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cherry__lips
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 52
0 km · Dublin
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who you chose to play with is totally a personal taste - whether it's in regard to age, size, gender or whatever.
it's a different story when people are planning parties and excluding on the basis of such categories. i've seen one group on the scene who limits on the basis of size and age. and what's gas is that now that he's hit 40 he's had to change the goal posts a bit. there's also another couple who throws parties and explicity states only people of a certain age and size need apply.
who are they to tell other party members what type of people they should be attracted to or play with.
as far as i'm concerned, if you're having a proper party it's absolutely ridiculous and offensive to limit on the basis of what you the organiser finds attractive.
I really am surprised that men post these ads looking for swing partners actually expecting to be successful. I mean, what woman is going to say hey ya I don't know you but I'm willing to fuck you, take you to parties and fuck you in front of people, or meet couples with you even though you're a stranger.
Singles getting together happens more naturally than that. If you meet someone and continue to meet them on a regular basis it's only then that you'd likely consider swinging together as a couple.
Many parties and couples do not want people attending who are not actually together.
I think it would be naive to believe that there AREN'T men out there who think like the OP's email friend suggests.
There are all kinds of negative stereotypes associated with bigger women (I am also a big girl so talking from experience here). First of all, a lot of men (most of them very immature) think that big women have trouble getting laid so they will be less picky. Therefore, many single men on here think they are their best chances of getting laid.
It's true in nightclubs as well. There's actually a name for it but I can't recall it now. At the end of the night, the guy can't get 'regular hole' he goes for the fat chick (that's the mentality). It is difficult to spot these people....though Ive developed a few tricks over time.
As for using the term BBW, there are men AND couples on here who are quite anti-big women. I use the term as a way to say 'feck off and don't contact me shallow people', so as someone else mentioned, as a form of protection against these twats.
OP your email buddy is a bit of a dick for applauding you for telling him your size! You should only be doing that for you and not for their benefit.
To me you are either curious/attracted/interested fantasise about the same sex or you don't and bisexuality fits in all cases.
There are different degrees of bisexuality - to call yourself a bisexual doesn't even mean you've experienced it. It doesn't mean you want to curl up on the couch with someone of the same sex. It doesn't mean everytime you have sex you want it to be with someone of the same sex. Of course, it can mean all of these things as well.
Sexualities are fluid - not to be compartmentalised. One person's bisexuality might be different to yours.
And to say 'I only play with the woman if it feels right or i'm attracted to her' doesn't make sense to me...aren't those the criteria we use to determine who we will have sex with regardless of their gender?
Personally, if someone has bicurious on their profile I'm not interested. I have visions of them lying back and me doing all the work. No thanks! haha.
fab-bitch's post has been deleted so mine no longer makes sense.
in response to you firestorm, i think i've explained my position re: the phone number quite clearly. i asked for pics of course. you should be able to email them or have them in a private gallery on here. you should not need my phone number to show me pics of your and your partner.
think about it - why would i give my number to someone i've only had one email from?
and in terms of reading your advert - i did! and i read the profile! that's why i responded and said that my play partner and i might be interested. so i'm not sure what you're getting at there.
Hi Fab-bitch. Thanks for your post and going out on a limb to clear this mess up.
I replied to the Advert because I initially thought it was genuine. It was his email response that made me question it. He basically only referred to himself and then asked me for my mobile number. As I said before, I don't give out my number to all and asundry. I learned that lesson the hard way.
My profile did initially have in there that I do have a male play partner but because we're not a couple I decided to remove it from my profile. I also had in there, if you recall, that I prefer to play alone.
Another reason I removed it is because, based on my experience as a single bi fem, there are also other couples on here pretending to be single bi fems and once you click and decide to meet all of a sudden there's a boyfriend in the picture. I was afraid that by mentioning my occassional play partner that people would think I was actually in a relationship...which I'm not!
This actually happened to me on another site - I met up with another bi fem and the idea was just to have girlie fun one on one. We chatted on the phone and met up in the pub. An hour into it her husband showed up!!
I've had husbands contact me behind their wife's back. Boyfriends pretending to have split from their partners and of course the fake couples. Can you blame me for being suspicious under the circumstances (ie. requesting my number just to swap pics)?
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this site is set up for swingers per say.. but it needs others too .. if you want a total couple swingers site set it up.. for now ,, its offering any alternative than straight .. and that is why it is so popular plus the people who are making this site sucessful are female...so .... nothing broke, nothing to fix
well dora call the site something else then. you listed all the things this site was and left off the swinging. do you not see the problem with that?
I was the female that responded to HIS advert! It's clear to me even from his thread here that he is a single male posing as a couple.
What happened was I said I was interested and suggested we chat and swap pics. He said I had to send him my mobile number as he had no pics on here.
Sorry but if you come onto a swinger site without pics then there's something up with that. You should not expect that I'm going to give out my mobile number to everyone!
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this thread is getting interesting now... we are discussing the in's n out's of a swing site... excellent... i think it is all of those things mentioned...plus its a great alternative to television, or going to the pub, plus you get to meet real people who are in common with you either by meet n greet or single meets...not to mind the great fun we have in chatrooms and lately at the quiz...
ahm what about the swinging???
Yes t-bags I'm actually starting to agree with you - this is a social networking site primarily and perhaps it should change its title.
For those of you interested, there are other sites and one in particular which is a 'true' swingers site - in that it's not primarily used for social networking but for hookups. It has a great validation system as well.
Having said that, if you're a single male you're still going to find it tough. Afterall, swinging is about swapping and 'true' swinging is between couples ..though us single bi fems are thankfully included as well. Single males need to realise they have to be exceptional in order to be considered and therefore regular thoughtless emails are pointless.
Tbags I do disagree with you on not responding to emails. Afterall, this is the internet and you are technically here to get hookups with people on the internet. And how does one communicate? Well, email of course.
My playmate and I are looking for an attractive, well-endowed bi male to join us on Thursday Feb 19th.
You must be no younger than 25 and no older than 40. You must be shaved or trimmed. You must be either a top of versatile. Must be in reasonable shape as well with own hair and teeth.
My partner is letting me decide who gets to fuck him! Be warned, I am picky!.
If interested, drop me a line with pics.
You must be no younger than 25 and no older than 40. You must be shaved or trimmed. You must be either a top of versatile. Must be in reasonable shape as well with own hair and teeth.
My partner is letting me decide who gets to fuck him! Be warned, I am picky!.
If interested, drop me a line with pics.
