Hi all need some advice i've been unemployed now for the last few months got let be honest i'm fed up of been on the dole and not been able to find work in Ireland. Im a single dad to a little boy who is now 2 and i don't want him to see hes dad struglin on the dole and i want him to be proud of me.
I have recently tought about applying for the French Foreign Legion because the Irish army aint recuiting at the moment and Britsh army are geting cut back aswell i just can't find work in other areas in Ireland been out of work is getting me down does anyone have any advice on this.I'm not joking guys i'm deadly serious thinking about heading to the French Foreign Legion to find employment.
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tired of unemployment thinking of joinin the legion
biggles hunni....the french foreign legion is sooo not an easy option.
I know someone who was in it for a number of years.
And being that you have an interest in military history you will know all about their training and what being in the legion actually involves.
Being unemployed can bring down the best of us.....chin up hun x x x x x
Biggles I wouldn't recommend it. Had a friend in a similar situation a few years ago and joined cos couldn't get into the Irish army. He really regretted it and absconded from the FFL. He hated it. Later he did get to join the Irish army and loves that so i would say chin up too and hang in there it will change, they won't not recruit forever.
Hey hon, I don't know anyone who joined the legion so i don't have an opinion on that but i for one would miss ya. On a serious note.. I know that being out of work is very hard but sadly in this day and age of the recession there isn't much we can do about it. Know that you are not alone. Having to skimp, boredom, feelings of inadequacey and depression are terrible side effects but please try to stay positive. Have you gone to Fas? Maybe a career change? How about looking into taking a course? Volunteering just to get out of house?
As for the little guy...he is proud of you..you are his daddy!! And if he was old enough to understand he would see that you are: resourceful, kind, determined, funny, positive and hard working---aren't they wonderful qualities to pass on to him. These are the qualities that i admire in my mother who raised 9 kids after my dad died when i was very young and let me tell you she is the best mother everrrrr!!
biggles hon please stay positive and you know if u ever need and ear i have two
xoxoxo
As for the little guy...he is proud of you..you are his daddy!! And if he was old enough to understand he would see that you are: resourceful, kind, determined, funny, positive and hard working---aren't they wonderful qualities to pass on to him. These are the qualities that i admire in my mother who raised 9 kids after my dad died when i was very young and let me tell you she is the best mother everrrrr!!
biggles hon please stay positive and you know if u ever need and ear i have two
xoxoxo 
Master of Sex
Don't do it is all I can say!
Use the opportunity of having time on your hands to be with your little boy as much as you can. I'm sure he would much rather have you around than 100's of miles away doing something you'd probably come to hate as it would keep you away from him.
He is very young and having a daddy is more important right now than what daddy does for a living. Circumstances always change hun.... hang in there....
Jax
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Orgasminator
oh no biggles dont do it your little boy needs his dad close by try and do as worship said try fas or go on a course . biggles think on it hun you be missed xxxxxxxxxxxx suzie
Hi Biggles...........my heart goes out to you hun...and i can understand your frustration only too well.. I dont think joining the french foreign legion is the answer hun.....your little boy needs you here with him hun and he doesnt care that you are unemployed at the moment all he cares is that his daddy loves him and is there for him.....kids are like that hun....as long as they know they are loved their parents are people they will always be proud of.. Biggles hun I had to leave my kids in Canada while I forged a new life out for myself and them here in Ireland they always said to me while they missed me terribly they knew they were loved and thats what meant more to them than anything and they are here with me now and very happy.........kids dont need money hun they need love and from what i have got to know of you in chat you have so much give to your son...........things will get better hun...keep thinking positive ......and enjoy your little boy.....time flies by so fast..........all your son wants is his daddy hun .............
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I always had a strong belief that it is vital your kids see you get up each morning and go to work; that staying home just was not an option. Like yourself my job is no longer there for me but I have had a fantastic summer. I have not had to do the drill sergeant bit in the morning when we are running late.........'move it, move it, move it'!.
While I still believe it is important that you instill a work ethic in your children, at these young ages other actions have a greater effect. Being there for them more than they are used to, taking relaxed unhurried time with them, actually being relaxed but not exhausted after a weeks work is something they are going to derive more security and enjoyment from.
Yes you feel like this because you actually have a will to work, but rght now life has handed us lemons and I'm loving the long cool drinks of lemonade. Take this time to reinforce the bond you have with your son, you certainly wouldn't be doing this whilst in another country.
While I still believe it is important that you instill a work ethic in your children, at these young ages other actions have a greater effect. Being there for them more than they are used to, taking relaxed unhurried time with them, actually being relaxed but not exhausted after a weeks work is something they are going to derive more security and enjoyment from.
Yes you feel like this because you actually have a will to work, but rght now life has handed us lemons and I'm loving the long cool drinks of lemonade. Take this time to reinforce the bond you have with your son, you certainly wouldn't be doing this whilst in another country.
Having been unemployed since November 2008 I can empathise with you, Biggles but I can also back up what the others have said.
Small children don't understand the 'work ethic' that drives us as adults - all they know is they like having their parents there for them.
FAS is usually a great doorway to trying new things or updating skills you have not been actively applying - but also check out your local colleges - and the VEC - they also run 'upskilling' programmes so you can do a short course as a 'tryout' to see what you might like to be doing with your time. It isn't the same as a job - but at least you'd be using your brains/hands/time and saving your sanity at the same time.
I undertook courses recently and I'm so glad I did.
Take Heart - and value your time with your child - they really do grow up so fast.
Small children don't understand the 'work ethic' that drives us as adults - all they know is they like having their parents there for them.
FAS is usually a great doorway to trying new things or updating skills you have not been actively applying - but also check out your local colleges - and the VEC - they also run 'upskilling' programmes so you can do a short course as a 'tryout' to see what you might like to be doing with your time. It isn't the same as a job - but at least you'd be using your brains/hands/time and saving your sanity at the same time.
I undertook courses recently and I'm so glad I did.
Take Heart - and value your time with your child - they really do grow up so fast.
Biggles.
As far as i know the Legion as such has been disbanded, it was primary used when France was a colonial power. The soldiers left have been integrated into the main French army. It still exists but now is only on show for ceremonial purposes.
Being unemployed is difficult but opportunities appear when least expected so keep faith and something will turn up. i wish you well . Your little one will always look at you with pride.
Thanks for all your replies i have been to FAS to ask for funding for a Law Enforcement course i wanted do so i could stay in Ireland the course was alot of money but was told it was to much money to fund . If i joined the Legion i would fully qualifed an able to set up on my would help with my sons futcher and would give him a bit of security i'm just hopen that i will find work soon if i found work in Ireland i would'nt even dream about leaving.
Biggles I agree with all that has been said I dont know anything bout the FL but anything I have ever heard about it was not good.
I know exactly how you are feeling but rather than look for jobs that are just not out there, I am returning to education this week.
Use this time to better yourself and do a course in something that has always interested you, there may be a waiting list just apply for a few of them.
Then when this sad sorry island of ours comes good again you will have the expertise to apply for a job of interest.
Chin up
I know exactly how you are feeling but rather than look for jobs that are just not out there, I am returning to education this week.
Use this time to better yourself and do a course in something that has always interested you, there may be a waiting list just apply for a few of them.
Then when this sad sorry island of ours comes good again you will have the expertise to apply for a job of interest.
Chin up
Aww biggles hun :therethere: nothing i can say that hasnt been already said.. only to echo the wise words that all above have said to you.. most important thing ive learned is that all the kiddies want is your time.. dont matter what ya do with em as long as it something you do together... Chin up hun :rose:
Sex God
i saw an ad in d indo earlier dis week that d efence forces r recruitin again,its on page10 of thursdays business section check out defence forces web site, was kinda suprised 2 c it der meself
Dont really know what to say Biggles. We dont have kids (yet) and I sort of know someone who was in the FFL but to be honest I didnt know him before he was in it and those that do know him say it changed him for the worse. In regards of being unemployed, all I can say is chin up as there are a lot of people out there in the same boat as you. You are not a loser dad, its just circumstances that many find themselves in today are not of their own doing. I'm sure your son idolises you, you are his hero, and that would be what I would focus on if I were you. I can really only echo what others have said here. Dont go, you would rather see your son as much as you can and I'm sure the feeling is mutual with him. You are his role model, his idol, and his hero. Be there, teach him new words, teach him to read as he gets older. Doing that will no doubt bring pride to you as he grows. Money and jobs arent everything. My dad is loaded, but was never there as I grew up. Id have preferred a poor dad who I couldve gone to for advice, over a rich one that didnt give a fuck. Your son is your life. teach him, mould him into someone who believes in himself and into someone with strength of character.
Just my advice, Im no professional life structural engineer, but we all seem to be saying the same thing to you. Plus, if you did go, who would make us all laugh on here with their great jokes and wisecracks?
Sex God
nice 1 hope ya get it
French foreign legion....you wont get to see your son for two years, as you wont get your first leave any where in Europe for the first year and it will only be after the second year...maybe you might be given permission to come home to Ireland for leave [foreign legion hold your passport for the duration of your service, except when permission for leave is given.
Pay..less than Irish army,
Risks....far greater than Irish army,
f.a.s is a better option than both ffl or idf.
lol biggs just take this into account the ffl are famous not for winning battles but for standing to the last man lol worked with them in down town Lebanon a few years ago they look good, smell good, have no manners and to me just a bunch of girls in big girls blouses lol:wank:. Give me a paddy soldier any time them is the best ever lol. Done 23 years would do it again if bonns let me and emmmm was 30 years younger hehehehehe
baba engineer rtd :thumbup::violin:
I sympathize with you Biggles. Trying to find work myself. I apply, apply, apply and nothing is happening. I just finished a masters program so I am planning to go on for my PhD as well. Needless to say, I'm looking at colleges outside of Ireland. Not only is it hard to find work, but the cost of everything here is rising- car tax, energy, school books, etc. Getting to the point where I can't afford to live here anymore! I honestly don't want to leave the country but my options are becoming more limited by the day.
Sex God
Iv nothing to add only what iv already said to you in chat,but i hope it works out for u hun regarding the irish one Always was fond of a man in uniform :lick::lick::lick:
Always was fond of a man in uniform :lick::lick::lick: Its tough man, but hang in there, and you should consider volunteering as that can often lead you into doing something else.
I know two guys that did the FFL thing and both hated every minute of it and basically lost all their relationship with their kids as they where away for so long.
Kids grow so fast, so enjoy them while you can, and something will come up for you im sure.
Sean
