hi all , well i just wanted to share a story with u all about trust and advertising ! i put up an ad for a bi cple wanted, i or should i say we ! got one reply , from a female that has a play partner ! thats ok so i replyed back and told her the situation that i was likewise with a bi female , she asked me to send her pics and i said ok but i needed a num, as i was going to send her pics of myself and the female i play with , and she then replyed sorry i dont give it to single guys ????????? . so now ! i was just wonderin how comes no matter how genuine i am, that people are just meant to trust females , or is it a matter of fact that all males cant be trusted ? it drives me mad to think that we all get tarred with the same brush ! i will never question wether it pays to be honest as i always have and always will be honest !she was the one that lost out at the end of the day ,let me just say , we are only here for a short time , so lets make it a good time ! and thank you to all the people who have taken the time to read and reply to this , coz its taken me bloody ages to type it with my one finger typing ! lol . be good all and have fun xxxx firestorm xxx
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Well firestorm im really sorry to hear that u have gone thru this.
As a female, yes, we do go thru some crap but i dont see where this "female" was going as the only way for u to get the pics to her was by fone
Have u ever stopped to consider that it wasnt a female at all?????.............now im not saying that all females are 100% genuine and that it couldnt possibly be a female that done this................but it just doesnt make sense any other way.
Anyway, hopefully it hasnt turned u off as most of us are genuine
lou xxxx
Have u ever stopped to consider that it wasnt a female at all?????.............now im not saying that all females are 100% genuine and that it couldnt possibly be a female that done this................but it just doesnt make sense any other way.
Anyway, hopefully it hasnt turned u off as most of us are genuine
lou xxxx FIRE first off learn to fookin touch type!!! :evil2:
ok that said i do agree with wot lou and sarah have said above.. most of us gals are very genuine but some guys dont understand that it takes time to build up trust and for d most part d girlies aint just gonna chat ya today n jump in to bed with ya in d morning! :huh: I can also see where that girl was coming from as im very careful who i give my number to(got caught out once but never again!) but having chatted to u extensively and doing d coffee meet thingy i hafta say i think u are a great guy, good laugh and a pleasure to be around( now dont get a swelled fookin head ya hear!!):giggle: And shur wot more can i say only keep going as u are and u will do fine... just my thoughts for wot they are worth!! :haha: 
Warming the Bed
Well if you sent the mail using the profile you have now...Then to be honest i can't really blame them. Just because you say your genuine, doesn't mean you are. Have heard it a thousand times from single guys that they have a bi-female mate etc. Only for them to turn out to be messers. I'm not saying you are one of these, but you have to look at it from their point of view. Perhaps they gave their number out to a "Couple/BiFem" before and it turned out to be a single male who then keeps texting/phoning all the time. It's happened to us.
Unfortunately for males, there are a lot of messers that ruin it for the rest of them. So as to save ourselves the hassle, we don't respond to single male profiles claiming their a couple. My advice would be to change your profile to a couple profile, or set up a new profile.
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MrH
I was the female that responded to HIS advert! It's clear to me even from his thread here that he is a single male posing as a couple.
What happened was I said I was interested and suggested we chat and swap pics. He said I had to send him my mobile number as he had no pics on here.
Sorry but if you come onto a swinger site without pics then there's something up with that. You should not expect that I'm going to give out my mobile number to everyone!
fair play to cherry lips for admitting it was her and i would have done exactly the same. I am not tarrin everyone with the same brush but the majority of the single guys do think that they only have to whisper 'ur hot' and they get a shag. I have also been stung with the single guy pretending to be a couple scenario but it only had to happen once and now i am quite careful about giving out numbers etc.. I would actually love to name the so called couples on this site that are sad single guys - its fustrating! we are all here on site for same thing but please be upfront about what you want and you never know you might actually get it!
strange situation to find yourself in, we've been on the scene for a few years now, and just about witnessed most, but def still learning new ways that people are using to get around thing, known a few single guys (not single, but swinging solo) that have since met up with a fook buddy and with this they seem to now feel that people are obliged to meet them now they are a 'genuine' cpl, believe us when we say this, its a lot more difficult to meet fook buddies than it is to meet singles or married cpls, hard enough one making plans to meet let alone meeting two singles in one night (as thats what it is if you think about it long enough).
the scene is a pretty small one if your realistic enough, the names may change, but the same genuine people keep coming round and round, they get lucky occasionally and before you know it, they hook up with other singles and hey presto, now we have another cpl, but if you didn't get lucky as a single and you canvass again to meet strangers that you've already sent mail to, do you really expect them to change their opinions?
