This is something I have been wondering about for some time, the sexual status on a profile!!
It is no surprise to most on here that I have a thing for bi guys :lick: and it has been said to me bi several guys that they are bisexual however their sexual status on their profile is straight.
Not a major problem until push comes to shove (pardon the pun).
When I ask why this is, I'm told they haven't come out as being bi and prefer it kept to themselves (ok well my take on this is, they have no photo's so who exactly is gonna recognise them personally as bisexual) and a few other reasons.
Now I'm not saying they are not genuine but how can one tell if the profile states one thing and the member says another!! :-?
So I'm asking you if your status is set to other than Bisexual or Bicurious and you are either of them why is that?? :rose:
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Amber many guys are loathe to put Bi on profiles due to the fact that there is still such a social stigma around Bi males, many straight males see them as a sexual threat ( as in will he touch me during play)and a lot of women also feel threatned by the fact that guys who are Bi are not seen as macho enough ( silly but sadly true)..
I have many Bi-Sexual male friends who still live sexual double lives, not because they want to but because they simply have to..
I can spot a Bi guy a mile away, it doesn't bother me, I would prefer they were honest, but accept they have their own reasons, but I don't like the guys who protest too much or critisise other men who are open..
When a guy is camming with you, and he has more anal toys than a display in a sex shop, you kinda know he is either Bi or Bi-
Casanova
I recentlty up dated my profile to bi, as I felt, I have to be honest with myself first and foremost and the same for others too.
I had been bi-curious for many years, and I guess I still am to a point in that I have had only one bi encounter.
In saying this, I had been advised by a member here to put up I was straight as it would scare too many people away. I will admit I did have it up a straight, but having received warm support from other members here, I decided, I have nothing to hide, I am who I am, and if you choose to meet me, then you know who I am.
Honesty at times can be difficult, but with so many people who lets others down, I do not want to fall into that category for not been honest.
bi-selective here - but there isnt an option for that on here so have bi-sexual instead.
Id say im 95% straight but as happened before with the right girl in the right place and state of mind ive been known to take the lead with the femme and had a great time. :thrilled: I prefer to give than receive where girl on girl is concerned - i kinda dont feel like ive been fully fulfilled until a guy has been inside me :giggle:
Id say im 95% straight but as happened before with the right girl in the right place and state of mind ive been known to take the lead with the femme and had a great time. :thrilled: I prefer to give than receive where girl on girl is concerned - i kinda dont feel like ive been fully fulfilled until a guy has been inside me :giggle: Quote by user=dar4u
In saying this, I had been advised by a member here to put up I was straight as it would scare too many people away.
Hiya Dar,
I don't think that member was correct in saying that, people can only give their own opinions but not that of others, it's only classed as hearsay then.
Casanova
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In saying this, I had been advised by a member here to put up I was straight as it would scare too many people away.
Hiya Dar,
I don't think that member was correct in saying that, people can only give their own opinions but not that of others, it's only classed as hearsay then.
Hi Amber,
I am glad I listened to my heart and lovely people like you
:rose: In saying this, I had been advised by a member here to put up I was straight as it would scare too many people away. I will admit I did have it up a straight, but having received warm support from other members here, I decided, I have nothing to hide, I am who I am, and if you choose to meet me, then you know who I am.
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We have come across other male members who do the same thing as they believe it will scare people, mainly straight couples off. And in some cases it will but honesty is the best way to go when swinging, after all you don't want to get to a meet with a cpl and get caught up in the moment and start doing naughty things to the straight male:scared:.
If your straight, bi, gay or what ever be honest and above all be proud of it.:smile2:
I would describe myself as Bi Selective ... right time, place & people.
(& so far only cock sucking & some kissing ... )
When I joined the site I did put Bi-curious on my profile, but as Dara4u has said & I can also confirm, couples often said I would meet you if you were not Bi & other couples advised me to change my status to Straight ... funny thing is some straight couples I have met would ask "do you mind if he sucks your cock" :doh:...go figure that ...
So by in large it is ok for the ladies to be Bi (helps the male fantasy) but guys must be macho & straight (perhaps the female fantasy).
For me it is all about fun & if that means everyone joining in well better still.
