Sorry Slightly, i didn't mean to offend. I personally have no problem with people who cam, or anything else, here. I have tried it a couple of times too, since i joined and i enjoyed it. I was trying to convey some of the perceptions, as i understood them, of other people who had posted on this thread. i was talking about the whisperers, which do seem to get some peoples backs up... it was some of those people that i referred to as the get 'em off brigade..the ones who pop up as soon as you enter a chatroom and go straight into whisper with the usual 'do you want to see my...whatever?' routine. they were the ones who i thought might benefit from a place of their own instead of annoying the rest of the population... Again, i dont mind them, they can whisper away til they give up, and i dont think any the worse of them (as you would see i said in an earlier thread) as i very much have a live and let live attitude. So, my apologies, for offending you but i do think you have picked me up wrong.
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love2watchU
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 57
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its really interesting how much this polarizes people. Maybe the answer would be two main chatrooms. One for the 'get'emoff' brigade to be as crass as they like in and one for the rest of the population who do really just want to chat. Then the conduct code could be tightened up in the social one. Remove the whisper facility (if thats possible) in it, too. Bobs your uncle and Fanny's your aunt, happy days!
p.s. i'm a complete technophobe and don't actually know if any of that would be possible but its just a thought 
Thanks Midnight, that kind of helps. I guess its that thing im trying to find my feet with. The fantasies that brought me here are anonymous and random in nature, so i kind of have sympathy with the 'route one' mentality of some of the people who dont feel the need to build up that rapport you mention. I've never done anything to act on them before so ive never experienced any NSA encounter. I have been chatting with a few regulars since i joined and i certainly see the merit in it from a safety point of view but in a strange way, it detracts from the fantasy. I think i'm just a bit odd (!!!) but i can see the attraction in something more spontaneous. Its all new to me and its all just part of the experience, i guess, which is why i dont feel so negatively about the unsolicited advances. Give it time though and maybe i'l start feeling like everyone else lol
Hi, hope its okay but there are a few points, as a complete novice to chatrooms...and to swinging...that come to mind after reading these posts.
When i venture into the chatrooms i find its not what the whisperers say that puts me off, its just that it is distracting and makes following the main chat more difficult.
I also understand why some people would find some of those comments/requests offensive but I guess we are all looking for something different from our real lives so it follows that there is going to be a proportion of members who ARE looking for that 'quick fix' as someone said earlier. Live and let live. If it's not what I want, i can and will just say no thanks.
I know much of it is blatant trawling by these whisperers on the off chance of getting lucky, with no thought for who i am or what i want, but i dont feel offended. For me anyway, i have to admit that bad offers are better than no offers at all.
Also, the 'no strings attached' philosophy i see mentioned on site alot is something i'm having difficulty fathoming and it does add to my confusion. I understand why swinging would have to be NSA but it feels at odds with the whole preamble of building friendships before taking the next step into something physical, something that i hear alot of the members saying they want from prospective chatters. That doesn't sound very NSA to me. The one thing i dont want to do is inadvertantly offend people on this site but, as a new venturer, i don't know or understand what many of the rules are yet and its kinda hard to know how best to engage.
There's no point to my points, i just wanted to share them!
