Ya got the attending figures for our M&G slightly wrong there alan, in fairness to the guys who did attend, we had a total of 20 guys show up on fri and 20 girls, granted sat we had a bit less, in total we had 35 on list knowing there would be no shows. From my experience I have sussed a patern, the guys are willing to go on friday, but rather hedge their bets on sat as they dont want the M&G interferring with their normal socials, that how I see it anyhow. The majority of guys using the site are on a whole dif wave lenght when it comes to M&Gs, and I honestly dont think that will ever change, sadly the time waster single guys are giving the genuine single guys a bad rep as many a time they get tarred with the one brush.
I would truly love to see just for once, the single guys outnumber the fems at a M&G,but honestly, to get that your gonna have to invite every man and his dog and a few undesirables for good measure...but would love to be proved wrong, and I'm hoping amber is the wan to do it for me,cos then I give her a whole crunchie all for herself, not just a bit of one :giggle:
I would give anything to see the single guys outnumber the single girls, would make for a very interesting night. I'm sure they'd love it :giggle::giggle: ( as would the girls )
Single lads I couldn't agree more with alan, sherri Amber and midnight. Last weekend was my very first meet, and yes I was a little nervous. But everyone is soooo sound! Girls are lovely, great craic and non judgemental. I am so glad I went, and had a brill time, I thank you ladies (you kno who you are ;) ) So single lads, it's sink or swim, and If you go with your head and cock properly screwed on, you'll have a great time. What's the worst that can happen??
i chickened out... but not next time promise
Meet-And-Greets are nerve-racking - even for the Not-So-Newbies!
There's a fine line to tread - you can appear to be too keen, if you obsessively approach everyone there. Or you can seem like a shy wallflower if you sit back and wait for the others to come introduce themselves.
I was lucky - I went to my first meet in Dublin and it was only the girls there at the beginning. The boys trailed in later - when they'd had a few pints of dutch courage - which is not always a god thing. More embarrassment is caused by being drunk than by being shy or nervous.
My advice to the Newbies, would be get there early, meet the organiser and let them help by introducing you to the next arrivals all the way - till you get into the Swing
So long as you keep smiling, stay friendly to all and do your share of mingling, then you will have a great night out, and meet a few folks on which to build your network.
You don't have to meet EVERYONE in the one night - give yourself an reason to come back for the next M&G :giggle:
In the last three years while I've been running M&Gs in Cork, I reckon that only bout 20% of the single guys who SAY they'll turn out - actually turn out - the others chicken out! Get your brave up Lads, you'll find your experience around the site is much improved once you've proved you're not a scaredy-cat and gone to the M&Gs.
You're gettin no Crunchies Sherri, cause you're a bold girl lol
Been to 2 M&Gs recently and find they are a great way to get to know others on the site. Everyone makes an effort to be friendly cos I guess the newbies do stand out a bit.
Its all about saying hello, introducing yourself and having a laugh. The beer calms the nerves a bit and the organizers really do put in a great effort.
We all need to grab life by the cajones, eh?
As usual in these forums that fact that some couples and women also do no shows is ignored, maybe a lot of the people who do not turn up at these meet and greets will be guys as most of the people on the site are male but let's not pretend that it's only the guys who don't turn up please. I can only speak of the meets that i've been to and for the vast majority of them there have been more men than woman at them.
Thatis a very fair point style, and it is easier to turn up as a couple than on your own, but still guys should make more of an effort to go along and join in, mind you some of the feckin criteria they have to meet before is verging on the ludicrous, seems to be the norm at some meets these days... what happened to the ethos of swinging is for all not the chosen few?????
Sorry I am not aiming this at anyone in particular, but it needs highlighted everyone has preferences but in a solely social setting surely a body beautiful is not the only criteria...
Have been some fantastic meets, people of all ages, shapes, couples , singles ect and the single guys were there in abundance....
You do have a point to an extent their style, I have not been to that many meet and greets over the years, but the ones I have been to, it has been the same story each and every time. For example, the last two I was at which I was also involved with the organising of, every fem on our list showed up both nights, every cpl bar one showed up. Now we had to keep our numbers to a set amount because of the venue size, so we try to make it as all inclusive as possible, but to get the amount of guys to match the amount of fems, we have to invite double the amount as we know a lot just wont show. But virgo is right, it is far easier to come as a cpl then as a single, and dora made a point earlier in that the fems tend to be more conversationalists and bond more which I think is true.
