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Curious why the bump???
Have noticed a sharp increase in the number of newbies lately... which may/may not correlate with the number of stupid questions/comments I'm getting in whispers (sigh)
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curiousandcurvy
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 46
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[b:ccdaf8adaa]Swing phone[/b:ccdaf8adaa]
Your second mobile phone, the number of which you give out to people from here. Said phone should be cheap as possible in case you unwittingly come into contact with a serial texter or prank calling pest, in which case you can dispose of said swing phone and replace with another.
So, as my fellow girls (ladies, all the ladies, louder now, help me out!) can attest cock photos are not always helpful, the main problem being one of perspective i.e. that there usually isn't any!
So rather than request that all guys retake their cock photos next to a common object (sky remote seems to be a disturbingly unhygienic trend) I thought it might assist us all if you could go investigate this site and report back:
- don't worry no real cocks have been harmed in the making of this site...
:grin:
So rather than request that all guys retake their cock photos next to a common object (sky remote seems to be a disturbingly unhygienic trend) I thought it might assist us all if you could go investigate this site and report back:
- don't worry no real cocks have been harmed in the making of this site...
:grin:
Bump
Just saw two guys on cam, no condoms
(also his profile had him as straight, but that's not the point here..)
I am really ashamed to say I've had made bad decisions before :sad: - but I just thank my lucky stars that I've come out unscathed (bar a diminished bank balance... getting tested is expensive!). I absolutely did not deserve it, given the way I disregarded myself and my own personal safety.
Have DEFINITELY seen the light, and now I can't understand why anyone would do it, ask for it, or advocate it.
Just saw two guys on cam, no condoms
(also his profile had him as straight, but that's not the point here..)I am really ashamed to say I've had made bad decisions before :sad: - but I just thank my lucky stars that I've come out unscathed (bar a diminished bank balance... getting tested is expensive!). I absolutely did not deserve it, given the way I disregarded myself and my own personal safety.
Have DEFINITELY seen the light, and now I can't understand why anyone would do it, ask for it, or advocate it.
On the gender divide - in my experience guys have been the ones pushing to blur the lines beyond 'just sex'...
Examples include them saying things like "I've never felt this way about anyone before" (I found out later he tells everyone that) or "Sometimes I go out of my way to drive past your house even when I know you're not home because it makes me smile" (backs slowly away), to guys who start to want to hang out in a non-meet context i.e. get a drink/go to a play/go for brunch/see a band together...
My running joke is why is it so hard to find someone into no strings attached? 
My theory is that it's about intensity - one of the things I was surprised to learn when I first joined here, was that even though the sex was amazing, it didn't quite have the same feel of being with just one other person who you're totally into. I guess once you know what that's like you miss it - and with guys like the above you try and 'fake' it.
Also with the way things work here - there's often a whole lot of chatting going on prior to a meet (I'd estimate a lead time of a month on average but sometimes way more!) - so I don't see how you could not have some kind of emotions going on by the time you meet up... Unless there are guys who say the same thing to every girl/run the same game and don't care about anyone else but themselves - but that's a whole other rant altogether! 
My theory is that it's about intensity - one of the things I was surprised to learn when I first joined here, was that even though the sex was amazing, it didn't quite have the same feel of being with just one other person who you're totally into. I guess once you know what that's like you miss it - and with guys like the above you try and 'fake' it.
Also with the way things work here - there's often a whole lot of chatting going on prior to a meet (I'd estimate a lead time of a month on average but sometimes way more!) - so I don't see how you could not have some kind of emotions going on by the time you meet up... Unless there are guys who say the same thing to every girl/run the same game and don't care about anyone else but themselves - but that's a whole other rant altogether! Quote by roxyxxx
hmmmm if I were the owner of S4I
2.) Would love an instant messaging system that meant you could chat to friends without logging into chat room.
This actually exists on the Australian version of this site, but for some reason it's really annoying to use - we'd always just end up going over to normal chat.
