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i totally agree wit u alico its so much easier to get to know ppl when ur in such a nice relaxed enviroment... id rather meet men or women at a meet n greet than chat through mailing etc.. :rascal: dont get me wrong it is nice to chat via mail texts etc but for me i like to look the person in the face lol :devil:
Mark, I can only speak for myself, but as a single woman you may be interested in my perspective. My advice would be:
your pic to a body pic - cock pics do nothing for most of us girls. (face would be better still - but I understand that a lot of people are relucant to do this)
2. Put more effort into your profile - write in proper English rather than text speak and give more of a sense of yourself.
3. Change your approach - lots of single girls do not meet strangers for sex - but they do meet them for coffee and to see if there's a spark that they might follow up on at a later date.
4. Use the chat rooms and chat in main chat so that again you give a sense of yourself.
Best of luck,
Eden x
your pic to a body pic - cock pics do nothing for most of us girls. (face would be better still - but I understand that a lot of people are relucant to do this)
2. Put more effort into your profile - write in proper English rather than text speak and give more of a sense of yourself.
3. Change your approach - lots of single girls do not meet strangers for sex - but they do meet them for coffee and to see if there's a spark that they might follow up on at a later date.
4. Use the chat rooms and chat in main chat so that again you give a sense of yourself.
Best of luck,
Eden x
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thanks 4 the advice edan i.l get it sorted. it not that i cant hook up but wen u do post an add 9 times out of ten u dont get a reply were as if a female posted lukin 4 a guy they wud get plenty of reply.s. just taught id post it as it siad 2 me a few times...thanks
I think you might find that most single fems here do not respond to ads placed on 'letsmeetup' I know I never have. It's just not the way it works in general and if that's the avenue you are hoping to use it probably won't prove too effective. Why would a single fem need to go looking for an ad when there are plenty of lovely talkative men to be found in the chat room. The groundwork needs to be put in and a connection formed, this is usually through chat. The trend would seem to dictate that those that persevere, who can openly demonstrate their personality and demeanour on chat get further here. Those who hold back, who post occassional meet requests on the forums, who come into chat and post only comments along the lines of 'male in west seeks female for meet' do not thrive. When was the last time you were in a nightclub, went up to a woman and said 'do you wanna go have sex'and actually got somewhere........... Mark; good luck, formulate an approach that best suits you and shows you in your best light and if you really want to enjoy the perks of the site remember that it's a two way street ya get what ya give. Be impersonal and you will get an impersonal response.... (lack of response is highly impersonal).
Hi Mark,
As a single guy my advice would be to attend the meet & greets. There are a number of these on throught the year in different locations. Everyone on here started as a newby at some stage. Post a main pic that is not of your genitals as this immediately puts off most women. Go into the chat rooms and take your time, it may seem to move quickly at first. Take your time, get to chat with people and get to know them. Give people plenty of respect and you will have it given back. Most importantly be yourself !!! You will find that the vast majority of people on here are decent, fun, and normal !
Best of luck and enjoy the site !
Liam 
Good luck
Good luck 
Sex God
Great Post and nice to see constructive response on it,
There is an awful misrepresentation of swinging in this country, despite the fact the allure of no strings meets etc will seem to be the norm they are far from it, I've been a 'much maligned single male' on here for a long time, and I took a long time to break into the chat rooms, despite the fact I had some experience from other sites and when I lived abroad, Day one I came in here and still had to start from stage one, the ground up, get chatting to people in the chat rooms, show I wasn't just another guy looking for the quick thrill. I didnt join with the intent on making any friendships with anyone, but from my past experiences I know that that is normally the case in the lifestyle, and us Irish folks do it more so than any other country that swings from what I have seen. The bottom line in this observation is you have to make connections, and form some form of rapport before you will get to have fun. As the previous posters said, some pics body is ok, once its not concentrated on the genitals etc, never yet met a woman that scrolls through a list of cock pics like a restaurant menu and utters ..'I'll have the number 23. and the number 56.'
Express yourself a bit on your advert, have a go at chatting on a non sexual basis in the chat rooms to begin with , and believe me if the direction of your interactions with people are going to go that way, they will do so of they're own accord!
Also on a side note, many lads have given the single male a bad name over the years for simply not going through with meets when given the opportunity, and many the night have seen a lovely couple or single female in chat, lamenting some plonker that failed to show up after promises of a meet and the party's affected going to the expense of getting childminders/Booking hotels traveling to the meeting place etc.
It does take a certain degree of self confidence to take it from the fantasy of meeting someone through the site after a period of chatting, but have the decency and cop on to 'rock up' on the night when you do get given the great opportunity meet someone.
So hope that you have a better Idea of what might work for you in the future on here Markgudlick.
An erm..apologies on the wee rant.
T
This comes up time and time again. Yes its tough as the supply of Males and the demand from females is at the opposite end of the scale. like others have said you need to put in some effort, be friendly, be creative, get into chat and chat in main, get to know people in chat for a while and then you can take it to the face to face meeting.
I always meet for coffee or a bit of lunch first you can get to know each other a bit better as experience has taught me that while some people are mad chatty in Chat they can be alot quieter face to face in the real world.
