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stupid question
The last one means your established. Usually another member of the site will establish you if you met. It can be a guy or a girl. When someone establishes you admin will send you a mail and you can accept it or not. It will then show on your profile who established you if you've accepted it.
Personally (now everyone us different) but I will only meet a guy who is established and who also has comments on his profile. Because you can see the girl or person who established or commented on the guy if u want to meet the guy/girl or couple u can mail the person who placed the comment to find out what they are like which I find great especially if it's a well established person your likely to get a very honest answer.
Safety first and all that.
By the way there is no such thing as a stupid question, I still ask plenty myself.
Kitten28
Right, thats interesting because it answers another question i had. so its okay to contact the middle person to satisfy yourself about the authenticity/suitability of someone. With alot of the emphasis here on site being about discretion, i didnt know if that would be acceptable or not. Its good that it is. btw, ive got lots more questions, so i should really rename this thread 'lots of stupid questions that i cant find the answers to elsewhere'. would it be better to ask away here or should i go into the chatroom?
Its absolutely ok 
Discretion is always important but by placing a comment on someones profile your letting people know, I met this guy, he doesn't appear to be a homicidal manic ( for comments on girls, she's not an axe murderer) and what ever else is on there. And chances are they mailed previous people who commented to see if the guy/girl was alright.
Feel free to post here. U could ask in the chat room but it can be a little busy. I don't even mind u mailing me. I was lucky to meet some really really nice people one of which introduced me to a few of the girls at a m&g and it's great to get another woman's opinion considering it's mainly men here (no offence boys) and let's face it it's not the kind of conversation you have in your day to day life friends or family.
Discretion is always important but by placing a comment on someones profile your letting people know, I met this guy, he doesn't appear to be a homicidal manic ( for comments on girls, she's not an axe murderer) and what ever else is on there. And chances are they mailed previous people who commented to see if the guy/girl was alright.
Feel free to post here. U could ask in the chat room but it can be a little busy. I don't even mind u mailing me. I was lucky to meet some really really nice people one of which introduced me to a few of the girls at a m&g and it's great to get another woman's opinion considering it's mainly men here (no offence boys) and let's face it it's not the kind of conversation you have in your day to day life friends or family. Although Kitten is quite new to the site, with answers and posts like the two she has written above, I believe a gold star should be winging its way to her soon. If there was a vote that regular users could become involved in, youd get mine. Keep up the good work Kitten :thumbup:
Nothing like intelligence to get a fella hot! :lick:
Nothing like intelligence to get a fella hot! :lick:
Sex God
No Such thing as a stupid question, we all have varying degrees of experience in this lifestyle and tyou will find most decent folks will have no qualms in answering questions, tis better to know the facts than assume your own conclusion.
As for asking people about others they have met I see no problem in it, provided the persons asked just disclose the important stuff like the persons genuineness and decency....no need to discuss the ins and outs of the meet etc.
Ok, thanks folks...heres a couple more for you then! swear words banned on the forum threads...i see people adapt them or bleep them out?
2. when you cam, can the other person record you without you knowing (scared of ending up on youtube or worse!)?
3. I know the meet and greets are different to the private swing parties but are they both limited to the swinging community only or are they broader than that? What i mean is, are they geared up for people who want to be full swingers rather than anyone else? i wanted to attend a meet and greet party, would it be acceptable to rope someone else in off the site to come with me instead of having to go alone? I hate going into anywhere on my own!
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Ok, thanks folks...heres a couple more for you then!
swear words banned on the forum threads...i see people adapt them or bleep them out?
2. when you cam, can the other person record you without you knowing (scared of ending up on youtube or worse!)?
3. I know the meet and greets are different to the private swing parties but are they both limited to the swinging community only or are they broader than that? What i mean is, are they geared up for people who want to be full swingers rather than anyone else?
i wanted to attend a meet and greet party, would it be acceptable to rope someone else in off the site to come with me instead of having to go alone? I hate going into anywhere on my own!
A1. Language is just that, language, the interpretation of how things are written is pretty much where users will decide if they are used for fun or are deemed as crude and offensive.
A2. Yes, Cams can be recorded, provide you have the necessary software in place to do so, but saying that, only paid members have access to the chatroom and its not rocket science to find out what user has done it, and unless they have copywrite on whats being broadcast via cam, they leave themselves open to legal proceedings (should things go that far).