the simple truth is, we all have good memories,and in this day and age, no one thats serious about this scene is gonna put up with the "sorry i havn't got a cam" (ffs they cost about 15 euro in Tescos, cheaper than a round of drinks for four at a dublin pub), this day and age get a cam, who wants to be messed around when theres enough genuine people on the scene to look after each other 
you never get a second chance to make a first impression :)
you never get a second chance to make a first impression :) 
Orgasminator
:P we did have a laugh at this thread now we dont do the picture thingy never have done in 12 yrs;but we would not expect anyone to give us a phone number until it was proven thro the use off cam that ladies were actually involved , nowhere in "firestorms" ad is a female mentioned as his "playmate "in our opinion "firestorms" ad is from someone who is looking to play away .and he appears to be pissed off that cherrylips has been very careful as everyone should be :borg: its a dangerous world out there
Hi Fab-bitch. Thanks for your post and going out on a limb to clear this mess up.
I replied to the Advert because I initially thought it was genuine. It was his email response that made me question it. He basically only referred to himself and then asked me for my mobile number. As I said before, I don't give out my number to all and asundry. I learned that lesson the hard way.
My profile did initially have in there that I do have a male play partner but because we're not a couple I decided to remove it from my profile. I also had in there, if you recall, that I prefer to play alone.
Another reason I removed it is because, based on my experience as a single bi fem, there are also other couples on here pretending to be single bi fems and once you click and decide to meet all of a sudden there's a boyfriend in the picture. I was afraid that by mentioning my occassional play partner that people would think I was actually in a relationship...which I'm not!
This actually happened to me on another site - I met up with another bi fem and the idea was just to have girlie fun one on one. We chatted on the phone and met up in the pub. An hour into it her husband showed up!!
I've had husbands contact me behind their wife's back. Boyfriends pretending to have split from their partners and of course the fake couples. Can you blame me for being suspicious under the circumstances (ie. requesting my number just to swap pics)?
hi all again ! i would just like to clear up the fact that cherrylips has spoke to female that i refered to as my play partner and has confirmed that i am genuine and that the ad was genuine that i put in was infact genuine !!!!!! and as you can see by all the replys no such thing was said on here ! no hurt felt and no harm done !
that said i still think that this thread is still worthy of a thought , while all of us have to be aware of peoples privacy and the fact that there is some messers out there , there is also some genuine males , we are not all stalkers and messers ! im sure if any female on this site was asked they would say i have never whisperd anybody without permission ! i have never been rude to anybody , and hopefully never upset anybody ! i know that doesnt make me stand out as being genuine but i do hope it leads the way in thinking that maybe im not a messer !
also cherrylips i would just like to say sorry for any confusion in me asking for your number to send a pic but i was just genuinely askin it for to send you what you asked for ! once last thing ! if somebody reads an add is it taken for granted to think that the person also reads the profile of the advatiser before replying to see if they are compatible ????? and also how could i send pics without anywhere to send them to ?
i just want to thank u all those who read and took the time to reply to this as for me it was a a learning experiance once again ! lol . oh thank you to my playmate for clearing the situation for me xx thanks hun xxx
that said i still think that this thread is still worthy of a thought , while all of us have to be aware of peoples privacy and the fact that there is some messers out there , there is also some genuine males , we are not all stalkers and messers ! im sure if any female on this site was asked they would say i have never whisperd anybody without permission ! i have never been rude to anybody , and hopefully never upset anybody ! i know that doesnt make me stand out as being genuine but i do hope it leads the way in thinking that maybe im not a messer !
also cherrylips i would just like to say sorry for any confusion in me asking for your number to send a pic but i was just genuinely askin it for to send you what you asked for ! once last thing ! if somebody reads an add is it taken for granted to think that the person also reads the profile of the advatiser before replying to see if they are compatible ????? and also how could i send pics without anywhere to send them to ?
i just want to thank u all those who read and took the time to reply to this as for me it was a a learning experiance once again ! lol . oh thank you to my playmate for clearing the situation for me xx thanks hun xxx
fab-bitch's post has been deleted so mine no longer makes sense.
in response to you firestorm, i think i've explained my position re: the phone number quite clearly. i asked for pics of course. you should be able to email them or have them in a private gallery on here. you should not need my phone number to show me pics of your and your partner.
think about it - why would i give my number to someone i've only had one email from?
and in terms of reading your advert - i did! and i read the profile! that's why i responded and said that my play partner and i might be interested. so i'm not sure what you're getting at there.