There are lost of guys, very few girls, so you need to stand out to have any chance of meeting someone. You can apply to go to meet and greets but it helps here too in being known around chat and forums to get an invite.
It takes effort and time, but when you do get known the rewards are well worth the effort.
I have met some fantastic people and have alot i still have to meet some of which i have been talking too for ages, but if its ment to be it usually will.
Good luck with it, stick with it and you just never know your luck.
Sean
Great advice there for everyone. I agree with the bit about chatting in the chat rooms to make friends etc, but personnally I dont have a whole pile of time to be in the chat rooms for say more than 20 I do send Pm's ( not rude ones, with face pic) as another method to make contact. Chat rooms are great if you have the time to be there a lot, but if you dont, you have to use the other facilities on the site. On a side note, I am trying to organise a party in cork, mainly for singles but open to couples. I didnt get a single response from any single ladies,and got 1 from one couple. So thats also disapointing,when you put the effort into trying to orgainsie a party and the response is virtually zero from the ladies..Any ideas why?? Is it just not happening in Cork ???
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Great advice there for everyone. I agree with the bit about chatting in the chat rooms to make friends etc, but personnally I dont have a whole pile of time to be in the chat rooms for say more than 20 I do send Pm's ( not rude ones, with face pic) as another method to make contact. Chat rooms are great if you have the time to be there a lot, but if you dont, you have to use the other facilities on the site. On a side note, I am trying to organise a party in cork, mainly for singles but open to couples. I didnt get a single response from any single ladies,and got 1 from one couple. So thats also disapointing,when you put the effort into trying to orgainsie a party and the response is virtually zero from the ladies..Any ideas why?? Is it just not happening in Cork ???
This is just my opinion, but I have answered single males party adverts previously. I found they didnt take the whole party set up serious enough, some never replied which isnt a biggie, but more have come back with well Im the only single male and I'm not really looking for couples just females (when they have advertised for couples and males!!) I have asked can I bring another male along, as a single fem I dont like attending parties solo and have been told no. I have asked who will be attending and have been told no names will be given out! Now I'm not saying all single guys are doing this but I for one will not approach another single male party asking for an invite because of the above!
I advertise looking for single males because (believe it or not) they are difficult enough to find the ones that will actually show up, single females I dont have any problems finding. Just like you may find lots of guys but less females!!
Just keep trying, get to a few parties yourself and mingle with others at the parties, the party organisers who may invite you to further parties then you could organise one asking them along to yours. Try not restrict yourself to the same county all the time, travel can be well worth the journey
It works! Just my tuppence worth and hope it helps! 
Orgasminator
hi mark well i meet alone but liam has to know who i meet he is happy once he knows . as for single males they think your going to meet them once they say hi to you in chat well it does not happen that quick do as eden said get a body pict it is much better xxxx oh and come to suzies chatroom thats my room xxxxxxxxxxx
:doggy:im not a single girl on here so prob hav not much say in it,,,but have organised many parties will all the single girls in here and let me tell you trying to get genuine single guys to actually show after beging to go,,,is harder than you would think,,,you get so many mails asking to go,,,you send detalis and guess what you get not even one percent show up,,,if you wnat 2 single guys to show,,u have to invite at least 30 and this is no exageration ,,,so guys,,,,it only yourselves leting the side down!! and i knwo ther are so many genuine guy but 10 fold of not so genuine ones and it pretty difficult to weed them out,,,,,SO GET TO THE MEET AND GREETS ADN PROVE YE ARE GENUINE!! and happy swinging
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trying to get genuine single guys to actually show after beging to go is harder than you would think you get so many mails asking to go you send detalis and guess what you get not even one percent show up if you wnat 2 single guys to show,,u have to invite at least 30 and this is no exageration and i knwo ther are so many genuine guys
:clap: Totally agree Lucy
Quote by user=suzieliamI hear What Your saying. That sounds like an invite to me lol
hi mark well i meet alone but liam has to know who i meet he is happy once he knows . as for single males they think your going to meet them once they say hi to you in chat well it does not happen that quick do as eden said get a body pict it is much better xxxx oh and come to suzies chatroom thats my room xxxxxxxxxxx
Forum Virgin
Hi Eden, just a quick post (my first post!!) to say a big thank you again for your advice and recommending that I have a look at this post. The advice and comments on the post make a lot of sense. Thanks everyone. I must get a body shot of myself and replace my current pic as you recommend Eden and if invited to a meet&greet or party I will, scouts honour, definitely attend...at least the first one anyway!! lol Thanks again everyone.
Quote by user=ravenfireI agree as I myself don't have time 4the chat rooms
I am so upset:upset::upset::upset: no one mentioned the forums:upset::upset: I do agree chat is a great way to get to know people but posting in the forums does give people a good sense of what the person is like too.:wave2::wave2:
Thanks for all the great advice and thoughts - it's interesting to read and I'm learning alot about the scene. The forums are great for that. I only tried chat once so far (busy busy busy) and it seemed good but hard to get into - it moves fast and there are lots of conversations and in-jokes. Got to give it some time, I guess, and listen and watch before jumping in.
Orgasminator
hi ukguy come to suzies chat that a good room to chat in xxxxxxxx
