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I agree with Sean - I've not been to a "party" per see but did goi to a meet and greet in Carlow which lasted the weekend. I went on my own, never met anyone before and hadn't even chatted online either as I came from a diff site. Anyway we all met in the bar and people were so friendly and spoke with absolutely everyone. There was noone making you nervous at all, only welcome. In fact I was recommended this site from that meet. People will take you as you are and only as much as you want to give. No pressures at all and I highly recommend just doing it. That was my experience anyway. Yes I ended up pairing off as well so the fact that everyone "seems" to know each other is irrelevant. People chat here as if they have known you for life - even if it is your first time to say hi in the chat rooms. This is definitely the friendliest environment I have ever found myself in. Hope this helps calm your nerves a little.
hi just like to say i meet my neighbour at a meet and greet, i had told him in messages i knew them and use to joke with them was gas. i even worked with the husband for a while turned up at the meet in westport didnt know i was there went up to the bar to say hi and his face was priceless but hey there here for the same reason as you have fun and all fogotten within seconds :doggy::therethere:
See there are two different scene's, the one that allow couples and only single girls and the one that is a mix of all,
Here on this site for us is to meet couples so then no issues.I think single guys need to know were to look .As a couple we would not go to a party were single guys are,it is not like a party were there a just single girls and couples.
I have no issue with the swing scene and seeing my OH with a guy who is part of a couple but not with a single guy.
I just think if a guy can't get a girl himself then why does he think he can have somebody's Else's I can tell you is the main thing with single males as I have spoken to other guys who like me are part of a couple.
I was once single and wanted to play the scene and I got a FB and we played together,That is my view,
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I just think if a guy can't get a girl himself then why does he think he can have somebody's Else's I can tell you is the main thing with single males as I have spoken to other guys who like me are part of a couple.
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Are you serious???? So you can play with the single fem but your other half can't with the single male. Or you will attend a party with a single fem but not a single male. Interesting thought process........It's not for me to question people's choices or their rules of play but as a single female here I take offence to that. If I can't get a man why should I expect to play with someone else's.
Midnightchat is so right here,Mr Hotdog you seem to have a double standard and expect it all your own way,if you dont like to be around single guys with your partner make it clear or dont associate with them in the first place,hopefully then you will be happy with your perfect balance,theres not too many ladies here either who would be expected to accept your one way traffic,nice in theory...
Quote by user=lucan-couplereally well put midnight :worship:......makes me feel for single guys with that attitude...is that what other men think....hmmm i wonder......
will pick mr l'sbrain.....poor mr l:evil2:
MRS LUCAN..
hwoar:asked me,,and i reckon we alll have our own quirks,but for me n us it works both ways we will play with singles,either of us its share n share alike for us,,,:thumbup::thumbup:
Hi all, joined up to site a couple years back but never got into anything. I decided recently to come back on and check it out. Seems a lot more activity these days. I have never gone to parties or anything so still no experience of this.
I am quite interested to get into parties etc. though as I am bored with the usual social scene in my life at the moment. I am quite shy however but think I could get into some activities. Anyone wanna talk to me give me a message, even just some friendly advice 
thanks!
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Sex God
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See there are two different scene's, the one that allow couples and only single girls and the one that is a mix of all,
Here on this site for us is to meet couples so then no issues.I think single guys need to know were to look .As a couple we would not go to a party were single guys are,it is not like a party were there a just single girls and couples.
I have no issue with the swing scene and seeing my OH with a guy who is part of a couple but not with a single guy.
I just think if a guy can't get a girl himself then why does he think he can have somebody's Else's I can tell you is the main thing with single males as I have spoken to other guys who like me are part of a couple.
I was once single and wanted to play the scene and I got a FB and we played together,That is my view,
Talk about Double Standards, and some people wonder why single males are not so keen to turn up to meets. While everyones entitled to they're opinion and the way the go about swinging, thats a double standard if ever there was one, and the attitude that if a guy can't have a woman he doesn't deserve yours? best of Luck with that!!! Them sort of perceptions are narrow minded, the notion that the only single males on here are lost causes and desperate cases is far from the truth, sure there are a few, but the majority that are swinging actively know the boundaries, and are highly respectable and respected, and mainly because they have shown themselves to be(hence they get party Invites).
This is the Kind of thing that puts those wanting to get into the scene change theyre minds, and sit frustrated at the sidelines.
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Hi all, joined up to site a couple years back but never got into anything. I decided recently to come back on and check it out. Seems a lot more activity these days. I have never gone to parties or anything so still no experience of this.
I am quite interested to get into parties etc. though as I am bored with the usual social scene in my life at the moment. I am quite shy however but think I could get into some activities. Anyone wanna talk to me give me a message, even just some friendly advice
HI morby and welcome back. Hope you get what you want and it is a wonderful experience for you.
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I just think if a guy can't get a girl himself then why does he think he can have somebody's Else's I can tell you is the main thing with single males as I have spoken to other guys who like me are part of a couple.
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Are you serious???? So you can play with the single fem but your other half can't with the single male. Or you will attend a party with a single fem but not a single male. Interesting thought process........It's not for me to question people's choices or their rules of play but as a single female here I take offence to that. If I can't get a man why should I expect to play with someone else's. ah mate i dont think u should be on this site ur to paro for me....
I have looked on my previous post and think some things I said came out not as I wanted so apology for that.
I think the point is missed, everyone needs to be in their comfort zone to really be relaxed and have a good time, If the rules are made at the start then there is no argument ,We just prefer couple's and if that couple happens to be just xxxx buddies then that is fine with you decide to go to a party you find out who the party is opened up to and decide if it is for you. It is not double standards as we have only played with couples(except on one occasion) as both of us are straight.