I still maintain the guys outlook on using the site and swinging in the overall is different to the fems and cpls, but that’s just my personal opinion. As to criteria, with being involved in organising yes there has been one in place with the meets I have been involved in, but it is this, to have a properly made out profile, to have pictures, be they private or public it doesn’t matter, to not be a trouble maker or an abuser. Thereafter looks, age, size, length of time on site, etc, etc does not come into play, as members who have attended those meets will vouch for.
Finally I must say, all the guys that attended the meets I have ever been at were all gents, knew how to behave and have a good time and everyone enjoyed their company, I would just love to see more attending. In the overall scheme of things any probs that I saw arise at recent meets stemmed from certain cpls whose behaviour I was disgusted with, I have never seen a single guy ever at a meet to act in such a manner as to put everyone privacy and discretion at risk, and for that I applaud them.
So to any newbie guys and older regs who are reading this, take the chance, go to a meet and greet, every organiser I know goes out of their way to make everyone welcome, and more so the nervous newbies, and if you attend, you will see a great bunch of lovely ppl just out for a good night of socialising and making connections, which is what the meets are all about!!
Sherri an excellent post and I as you know respect all the comments, but as someone in the past who made a mistake at a meet,and was indiscreet albeit not intentionaly, I can hazard a guess as to why my mail asking to attend a recent meet was ignored, I do know others who applied after me and they recieved inviatations....
Perhaps in the future a sub-note for swingmeets could be added , please do not mail if you have offended someone attending would save on the cofusion...
Or a simple mail from the organisers outlining why someone is not welcome, I appreciate all mail can not be ans but exceptions can be made..
Thanks Virgogirlx
Virgo, you know how I feel about you hun, but no disrespect here when I say, this thread is about single males attending not about swingmeets. But as I did bring up the criteria laid down in my reply to your previous post, you do have a point. However it has to be taken into consideration that swingmeets (and any other organiser of big events I am sure) literally gets hundreds of mails looking to attend their meet and greets. It is physically impossibly to reply to each and every one. It doesn’t work on a first come first served basis, it works on does the member fulfil the criteria, and if they do then they go on an accepted list to be possibly mailed later, and if not then on to the declined list. Not even everyone on the accepted list gets mail as once the quota is filled their then put on the reserve list. As said previously swingmeets have a quota because of the venue size. To reply to one would mean to reply to everyone, and you’d have to be logged in constantly and do nothing else but deal with mail to get it done, none of the team have time to do that.
IF swingmeets ever organises another meet, maybe it should be considered to post the criteria a member needs to fulfil to get on list on the end of the advert, but I personally feel that it will be totally ignored, as very few read it in full, hell some can’t even read and follow 3 simple rules laid down.
It should be looked at akin to party invites, if you don’t hear back from organisers, then it’s a given you didn’t make the list. The team will not get into ping pong mail from initially sending mail stating why a member has been declined, as happens in chat whispers when the account is active prior to meets, as some members can’t accept they were declined. I’m not sure how the other organisers manage their declined lists, or even if they have any.
I would also like to say, that anyone ever declined should not take it on a personal level, as its never meant in that vein. Swingmeets organise the meets with the overall collective of members attending in mind, but even we make mistakes, and just because a member makes it on to the list having fulfilled the criteria, does not mean their not going to create problems at the event, likewise a member declined because of a previous incident may not cause a problem if invited to next one. Its like a no win situation, your dammed if you do, and dammed if you don’t.
But finally one thing that I will say, without the people that get off their backsides and put their thoughts into action and actually organise meets for members of the site, the members experience of the site would be poorer without them, the meets help add to the spirit and vibrancy of the swinging community, and sure, its not always possible to get to some, but there are always others.
Jasus I’m worn out after that :giggle:
Reading this makes me so sad that Sherri has gone. I truly hope that she comes back. She was a really excellent mod and is a super intelligent, beautiful person.
I am disappointed to see Sherri is gone, I always found her very helpful & although we had some dis-agreements in the forums we respected each others opinion.
She should definitely not feel responsible for the childish & indiscret activities of others, personally I hope she does return , she is a great loss to the site.
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....get in bleedin line:kick: :giggle:
) that it is only the guys all the time that don't show up, for example i have been at a meet before where there were about 3 women there and nearly 8/10 guys (can't remember the exact numbers) so it does happen. I can only draw on the experience of the meets before that I've been at as i don't bother with any of the ones organized on this site.
u didn't say good-bye :(