After all in a dark room can a guy really tell whether it is a woman or another guy sucking his cock.
so guys & gals dont knock it until you try it ... the site is supposed to be about being open to new experiences.
Sex God
I've known myself to be Bi Selective for a long time now, but for a while I had straight on my profile as I got a few nasty emails back from couples when I tried being honest. In hindsight I realized that people that can't understand that bi doesn't mean you 'fuck anything with a pulse' aren't really for me.
Unfortunately a lot still think Bi Males are lesser men, are more promiscuous..to the point of being reckless in they're sexual behavior, or that they are aggressively bi as in they will try and have grope or more of the male half of a couple.
God how naive and up your own arse must you be to think this?
If anything I find its made me more selective, I know exactly what I like. I dont, and won't ever try and impose myself on anyone that does not wish to reciprocate.
As for the guys that arent comfy enough to come out I say no harm its your choice and I'd always respect that, but I do take exception with the ones that cry out and act homophobic when a guy does make an advance in chat or the subject of bisexuality is brought up, yet the same guys can be seen lurking in the bi rooms in the late hours.
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So by in large it is ok for the ladies to be Bi (helps the male fantasy) but guys must be macho & straight (perhaps the female fantasy).
so guys & gals dont knock it until you try it ... the site is supposed to be about being open to new experiences.
Well said Alan couldn't have put it better myself and thank you :clap:
Quote by user=Titan79Titan this is a form of bullying and no one should have to put up with nasty emails, grrrr people like that really piss me off
I've known myself to be Bi Selective for a long time now, but for a while I had straight on my profile as I got a few nasty emails back from couples when I tried being honest.
but it's their loss Quote by user=Virgogirl
Amber many guys are loathe to put Bi on profiles due to the fact that there is still such a social stigma around Bi males
Hiya Virgo, this is why there is such a stigma because the biguys are allowing this to continue, it's nothing more than bullying.....
As Raven says be proud of our sexuality don't hide it, if others don't like tough and thanks for your comment
Sexlightened
I think most of what have to say on this subject has already been said!!!
I can't call myself bi-curious because I've tried it (more than once 
) and I wouldn't say thai I am bi-sexual because there are some things I am not into with men. So I guess the "bi-selective" phrase applies to me too.
As for guys pitting straight on their profile, if only I had a € for every time a "straight" guy has whispered to me in the chat rooms (usually a room with bi in the title :-?).....
I believe there are a lot of guys just trying to play both sides of the fence, ie; some couples will meet straight guys but not bi and some ouples will meet bi guys & not straight and straight is seen as the most appealing to most people.
At the end of the day regardless of whether we called straight, bi, gay, lesbian we all have1 thing in common.... We are all sexual beings who enjoy intimate physical activity, whether it's with members of the same or opposite sex or both. The only difference is personal opinion & everyone is entitled to their opinion (even if it is the wrong one! :mrgreen
Oops, looks like I still had quite a bit to say... OK, I'l shut up now!
) and I wouldn't say thai I am bi-sexual because there are some things I am not into with men. So I guess the "bi-selective" phrase applies to me too.
As for guys pitting straight on their profile, if only I had a € for every time a "straight" guy has whispered to me in the chat rooms (usually a room with bi in the title :-?).....
I believe there are a lot of guys just trying to play both sides of the fence, ie; some couples will meet straight guys but not bi and some ouples will meet bi guys & not straight and straight is seen as the most appealing to most people.
At the end of the day regardless of whether we called straight, bi, gay, lesbian we all have1 thing in common.... We are all sexual beings who enjoy intimate physical activity, whether it's with members of the same or opposite sex or both. The only difference is personal opinion & everyone is entitled to their opinion (even if it is the wrong one! :mrgreen
Oops, looks like I still had quite a bit to say... OK, I'l shut up now! tippbi it is not just guys who get accused of sitting on the fence, Bi women do as well..
We also have to deal with the misunderstanding that Bi means, we will sleep with anything with a pulse..
Then there are the guys who are only interested in Bi Women to increase their chances of the 'two women' fantasy, have lost count of the number of times I have been asked 'Can you bring a friend'?
