As a committed swinging dude, I spend my days sending invites and gallery invites, mostly to blank responses! Now I realise that ladies and couples get a plethora of message everyday, but would a quick "not interested", save so much time for all involved.
Even, a simple "No" should get the point across.
After that, if they persist or take offence, block em' and forget them.
Is this legit? Genuine question, not sarkie, I swear ;)
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Hiya,
Well we met you at a party in Dublin a year or so ago (maybe two) and you were a sound and easygoing guy. Mrs Sugar said she'd play with you and she is really picky so thats a good thing.
Your comments are not viewable, which can make people not answer your mails. Most people, if they are interested in meeting you, will want to see what comments other members have left. Its regular practice here and gives members peace of mind somewhat. Open up your comments my man, it will only do you good. We will leave a comment for you no probs, and we will verify you also 
Get yourself to a M&G and get to know cpls & singles. Youre not a bad looking fella so you should have no probs getting into company with other members and shooting the breeze with them. Do this and you will see your comments shoot up in numbers. This will help you significantly.
Finally, not many swingers of today's era will meet someone because they received a mail. In the past yes, but not so much now. Cold meets are a thing of the past and receiving an email out of the blue doesnt really kickstart another member's desire to meet. If anything they will just see your mail as something they can delete (And I'm not saying that in a smart alecky way, I'm just telling you straight) after giving it the once over, if they even give it that.
You gotta remember that most cpls & single females get snowed under with mails from single lads, so they will just see your mail as another single lad trying his best - which you arent doing - but most wont see that. So maybe a meet & greet, or even a party if you can get yourself an invite.
But definitely a M&G should be your first priority :)
Hope that helps buddy.
Take Care :)
Get yourself to a M&G and get to know cpls & singles. Youre not a bad looking fella so you should have no probs getting into company with other members and shooting the breeze with them. Do this and you will see your comments shoot up in numbers. This will help you significantly.
Finally, not many swingers of today's era will meet someone because they received a mail. In the past yes, but not so much now. Cold meets are a thing of the past and receiving an email out of the blue doesnt really kickstart another member's desire to meet. If anything they will just see your mail as something they can delete (And I'm not saying that in a smart alecky way, I'm just telling you straight) after giving it the once over, if they even give it that.
You gotta remember that most cpls & single females get snowed under with mails from single lads, so they will just see your mail as another single lad trying his best - which you arent doing - but most wont see that. So maybe a meet & greet, or even a party if you can get yourself an invite.
But definitely a M&G should be your first priority :)
Hope that helps buddy.
Take Care :) Quote by Sugarloaf
You gotta remember that most cpls & single females get snowed under with mails from single lads, so they will just see your mail as another single lad trying his best - which you arent doing - but most wont see that. So maybe a meet & greet, or even a party if you can get yourself an invite.
But definitely a M&G should be your first priority
Hope that helps buddy.
Take Care :)
Or the chat room! We all have our preferred way of interacting here, if you were to use me as an example I'm not mad on emails. With regard to a potential meet, I would be a chatter and would probably require more interaction than some might find necessary or even interesting. But as said, if you are relying in the majority on one method of establishing contact you are limiting yourself, I don't write back to certain pizza fanchises saying thanks for your flyer but I don't like your pizza sauce! That's the way it is, like it or lump it. My time online is mine to spend as I wish and replying to mail is seldom top of the list unless it's from someone I've had some form of contact with before, or if I can tell from the comments is someone known to people whos opinions I would rate here. Also, I'm unclear as to how a couple responding to you saying 'no thanks' is saving you time, you've already sent the mail and seem to be saying you don't send persistent mails. Is it time or manners?
I agree with what was said here...also, the CONTENT of the mail makes a huge difference. If it's a stock mail that is clearly sent to dozens of people with no indication that you've read my profile, other than the part that says FEMALE, I will ignore it and not answer. If you take the time to write to me personally, then I will answer. It'll either be yes, let's chat some more or no thank you.
The problem with the no thank you response (whether it's by mail or in the chat room) is that it is SOMETIMES (not always) followed by a series of questions about why I am not interested. The first few of those you might feel generous and maybe help a new member out on how to make their appeal more appealing or their profile more interesting but after a while, it gets to be too much like hard work and like mids said, my time on here is to use how I wish...
Good luck in your search!
Master of Sex
I wouldn't worry about it pal. Sure nobody replies to my messages most of the time. Keep plugging away and you're bound to strike it lucky. Keep the chin up and have some faith
I'm enlightened folks,
on reflection i'm sure not all dudes would be content with a "not intereseted" and may play the psycho card...
As for the initial messages, what i had done up to this, is looked for any profiles saying "looking for - straight male", and sent a brief introductory message, which don't seem to work!
Sooooooooo, and what seems most important, I'm just gonna attend the next M & G and introduce myself there.
Roll on Limerick, thanks for the steer folks
You may be ruling out the fact that a lot of couples and single females have the emails from single guys all blocked so perhaps some of the reason you are not getting replys are they are just not getting your emails.
Focus on the forum and the Chatroom as its much more interactive and people will get to know you better.
And good luck on your search ..
