Just trying to get to know people and be friendly that's all.......but hey don't get me wrong if its the right ladie and the banter is going the right way of course ill ask if she,d like to go for a drink or coffee etc.
Never the less you did say that those of us who don't respond are rude....... perhaps it is rude to make blanket statements. Having spoken with you Mark I am positive you didnt intend to cause offence but you choose to send your mail without invitation, you just have to take the chance that it might not be responded to ,,,,,,, it's a fact. To avoid feeling you have wasted your time composing a personalised contact email you could consider making a template email, detailing what you want to display about you and asking the person to respond if interested, no response taken as no interest. From that point forward you can give that person individual emails.
OH AND FOR THE RECORD: I don't open the door to door-to-door sales people..... How rude is that!
Quote by kkgirl
ha I recently did a little experment and answered every mail I got...I wont be doing it again. It opened up a line of communication I did not want and apparantly a polite no thank you is not a good enough answer for some ppl. So while some mite think not answering mails is rude I dont actually care.
I'm tired saying this.......... People need to understand if they send unsolicited mail the recipient is under no obligation to respond. Now if I put up a post saying 'I want people to mail me and do so repeatedly' yes then by rights I should respond. But if I said that most likely I'd not receive any mail........
Quote by Eden
aaaaaaah snap xx and kitten!
The incorrect spelling of definitely grates on my nerves - so many people spell it with an 'a' as in definately...drives me crazy. No a in definitely people!!!. Grammatical lesson for the day free of charge, how about that?:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Surely that would be a spelling and not a grammatical lesson......... hee hee hee hee! As far as grammar goes, it hurts my teeth when I hear people say 'I done it'; no you 'did it' or you 'have done it'. Another one is 'I seen'. No you 'saw' or you 'have seen'.