A3. Parties, as much as Meet and Greets, are for those that want to enjoy the 'lifestyle', not all swingers are hardcore/full swap, there is also a soft swap/voyeuristic element that enjoy the scene, and as long as you make it aware what you enjoy and what your comfort levels are, then its up to others to respect your wishes.
A4. Meet and Greets and/or parties are the responsibility of the organisers, site members that organise them, do so at their own discretion and its pretty much down to them who they wish to invite, remembering that most of the genuine organisers are there to protect everyones privacy and discretion.
Hope that has helped somewhat but like most have said, there is no such thing as a stupid questions, we all started somewhere and wish we were a lot wiser when we dipped the toes in, but the good thing about making the occasional mistake is you end up learning very quickly of what you like and what you want to avoid ;)
We also have a question, we have only been to one party and really enjoyed ourselves without actually playing with others but we do want to play with others but it was very evident that our way is in the minority.
We are a married couple and ''our way'' is that we would prefer to play seperately from each other (different rooms) but no other couples at this party were prepared to do this, they all seemed to want to swing with their partner.
Are we being a little silly or is it a beginners kind of way of thinking.
The party we attended was a couple of months ago, so we've taken some time to think about things and we still want to swing but we still haven't changed our minds (yet) regarding swinging seperately.
One other question and we do feel silly for asking but when swinging with other couples, is kissing tolerated or not.
Thanks in advance
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We also have a question, we have only been to one party and really enjoyed ourselves without actually playing with others but we do want to play with others but it was very evident that our way is in the minority.
We are a married couple and ''our way'' is that we would prefer to play seperately from each other (different rooms) but no other couples at this party were prepared to do this, they all seemed to want to swing with their partner.
Are we being a little silly or is it a beginners kind of way of thinking.
The party we attended was a couple of months ago, so we've taken some time to think about things and we still want to swing but we still haven't changed our minds (yet) regarding swinging seperately.
One other question and we do feel silly for asking but when swinging with other couples, is kissing tolerated or not.
Thanks in advance
Can't really answer the first part the way you'd like us too, my wife is bisexual, looks forward to playing with other sexy ladies, and for us to do separate rooms isn't really an option we'd even consider, but pretty sure that everyone has their comfort levels and they probably feel safer knowing their other half is nearby and can get them out of awkward positions, (should they ever end up in one, where one person isn't really enjoying something thats going on).
As for kissing, some have said that they don't kiss as its too intimate!!!! to be honest I don't think you can be more intimate with someone than being naked and enjoying some mischief with other sexy likeminded people, but to each their own, but for us, soz but if they don't kiss, we'll give them a miss !!!
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I know of couples who are happy to play in seperate rooms to their partners, although my own estimation is that they are less common than those who do 'same room fun'. As for kissing..... it's a requirement. Like eating toast with no butter otherwise, a bit dry!
We have played in seperate rooms very recently for the first time, but this is because we felt at ease with the people we played with and the trust factor was definitely there. As for kissing, yep always need that cos if its not there, then theres a level of intimacy missing, and the whole experience just doesnt feel right, but thats just MOPO.
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I know of couples who are happy to play in seperate rooms to their partners, although my own estimation is that they are less common than those who do 'same room fun'. As for kissing..... it's a requirement. Like eating toast with no butter otherwise, a bit dry!
We have played in seperate rooms very recently for the first time, but this is because we felt at ease with the people we played with and the trust factor was definitely there. As for kissing, yep always need that cos if its not there, then theres a level of intimacy missing, and the whole experience just doesnt feel right, but thats just MOPO.
Should really have added to this initially, but to allay any confusion, there is a a slight difference to playing in separate rooms while in teh same house, but there are very few out there that play in separate rooms while sharing a hotel.
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And another one.....
when you go into the chatroom, is it okay to just click on a cammer or do you ask first?
and, if your cam had a mic, is it okay to use that replying to people or are you still expected to type, even if the person could hear you?
A1. Cammers will know when you are viewing their cams, as they will see a little black eye icon on the usernames that are viewing them, some do ask, but most just view them out of curiousity, without asking for permission.
A2. As long as you have a mic and the person that you are talking to can hear you, then happy days, give the fingers a rest or for better purposes :angel::happy::taz:
