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It does seem that way at first NG....yes there are some clicks of sorts but a lot of it is in my opinion people who are genuine friends..some have been here a long time and have built up friendships that go beyond swinging...
It does get frustrating when you're in chat trying to join in and you feel you are being left out..we were like idiots for months in chat waiting to be part of the rooms,but ya do get to know whos who and have to say there are those who, like Ginger and ourselves who chat to all....We are definitley not part of any clicks but we have made a few friends who we have the craic with...
Bear with it hun it does get better
Mrs D xxx
When you say clicks I think I know what you mean, but those clicks that you speak of are just people who have persevered on here, gotten to know people and have made connections and formed friendships. Its not an "Im with these people and you are with those people" kind of thing.
Most people in these "clicks" that you speak of are very friendly and will engage in converstation with you, however just coming into the room and saying hello will not get you far. Try opening up some dialogue with other members and you will soon see that you and others will have a lot more in common than you think. Yes, I understand that it takes time to build rapport with people on here, just as it does in civillian life so dont let that dissuade you from enjoying yourself here.
As in not fitting people's criteria, you have some really nice comments on your profile from people you have met on here, and I know for a fact that you have been invited to at least one private house party on here, so I would say that you definitely fit the criteria here for people looking for good safe clean fun. And to be fair, you are a very attractive girl, so the party invites should be flying into your mailbox.
Sure, finding your feet, and making connections in this lifestyle can take time and effort, but if you just hang in there I know you will be hitting heights that you never thought existed, and you will have more friends on here than you thought possible.
Chin up girl, and keep moving forward :thumbup:
I talks to all, and most talk back, but not all, but hey thats life.
Naughty dont ever feel like an outsider if i'm around as im only too happy to talk to anyone about anything.
You gets to know people with time and i can be a bit offputting when there alot that know each other in the room, but i'm sure you will get to know people in time yourself and will feel much more comfortable.
Hopes you can work through whats bugging you, and we see you in chat soon.
Sean xx
Sexlightened
Quote by Naughtygirl1
Hummm i wonder how long you have to be on this site to not feel like an outsider and get into the 'click' that seems to be on here. I mustn't fit the criteria
Not really a qusetion but more of an observation from my point of view.
Anyway happy swinging to the rest of you's
come into my parlour said the spider to the fly........naughty i know things...stick with me and il help ya out..
and you definately fit the criteria ..your gawjuss......but seriously can be hard enough i only really got to know peeps on here after attending a few meet n greets ..and the occasional meet..its kinda hard not to end up chatting tothese folks when ya know them but what im trying to say i suppose is stick with it .. and beware of that gingerfire she will corrupt you beyond high heaven 
:lol: :lol: 
Orgasminator
hi naughtygirl there can be clicks on here but as they say come into chat it is great fun and come to suzies chat that my room which can be friendly xxxxxxxxxxxx
wonders who the two are in kks click :swingingchair: ....and got to say col good reply agree 100%,so called clicks are groups of friends who meet regulary and have formed good friendships on here,like anything it takes time to get to know people,and id be happy to invite you to a party to meet some new people if your up for it,anyway best of luck with it xxx
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and NG , stick with it hun it will all ''cum gud'' in the endWell said naughty-girl we have been here two years and still find it that way.:taz:
The best way to enjoy this site we have found is be yourself and dont worry about
clicks and so on. You will definetley make good friends in a short time like we have.:bounce:
But if KK has any moe application forms please feel free to send us one :small-print:. Always feel free to say hi when you see us in chat 
Hi NG
I don't see you in chat much but any time I have I have tried to talk to you. the chat can move fast and can be hard to keep up with.
Stick with it you will be fine and judging by your pictures you will be most popular on here
I honestly don't understand these clicks on here
If you don't like someone don't talk to them, but don't rude to them.
But judging by what I have heard about them it seem (and it is the ladies in particular) they don't seem content with not talking to some one but have to bad mouth them to others and insist that if you are friends with them you cant be friends with us/me. I have also had it said to me that if you play with her I wont play with you.
Come on folks we are adults here this is not the school playground
Quote by kirishlad
I honestly don't understand these clicks on here
If you don't like someone don't talk to them, but don't rude to them.
But judging by what I have heard about them it seem (and it is the ladies in particular) they don't seem content with not talking to some one but have to bad mouth them to others and insist that if you are friends with them you cant be friends with us/me. I have also had it said to me that if you play with her I wont play with you.
Come on folks we are adults here this is not the school playground
Klad, Ive always got on with you and have had a few good giggles with you in chat, but what youve heard and what seems to be isnt always the truth, believe me I know first hand. Yes I know Ive been bad mouthed and lied about by some to others, but it was done by someone who never actually met me in person. Does it bother me? Yeah sometimes, but the folks that have met me know what I'm like, so I'm not so bothered with being bad mouthed that much, and being pissed off about it only gives them what they want so its better to just let it slide. (A brilliant mod on here gave me that advice)
And what you say about being told that someone wont play with you because youve played with XXXXXX does sound bad on the surface alright, but maybe just maybe its because XXXXXX has been known to play bareback or some other genuine reason that the person would be unwilling to play with you because of your contact with XXXXXX. We all have to look after our health, its not pre 1984 here and the threat of HIV/AIDS is well known now. People fought for years to legalise the sale of condoms in Ireland, and yet the mind boggles as to why some of today's generation will gladly play without them
And finally, NG1 has 132 friends listed on her profile. Thats more than any other profile Ive seen on here, probably 3 times the amount of friends of the person behind her with the most friends that Ive seen. I really cant understand why she doesnt feel accepted on here.
XXXXX as stated above is just a reference, its not meant to be anyone in particular, as I couldnt possibly know who Klad was referring to in his post.
Naughty darlin' sorry you're not enjoying youre time and feel as if it is a personal response to you or the fact you are 'new'. Believe it or not it's something we all experienced, it's a test of your mettle if you make it through........ ha ha only joking. It's like entering earth's atmosphere from space, you might orbit for a wee while but when you find your window you shoot straight through.
Yes it seems like there are clicks, and others are quick to jump on this bandwagon, but don't get caught up in this. There are groups of friends who know each other, meet regularly and always enjoy each others company. Now if that's what you are looking for then you are definitely in the right place. I have been very lucky here in that I was quite shy when I first joined. I only whispered and met single guys, but then I got chatting to a female member of a couple and had a blast. Eventually we all met up and things just took off from there, it's the best thing I ever did. It's through this friendship..........oh excuse me, it's from joining this click...... that I met so many more lovely members on this site and had the opportunity to attend parties and meet n greets, cus this couple let me tag along. I have had the best laughs on nights out through this place and have made some fantastic memories, but I was on site for about 18 months before this happened. You're doing fine so far, stick with it and don't let your outlook become jaded prematurely.
Yes it seems like there are clicks, and others are quick to jump on this bandwagon, but don't get caught up in this. There are groups of friends who know each other, meet regularly and always enjoy each others company. Now if that's what you are looking for then you are definitely in the right place. I have been very lucky here in that I was quite shy when I first joined. I only whispered and met single guys, but then I got chatting to a female member of a couple and had a blast. Eventually we all met up and things just took off from there, it's the best thing I ever did. It's through this friendship..........oh excuse me, it's from joining this click...... that I met so many more lovely members on this site and had the opportunity to attend parties and meet n greets, cus this couple let me tag along. I have had the best laughs on nights out through this place and have made some fantastic memories, but I was on site for about 18 months before this happened. You're doing fine so far, stick with it and don't let your outlook become jaded prematurely.
Sex God
I'm always flumoxed when people go onabout clicks, yeah they are what you perceive when your outside a certain group.
Its been in most people since the first days at school, we all start on our own and see the craic etc going on with those that have a commonality, camaraderie, whatever ya want to call it, same applies here in forums, chat etc. The thing is, once people find a few others in common with (in effect finding they're own click)they stop complaining about it.