But as most party's are open to couples & sgn girls then that is where we Mrs hotdogs really wanted to try a 3 some with a single guy then I would go along with that so far is not her thing but we are open as a I really do enjoy seeing Mrs Hotdogs with another guy.
So who knows what the future holds for any of us.
As a single male who has just joined the site and looking at potential meets i was annoyed at hot dogs original comments.
However while reading his latest comment i realised that most parties put up here invite couples and single females but warn that no single males allowed attend. This angers me. If the party is for couples only that is fine and i understand that. But that single females are asked to attend but not single males i dont understand it. can anybody shine some light on this for me.
Warming the Bed
MR yummy here. Firstly I'm part of a couple that only meets couples. basically it boils down to everyone going home with who they came with after a good laugh. That doesn't mean that I have anything against singles especially as I used to be one .
I do think that there seems to be some vendetta against single guys from some people here which is wrong. If my self and the boss were to organize a party we would be inviting couples,and singles. There are plenty of really great single guys here who would be a worthwhile addition to any party. Theres also plenty of fabulous single girls.
This is a swinging site and its hard to impose your rules on group of people who are outside the social norm.
Having said that if you cant see/handle your own partner with some else of the opposite sex then swinging is probably not for you. You need to be strong enough in the relationship with your partner that you can accept the fact they are with another person and really enjoying it. I think a lot of guys lie to themselves that its okay for some reason if their partner is swinging with a woman but not a man. Maybe its insecurity on the behalf of these guys, I don't know.
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I do think that there seems to be some vendetta against single guys from some people here which is wrong. If my self and the boss were to organize a party we would be inviting couples,and singles. There are plenty of really great single guys here who would be a worthwhile addition to any party. Theres also plenty of fabulous single girls.
This is a swinging site and its hard to impose your rules on group of people who are outside the social norm.
Having said that if you cant see/handle your own partner with some else of the opposite sex then swinging is probably not for you. You need to be strong enough in the relationship with your partner that you can accept the fact they are with another person and really enjoying it. I think a lot of guys lie to themselves that its okay for some reason if their partner is swinging with a woman but not a man. Maybe its insecurity on the behalf of these guys, I don't know. I joined this site back in May and was full of gusto after coming out of a straight relationship. I got very lucky that I had found someone as sexually open as myself and the 4 or so years that we had were great. I missed that sexually open aspect of the relationship. I figured that this was a site where I could talk to and sometime in the future, even meet people of a similarly open persuasion! I was initially disheartened when looking at some posts, profiles and parties to see so much "no single guys please". It comes very clear though that we aren't the pariahs as we first might seem.
Reading this thread has also allayed my fears somewhat.
I look forward to a pleasant stay here on this site because although there's a lot of us in here we're "outnumbered" out there.
Seeing your name more and more often in the forums and still haven't seen you in the chat rooms yet!!!! Say hi next time your in :2fingers:This thread was by far probably one of the most interesting.
I think what Mr Hotdog was trying to relay, but got mixed up in other things, was that every person on this site is on here for a different reason and looking for something different.
But in hindsight, alot of couples dont want single males. But lots dont want single girls too, they just dont write it on their profile.
Maybe this is due to the minority of single men who do not read a profile and pester people, which in turn brings on the **no single males** part on peoples profiles.
I for one, will never organise a meet & greet or party where it is not open to single males. Gotta keep numbers even in my opinion.
Cihavana, i sent u mail about the meet & greet and waiting on your response. :)
Gotta keep numbers even in my opinion.
Cihavana, i sent u mail about the meet & greet and waiting on your response. :) We attened our first party last night, thanks to bibibaby and we had a great time and can't wait for the next one, although for a short period of time at the party I was unsure if it was going to be for me. My wife and I had agreed on seperate rooms but we found ourselves attracted to a couple who wanted only same room, so I had a slight panic attack
I knew my wife was keen so we compromised and we agreed we would go into the room and fuck each other and see what happens then and I found I got very comfortable with it very quickly sadly the other couple had finished up before we took it to the next level , still we had great sex.
I'm glad though that we had our rules made up before going but some of them are no longer relevant, some of them were made with the not knowing what to expect.
As regards the single guys, I can see why some couples would not do it as your giving up your partner and I suppose you expect them to sacrafice something so they can fuck your partner. I actually have no problems with my wife and single guys at a party cause if she fancies him, she should be able to go crazy.
Thanks again Bibibaby
I knew my wife was keen so we compromised and we agreed we would go into the room and fuck each other and see what happens then and I found I got very comfortable with it very quickly sadly the other couple had finished up before we took it to the next level , still we had great sex.
I'm glad though that we had our rules made up before going but some of them are no longer relevant, some of them were made with the not knowing what to expect.
As regards the single guys, I can see why some couples would not do it as your giving up your partner and I suppose you expect them to sacrafice something so they can fuck your partner. I actually have no problems with my wife and single guys at a party cause if she fancies him, she should be able to go crazy.
Thanks again Bibibaby We have been to bibibaby's parties and the experience was good however the venue was a little small and overcrowded with very little play space. We did like it and may go again. On the issue of single guys, we have a guy we meet in Edinburgh twice a year for a MMF and I am totally fine with my wife fucking this guy. He is genuine, honest and he gives her a great time. Those who think single guys are like dogs looking for a bitch in heat are wrong on the most part. Yes there are a few weirdos we met with the hope of having a MMF but that was a small minority. On the issue of meeting someone you know at a party, well we are all there for the same thing and if you meet someone you know there then that is where the discretion and trust factor comes in.
