Chat Room

14 May 2009

I'm just wondering if anyone else finds the chat room very cliquey ??
i've been on the scene for many years mainly on an other site and have had some great times but i find this site very cliquey.

15 May 2009

hi yes there are clicks in the rooms but if your a regular on here you do build up a list of people that you chat to , and I agree this can look daunting but most of the regulars in chat do make an effort to include everyone that chats

16 May 2009

Yeah lad,i agree with you,find it very daunting in there,its like your the new kid in school kind of thing..think its because there maybe afew messers on here+everyones that bit more wide of who they talk to.i dont know,what do we do,put the head down+dive in or what??tried that afew times+it just doesnt feel right..I dont no,everyone on here seems sound,maybe it'll just take time to build up the feeling that we'll be welcome,definatly easier if your a girl i think though..Maybe im wrong?

27 May 2009

Hi there, I've also found it very, very cliquey ... but what I do is that I go to smaller rooms or open one of my own and that way I get chatting ... But yeah, at some times of day you're blatantly ignored. biggrin

fair enough, it happens anywhere... smile

So it's a bit hard for girls too. :)

28 May 2009

i agree with sexylatina, i move thru the smaller rooms a lot, often get good conversations and flirts in them, their not as hectic as the main rooms,but you do have to be willing to converse, a simply hi on the main screen, wont be enough to start a conversation biggrin

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29 May 2009

You have to dive into it and swim like crazy for a while, but you soon get to know the regular faces and you will find most people are friendly. You will only get out what you put into it. We where all newbies once and i try to say hi to everyone that comes into the chatroom. My advice is to stay in open chat as much as you can and leave the whispering for a while so people can get to know you better. Sean xx

6 Jun 2009

good post Sean...I have to say you made me feel very welcome when I joined I am still a relativly newbie on site too. But it is hard to chat to everyone as well and I tend to chat to people I have met or know others have met simply because I know then they are genuine. But I try to answer all greeting where possible and you have to just throw yourself into conversation sometimes like in any situation. Standing at the side of the wall wont get you noticed!

7 Jun 2009

Hi guys yea sometimes it can very be clicky but i tend to chat everyone. I think if you just be yourself you get there dont give up of luck.

14 Dec 2009

Yeah totally agree with ya BigJoe but that's the way it'll always be I reckon. Still like using tha Site but the good has kinda gone out of it 4 me now sad

It just didn't dawn on me that this actually really is the way it is lol!! But you can still use the smaller chat-rooms, they are fun at times, but then I've noticed that on occasion some of the more vocally inclined people go in there too to the smaller rooms! So I dunno at this stage lol - a tad confused!!

15 Dec 2009

Your right the main chat rooms are very clicky, but like many have said go into the smaller rooms and who knows you might even start your own click:haha: Just try not to whisper without asking first, thats the one thing that will get up ppls backs.

20 Dec 2009

i find it bit daunting aswell when everyone already seems to know each other,mind you it doesnt help when chatroom freezes just when your trying to start a conversation

20 Dec 2009

Dowhat the chat freeze is such a headwreck evil

persevere and maybe watch the chat for a while, see who you think seems the most approachable and start a conversation with them on the main chat. You can build up from there. Remember Slowly Slowly Catchie Monkey :wave2:

20 Dec 2009

I think once you greet people in the chatrooms most people would greet you back,it can be very busy at times but stick with it .

24 Jan 2010

ah think its time i gave up on the whole thing,finally get me connection sorted and now cant even get an hello out of people,even those i thought were friendly,reckon if ye havnt been to a partie ye get nowhere,havnt been to a partie cos i dont really know anyone on here,tis a vicious circle

28 Jan 2010

I wouldn't give up too quickly. Post more in the forums and generally if you are seen around people will be friendly to you. It takes a while to get established, and you need to put in the effort especially if you are a single male, but it can be done if you stick at it. There are many people who never been at a party or have been here years and not been at a party. Just jump in and see how you go and dont get frustrated too early. The rewards are worth the effort in the end. Sean

18 Feb 2010

new here and checking the main chat room, found it a bit intimidating as been browsing and left a few messages for people ive found interesting with no great success either with not the way to go either, any advice?

21 Feb 2010

I've only been a member of the site since the end of January this year and started off first by going into the forums, which are great fun in reality biggrin

and then I stuck my head into the chat rooms and not knowing anyone said hi etc... ad have always got a direct reply hello from anyone I've greeted. If the converstaion id flowing between some people as it does sometimes it can be very daunting but there is always an opening for a grin after someone says something that makes you smile and if you ut the persons name beside that smile you will get included into the conversation with all there. Sounds easy and is actually cos everyone so far has just been so friendly and inclusive. Well that is my experience - but I can't shut up either so maybe easier for me anyway confused

Don't give up too easy.... as Sean says the benefits of new friends are worth the effort...

9 May 2010

yeah it can be scary n tough for us poor girlies, go easy lads ;)

Quote by user=sexylatina
Hi there,
I've also found it very, very cliquey ... but what I do is that I go to smaller rooms or open one of my own and that way I get chatting ...
But yeah, at some times of day you're blatantly ignored. fair enough, it happens anywhere...
So it's a bit hard for girls too. :)