THere are many types of chatters, they all have they're own reasons for being here and
being able to identify them might help if its a thing the whole things affecting your experiences, that much.
1. 'The social chatters'
Those who like to immerse themselves in the craic on here,quickly make acquaintances and seem to chat so much so at times you wonder are they just here to chinwag.
2. 'The Goal orientated'
Those who use chat purely to line up some fun and do whatever 'Ground work' is required to achieve the Fun.
3. 'Limbo chatters'
Those that float about the room and sit in the corner watching the rest and either being crippled by shyness or lack of social skills just watch chat not know what to say or do.
4.'The quick thrill merchants'
They're the ones that rant and rave looking to 'see more' 'get yer tits out' or 'God if I was you mate I'd be riding her across that sofa and not just chatting to her' etc when people are on cam, as soon as they shoot they're bolt, they run for the door til the next time they get a horn.
The first question they ask a couple in chat is 'Is this the male or the female, then scarper to the next person when hubby happens to confirm its him online. They want to get in a whisper about 30 seconds after initial contact in chat, they get snotty when you refuse to chat to them, they normally make it pretty obvious they more than likely have they're cock in one hand as they try and type with the other.
Naughtygirl you get out of this what you put in, plain and simple, if you get burned on here you just have to dust yourself down and be aware of what you do and don't want and just avoid the situations in future.
Titan79,
Quote by unknownduo
Well said naughty-girl we have been here two years and still find it that way.:taz:
The best way to enjoy this site we have found is be yourself and dont worry about
clicks and so on. You will definetley make good friends in a short time like we have.:bounce:
But if KK has any moe application forms please feel free to send us one :small-print:. Always feel free to say hi when you see us in chat
well said unknownduo there are some clicks and it can be sometimes over wellming but there are some very genuine folks that are dead on and just want to have fun and be able point you in the right direction so on so forth so dont let it get you down or anything else hun, as they say keep knocking and the right peeps will answer you always!
hi dragon here..... I come in chat to just relax have a laugh and i try and talk to all.. thats how i got myself known on here. As kerry and I dont get to go to a lot of meet and greets we make sure we get known in chat and i also post on forums.... what you get out of the site (as in life) is what you put into it...but am sorry you feel that way ng and hope you persevere and start to have a good time on here xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx drags xxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by alicolwic
I honestly don't understand these clicks on here
If you don't like someone don't talk to them, but don't rude to them.
But judging by what I have heard about them it seem (and it is the ladies in particular) they don't seem content with not talking to some one but have to bad mouth them to others and insist that if you are friends with them you cant be friends with us/me. I have also had it said to me that if you play with her I wont play with you.
Come on folks we are adults here this is not the school playground
Klad, Ive always got on with you and have had a few good giggles with you in chat, but what youve heard and what seems to be isnt always the truth, believe me I know first hand. Yes I know Ive been bad mouthed and lied about by some to others, but it was done by someone who never actually met me in person. Does it bother me? Yeah sometimes, but the folks that have met me know what I'm like, so I'm not so bothered with being bad mouthed that much, and being pissed off about it only gives them what they want so its better to just let it slide. (A brilliant mod on here gave me that advice)
And what you say about being told that someone wont play with you because youve played with XXXXXX does sound bad on the surface alright, but maybe just maybe its because XXXXXX has been known to play bareback or some other genuine reason that the person would be unwilling to play with you because of your contact with XXXXXX. We all have to look after our health, its not pre 1984 here and the threat of HIV/AIDS is well known now. People fought for years to legalise the sale of condoms in Ireland, and yet the mind boggles as to why some of today's generation will gladly play without them
And finally, NG1 has 132 friends listed on her profile. Thats more than any other profile Ive seen on here, probably 3 times the amount of friends of the person behind her with the most friends that Ive seen. I really cant understand why she doesnt feel accepted on here.
XXXXX as stated above is just a reference, its not meant to be anyone in particular, as I couldnt possibly know who Klad was referring to in his post.