Mnay people fail to realise that some people with Bi tendencies never actualy act on them, they can simply be attracted to the same sex..
Casanova
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Many people fail to realise that some people with Bi tendencies never actualy act on them, they can simply be attracted to the same sex..
This is exactly how it was for me for many years, without me even realising it. I guess its since I opened my mind to new things and making friends with people on here has made me realise how indeed I had fancied males in the past, but never knew it!!
I am not for making excuses, but as many know, coming from a very ultra religious home, it took me a long time to even get to know the basics.
Now I have embraced that I am bi-sexual and those who choose to make fun of me, well they are small minded people who aren't worth thinking about. I was bullied all my life in school and I survived. I am not prepared to go back there again, so time to live life to the full...
Dar4. Excellent post. Well put. Padd's
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This is exactly how it was for me for many years, without me even realising it. I guess its since I opened my mind to new things and making friends with people on here has made me realise how indeed I had fancied males in the past, but never knew it!!
I am not for making excuses, but as many know, coming from a very ultra religious home, it took me a long time to even get to know the basics.
Now I have embraced that I am bi-sexual and those who choose to make fun of me, well they are small minded people who aren't worth thinking about. I was bullied all my life in school and I survived. I am not prepared to go back there again, so time to live life to the full...
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tippbi it is not just guys who get accused of sitting on the fence, Bi women do as well..
We also have to deal with the misunderstanding that Bi means, we will sleep with anything with a pulse..
Then there are the guys who are only interested in Bi Women to increase their chances of the 'two women' fantasy, have lost count of the number of times I have been asked 'Can you bring a friend'?
Mnay people fail to realise that some people with Bi tendencies never actualy act on them, they can simply be attracted to the same sex..
Virgogirl you have hit the nail on the head with some of your post, yes if men know you are Bi they think you will shag the cat and it`s mother lol and i have lost count of the number of times i have heard "bring a friend". Not all Bi women want to sleep with another woman all the time, to be blunt we love cock just as much as pussy and if we arrange a one on one meet blokes or women shouldn't be so dumb as to ask about us bringing a friend.
Oh that was a bit of a rant:-o:haha:
Sex God
Agree with virgo and raven on this one, countless times iv been asked, to bring a friend, or can i get another female to join, or wouldn't if be fun if u brought some friends,grrrr.
I'm still sticking with the definition of my bi-ness that i found long time ago
although i tend not to like to label myself its the closest to my sexual status that i can find.
I'm still sticking with the definition of my bi-ness that i found long time ago
BI SELECTIVE
Person who prefers opposite sex sexual activity, but enjoys same sex sexual activity on a limited basis with the right person,
although i tend not to like to label myself its the closest to my sexual status that i can find.
Wow Great thread....... Yes i'm one of those guys who put straight on there profile afraid of been recognized and verbaly beaten back into the same corner i've been on many occasions. A lot of people see Bi-sexual people as greedy feckors who want it both ways but don't realize the torment that people have inured while fighting with there consions and old style irish church beliefs that many folk still hold.. When i was young i fought tooth and nail with my sexuality and up till a couple of years ago i was still fighting but i'm fully aware now of who i am, and i'm comfortable with the fact that i'm Bi-sexual. Without realizing it i was Bi-sexual then and i'm Bi-sexual now. Am i happy, yes. Would i change it, hell no, this is who i am....
Erm, afraid of being recognized and you have a face pic on your profile? No disrespect here, but, Hello!!!
Incidentally, who mentioned the church? why was that introduced?
Incidentally, who mentioned the church? why was that introduced?
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Wow Great thread....... Yes i'm one of those guys who put straight on there profile afraid of been recognized and verbaly beaten back into the same corner i've been on many occasions. A lot of people see Bi-sexual people as greedy feckors who want it both ways but don't realize the torment that people have inured while fighting with there consions and old style irish church beliefs that many folk still hold.. When i was young i fought tooth and nail with my sexuality and up till a couple of years ago i was still fighting but i'm fully aware now of who i am, and i'm comfortable with the fact that i'm Bi-sexual. Without realizing it i was Bi-sexual then and i'm Bi-sexual now. Am i happy, yes. Would i change it, hell no, this is who i am....
