A strange question I suppose, I was originally thinking it should perhaps be "why did you join a swing site" or "why did you become a swinger".
About 10 years ago my own nieve reasons for getting involved was for extra curricular sex ... even in the early days of the internet there were pop-ups for "meet lonely housewives near you" ... never mind newspaper articles on wife swopping, articles on 1970's hippy orgies an enlightened view of sex in other european countries and sex-clubs.
The reality of course was far removed from the truth, meeting people was no different from meeting people outside the "swing" scene ... the laws of attraction/interest apply ... even in clubs or at a party where everyone is there of an evening for the same thing.
Sites and clubs just make it easier to meet like minded people.
Why after all these years am I still swinging?
Well I enjoy it, I enjoy meeting people, I like that it is NSA , the Sex is great & I have made many good friends over the years
The friends being an un-expected bonus, so many interesting people I would probably never have be-friended in my normal social sphere.
Every now and then I take a break away but I always find myself coming back ... the life-style is a little "Hotel California" in that respect
"Last thing I remember, I was running for the door,I had to find the passage back, To the place I was before relax, said the night man,
We are programmed to receive.
You can checkout any time you like, But you can never leave! "
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Why Swinging ?
I originaly became an accidental tourist in the swing world, was introduced by someone I met at a party..
Later I joined this site, I was lucky in that I already had a great friend also a member and he helped pave my way into the world of swing..
I am in many respects a people person, or so I am .and this helped when it came to chatting, meeting up with people form the site.
Sex for me or good sex as I always say, is about quality and not quantity, so I enjoy the inital chat, geting to know someone before we meet, sex is also about respect in my book, so a site gives you the oppurtunity to weed out the people who don't share my views..
Four years later still here, and still enjoying NSA, have met some wonderful people, had the oppurtunity to explore my own sexuality and sexual desires and needs..
Learned a hell of a lot about myself, and other people, have taken the knocks on the chin, and loved the highs..
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Why Not?
I have to agree with virgo's comment......... if you dont show me any respect you sure has hell have no chance of getting in my knickers.......swing site for sex or not lol lol
Have been swinging for a couple of years now first with a partner and now as a single.....and I have to say have met some lovely lovely people on this site....now yes its a swing sex site and yes its about *getting ones leg over* but ...............sometimes you meet someone and form a bond of friendship with them.......and yes it still falls under the realm of NSA because you can still go back to your regular life without the emotions and jealousies that sometimes arise in a relationship.......I agree wholeheartedly with alan and raven if emotions do start to interfere then its time to sit down with said person and lay your cards on the table...
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I heard through the sometimes vicious grape-vine that married friends of mine were swingers. I was intrigued but couldn’t approach them to discuss it without causing great upset. I genuinely wanted to because the idea appealed to me. I couldn’t shake the curiosity and in the end I used a search engine and looked up swinging in Ireland. One of the options was Swing4Ireland and I looked at this reference.
Of course to have a proper look around you need to have a profile so I registered. I was so naive I genuinely expected to look up profiles from my county and find pictures of my friends; needless to say I was disappointed. But I continued looking around the site, the first few times I ventured into the chat room I was just being nosey, getting a feel for it. With a big paranoid head on me I legged it any time anyone said hello to me. I eventually started chatting, I eventually made friends, and I eventually started to meet............. my biggest regret? how long I spent procrastinating and the wasted time and opportunities as a result. For anyone just browsing; just do it, jump in with both feet. You know what you want, you know what you are comfortable with, and no one else is going to find it for you......... just do it. As far as I am concerned finding my fun in here is far more satisfactory than a random hook-up from a night-club. Why swing (or use a swing site), for the greater discretion and choice it provides me.
Of course to have a proper look around you need to have a profile so I registered. I was so naive I genuinely expected to look up profiles from my county and find pictures of my friends; needless to say I was disappointed. But I continued looking around the site, the first few times I ventured into the chat room I was just being nosey, getting a feel for it. With a big paranoid head on me I legged it any time anyone said hello to me. I eventually started chatting, I eventually made friends, and I eventually started to meet............. my biggest regret? how long I spent procrastinating and the wasted time and opportunities as a result. For anyone just browsing; just do it, jump in with both feet. You know what you want, you know what you are comfortable with, and no one else is going to find it for you......... just do it. As far as I am concerned finding my fun in here is far more satisfactory than a random hook-up from a night-club. Why swing (or use a swing site), for the greater discretion and choice it provides me.
This topic I feel might be hard to reply to for those who ended up on this site and possibly on other sites for all the wrong reasons.
Which is exactly the way I got into it all about 3 years ago.