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In an ideal world I would like a personal note facility, where you could tag a virtual 'post-it' note to a profile. This note would be visible only to yourself but would be invaluable to a prolific chatter like myself for keeping up. You could keep information on it that you feel you want to log e.g. Lovely couple - keep an eye out for them at the meet 'n greet. I'm afraid at my busier chat periods here I do tend to mix up user names or information that they've told me.
+1000
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1. I'd like a 'complete' block button that would block out members from viewing my chat and me viewing theirs, from viewing cams and vice versa. In fact, when I click 'block' on a certain member they can't see me at all throughout the site and vice versa!
+1001 :lol:
It's such a pain when you block someone in chat, and then you can't manually block them from sending you mails/gallery invites - you HAVE to wait for them to mail you first as there's no 'add user' facility for the ignore list.
And then even if you block them from mails/chat they can still friend request you to high heaven...
Also I've had some really abusive whispers from people who are then all smiles and kisses in main chat - it really deters me from using it.I'm in two minds about the forum thing - as it definitely played a part in why I joined this site as opposed to others, as I could see there were lots of active members. Maybe a good compromise would be to have the thread list for each forum section public, but that you could only click in and read the details if you're an actual member.
Few suggestions:
Ability to approve comments/verifications
I know you can delete comments - but the trail of them in activity feeds and stuff still remains. Also I've been in the situation where someone has member verified me and I've never even spoken to them in my life, but I can't get rid of it
Authorise whispers in tabs
I've tried to use the authorise whispers feature, but it's nearly impossible if I'm already in one or two whispers as main chat moves so fast. Would be much easier if every authorisation popped up in a new tab. Also friends should be automatically authorised (if they're not already).
Add block/ignore to friend requests
So as I mentioned above, at the moment you can remove a friend request - but even after you do this they can keep sending you as many requests as they like...
Change default for newly uploaded photos to private
Thankfully this hasn't happened to me - but I've known more than one person who has accidentally put private pics public... and looking at the Gallery there seems to be an awful lot of newbies who aren't aware of this...
Tiny you're gas!
A word of advice - yes there's definitely 'starter' vs 'experienced' clamps, I'd stay away from the clover clamps (not sure if I can link but you can google it). I can take them now, but it took a little while! (I found being distracted helps )
Also not sure if I can mention it here but I got my aforementioned clover clamps online through a site with lots of good user reviews (they really help!) and knowing i could return them for any reason... If you want any more info you know where to find me! Quote by Neoinin
I could write out why I think this in my own words but its a lazy (Easter) Sunday morning so going to direct y'all here instead!
That article and the first two comments really hit the nail on the head.
For me it's not really about whether she is pretty or not, far more terrifying is her belief that every single thing, good or bad, that happens to her is on the basis of her looks. A lot has been said elsewhere around the web about how delusional this is, but I actually think it's more lazy than anything...
If something bad happens: not getting promoted, losing a friendship etc. she immediately sweeps it into the 'Because of my looks' box, and that's it dealt with, instead of doing the proper soul-searching and self-reflection that comes with finding yourself in the same 'bad' situations over and over again. Put simply, it's just easier to blame everything on her looks rather than put the hard work into thinking critically about what she might need to change.
All I see when I read that article is someone who is emotionally stuck as a teenager - and I feel like that's more cause for pity rather than vitriole.
Oz have their own version of this site, is http://swingersheaven.com.au/ and it's totally free to join AND message and chat.
Loads and loads of open parties/events/sauna nights in Melbourne too, but most (like always) are couples/females only. Check out Saints and Sinners ball
Just like here, there's no easy way for single guys to get into the swing of things (boom tish), but you will find that people are much more relaxed/open - the verifications etc. don't mean as much there.
good luck!
Loads and loads of open parties/events/sauna nights in Melbourne too, but most (like always) are couples/females only. Check out Saints and Sinners ball
Just like here, there's no easy way for single guys to get into the swing of things (boom tish), but you will find that people are much more relaxed/open - the verifications etc. don't mean as much there.
good luck!