Alico Im sure you wern't suggesting that I play bareback but just to make it absolutely 100% clear I never have and never would under any circumstances engage in intercourse with a causal partner without a condom
Quote by kirishlad
I honestly don't understand these clicks on here
If you don't like someone don't talk to them, but don't rude to them.
But judging by what I have heard about them it seem (and it is the ladies in particular) they don't seem content with not talking to some one but have to bad mouth them to others and insist that if you are friends with them you cant be friends with us/me. I have also had it said to me that if you play with her I wont play with you.
Come on folks we are adults here this is not the school playground
Klad, Ive always got on with you and have had a few good giggles with you in chat, but what youve heard and what seems to be isnt always the truth, believe me I know first hand. Yes I know Ive been bad mouthed and lied about by some to others, but it was done by someone who never actually met me in person. Does it bother me? Yeah sometimes, but the folks that have met me know what I'm like, so I'm not so bothered with being bad mouthed that much, and being pissed off about it only gives them what they want so its better to just let it slide. (A brilliant mod on here gave me that advice)
And what you say about being told that someone wont play with you because youve played with XXXXXX does sound bad on the surface alright, but maybe just maybe its because XXXXXX has been known to play bareback or some other genuine reason that the person would be unwilling to play with you because of your contact with XXXXXX. We all have to look after our health, its not pre 1984 here and the threat of HIV/AIDS is well known now. People fought for years to legalise the sale of condoms in Ireland, and yet the mind boggles as to why some of today's generation will gladly play without them
And finally, NG1 has 132 friends listed on her profile. Thats more than any other profile Ive seen on here, probably 3 times the amount of friends of the person behind her with the most friends that Ive seen. I really cant understand why she doesnt feel accepted on here.
XXXXX as stated above is just a reference, its not meant to be anyone in particular, as I couldnt possibly know who Klad was referring to in his post.
Alico Im sure you wern't suggesting that I play bareback but just to make it absolutely 100% clear I never have and never would under any circumstances engage in intercourse with a causal partner without a condom
No Klad, definitely not. Thats not what I meant. What I meant was that you said that a girl told you she wouldnt play with you because you played with some other girl, and maybe its because this girl you did play with has been known to play bareback. Thats not to say you played bareback while in this girls company. That wasnt the point I was making. Peace man :thumbup:
Also I cant understand why this post is underlined :dunno: I didnt underline it
Quote by TITAN79
THere are many types of chatters, they all have they're own reasons for being here and being able to identify them might help if its a thing the whole things affecting your experiences, that much.
1. 'The social chatters'
Those who like to immerse themselves in the craic on here,quickly make acquaintances and seem to chat so much so at times you wonder are they just here to chinwag.
^^^ Too many of these on the site, all talk no action, but hey its their money their spending
2. 'The Goal orientated'
Those who use chat purely to line up some fun and do whatever 'Ground work' is required to achieve the Fun.
^^^ My kinda people, the site needs more of these
3. 'Limbo chatters'
Those that float about the room and sit in the corner watching the rest and either being crippled by shyness or lack of social skills just watch chat not know what to say or do.
^^^ A good few of these on site. Theres a cap on rooms, so if you dont wana chat, give your seat to someone that does
4.'The quick thrill merchants'
They're the ones that rant and rave looking to 'see more' 'get yer tits out' or 'God if I was you mate I'd be riding her across that sofa and not just chatting to her' etc when people are on cam, as soon as they shoot they're bolt, they run for the door til the next time they get a horn.
The first question they ask a couple in chat is 'Is this the male or the female, then scarper to the next person when hubby happens to confirm its him online. They want to get in a whisper about 30 seconds after initial contact in chat, they get snotty when you refuse to chat to them, they normally make it pretty obvious they more than likely have they're cock in one hand as they try and type with the other.
^^^ These are the saddest of all in my opinion
Titan79,
Great post Titan as usual :thumbup:
PS: The red font above is my input on Titan's post