I was friendly with someone i had previously been with about a year before. One day he said to me that he had joined a site that he thought i would be good at....then he asked me to perform oral on him while he was on cam. Needless to day I didnt, i leave feeling that that was all he thought i was good for....having sex with him and other people. Months later i was seeing someone and again he expressed an interest to seeing me with someone. He said I had a talent that needed to be shared. Again I thought...wtf...is this all anyone sees when they see me???
I was at a low point following then the first guy mentioned it to me again and i thought why not....if this is all i am good for then i may as well join.
Little did i realise how much i would enjoy the interaction on the site. At this stage I have to admit to being a member on here 2years ago. I used to cam all the time and got such a kick from it.
I rarely met anyone and as anyone can recall from the first meet and greet i went to, i talked to very few people and left early.
What I found in this site and from meeting people was a size acceptance than it far from obvious in normal social situations.
I am a big girl yet people would still tell me i was beautiful which hadnt happened much before. I was treated and compared favourably to the 'slim' girls.
With that came an acceptance within myself that i was indeed a sexually attractive person. It increased my confidence which filtered through to my day to day existence. It also made me much more able to say 'No, I'm not interested' to those who wanted to sleep with me, as before i almost felt i should be grateful.
As time went on and after a break last year, I fully accepted what it was this site holds for me......the oppurtunity to be the sexual person I am......to fullfill those fantasies I always had but felt somewhat guilty about wanting them.
When I examined my reasons for being on here i have also found that i examined other aspects of my life too.....leading to a more positive outlook all round.
That is not to say that i have no had some negative experiences here too. I am sure most people have had to.
But from coming from a negative start into my reasons for joining....to now...knowing why i am here....knowing what i want and being happy I am me.
Its part of me life.....but doesnt define me either.
we have been married a long time, enjoy what most other adults enjoy, adult movies, and some of the things that you see in them.
joined the scene a number of years ago, spent a lot of time talking to each other what we would like to make reality and the best way forward seemed to be join an online swing site.
could have used the route of contact magazines and/or the buy and sell magazine (as it seemed to be the one that had the majority of adverts for irish people), but found them to be mostly wastes of time and so many time wasters and bluffers 
enjoy the discretion that the internet brings with it, we enjoy our privacy and the privacy we spend with friends and its a lot easier to engage with people who think/act/play in the same manner.
enjoy the discretion that the internet brings with it, we enjoy our privacy and the privacy we spend with friends and its a lot easier to engage with people who think/act/play in the same manner. THE REASON WHY I SAID THIS WAS IF FOR A EXAMPLE YA ATTENDED SOMEONES PARTY AND DIDNT KNOW FEW PEOPLE BUT SEX WAS ON OFFER YOU GOING TO REFUSE OR ARE YOU GOING TO SAY SORRY DONT KNOW YA OR ARE YA GOING TO DIVE RIGHT IN 
HERE ON THE SITE WE RESPECT ONE ANOTHER AS WEVE GOT TO KNOW EACH OTHER AND MADE GOOD FRIENDS ,I MYSELF PERSONALLY WOULDNT SHAG A STRANGER,AND LIKE TO SPEND TIME GETTING TO KNOW THEM FIRST
HERE ON THE SITE WE RESPECT ONE ANOTHER AS WEVE GOT TO KNOW EACH OTHER AND MADE GOOD FRIENDS ,I MYSELF PERSONALLY WOULDNT SHAG A STRANGER,AND LIKE TO SPEND TIME GETTING TO KNOW THEM FIRST 
Sex God
Quote by user=alan-ball............. was readin this post an guess what song came on the radio , youre right Hotel California 8)
A strange question I suppose, I was originally thinking it should perhaps be "why did you join a swing site" or "why did you become a swinger".
About 10 years ago my own nieve reasons for getting involved was for extra curricular sex ... even in the early days of the internet there were pop-ups for "meet lonely housewives near you" ... never mind newspaper articles on wife swopping, articles on 1970's hippy orgies an enlightened view of sex in other european countries and sex-clubs.
The reality of course was far removed from the truth, meeting people was no different from meeting people outside the "swing" scene ... the laws of attraction/interest apply ... even in clubs or at a party where everyone is there of an evening for the same thing.
Sites and clubs just make it easier to meet like minded people.
Why after all these years am I still swinging?
Well I enjoy it, I enjoy meeting people, I like that it is NSA , the Sex is great & I have made many good friends over the years
The friends being an un-expected bonus, so many interesting people I would probably never have be-friended in my normal social sphere.
Every now and then I take a break away but I always find myself coming back ... the life-style is a little "Hotel California" in that respect
"Last thing I remember, I was running for the door,I had to find the passage back, To the place I was before relax, said the night man,
We are programmed to receive.
You can checkout any time you like, But you can never leave! "
