swinging cna bring out the best in people....and the worst. seeing your partner having sex with someone else can, in some people (and despite their best intentions) make them feel in ways they hadn't before, or thought they wouldn't. it makes no difference how long you have been together, how much you say and think that you trust your partner, you never really know how you will react until you are faced with the situation. Yes, it can enhance your social and sex lives, but it can just as easily put your relationship under a huge amount of strain. I feel sorry for the folks that come to this expecting everything to be sweetness and light and end up ruining their relationship, all for the sake of trying something new. it's all well and good saying jealousy has no place on a swing site, but cop on folks.....there are an awful lot of cpls here who are 1st timers, and if they suddenly realise that it's all going tits up for them the least you could do is cut them some slack....folks going off at them isn't exactly going to encourage them to try again, and ye never know - some of them might just be going through first-time stress and be grand once they have it out of their system and sorted in their heads. as for singles, well, it seems like there are a fair number who are here to find dates and romance rather than swing, and these are probably the ones that will cause the most problems for others. and lets not forget...plenty of people on here have.....ISSUES.....but it's probably best not to go into that too deeply lol.
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Jealousy in SW4
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first time i've looked in here cos i'd been thinking sw4 was a post-code and all i'd find was some tale of suburban paranoia from clondalkin
It has been a while since this was originally aired but I think it is worth re activating ... many new members of Swing may find the topic , views & replies interesting
Quote by user=manti
I have come across a rather strange issue here in swing that I never expected.
jealousy, if I arrange to meet somebody from here and we have set a date, does that mean I am not allowed to chat or flirt with other pll on the site, I am not looking for love thought that would be obvious after all this is a swinging site, that's twice now jealousy in swing4 has come between me and a meet.
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Quote by user=t-bags
swinging cna bring out the best in people....and the worst. seeing your partner having sex with someone else can, in some people (and despite their best intentions) make them feel in ways they hadn't before, or thought they wouldn't. it makes no difference how long you have been together, how much you say and think that you trust your partner, you never really know how you will react until you are faced with the situation. Yes, it can enhance your social and sex lives, but it can just as easily put your relationship under a huge amount of strain. I feel sorry for the folks that come to this expecting everything to be sweetness and light and end up ruining their relationship, all for the sake of trying something new. it's all well and good saying jealousy has no place on a swing site, but cop on folks.....there are an awful lot of cpls here who are 1st timers, and if they suddenly realise that it's all going tits up for them the least you could do is cut them some slack....folks going off at them isn't exactly going to encourage them to try again, and ye never know - some of them might just be going through first-time stress and be grand once they have it out of their system and sorted in their heads. as for singles, well, it seems like there are a fair number who are here to find dates and romance rather than swing, and these are probably the ones that will cause the most problems for others. and lets not forget...plenty of people on here have.....ISSUES.....but it's probably best not to go into that too deeply lol.
Andy just read your post and thanks for an insight into how jealousy can effect couples who swing..
I have always questioned how I would deal with a spouse or partner having sex with someone while I watched,or in another room, and during conversations with other members I was always honest and said I think I would find it extremely difficult to disconnect and see it just simply as sex..
It is easy to say jealousy has no place on a swing site, but Titan is right in mnay ways, we are all human, and very often a connection is made and for a teeny minute moment jealousy can rear it's head..
But it is how we deal with it, that matters, I can only speak as a single swinger who has partnered with others..as in my last relationship we both were not able to embrace the idea of sharing, very often jealousy does occur when both parties are not upfront with each other..eg.. a swing partner is not included in chats, left out of the loop so to speak, one or the other makes it obvious that they are more interested in what a potential meet has to offer them..
So it becomes a two way meet, and a partner is often left with feelings of jealousy, which if we were totaly honest about, it happens quite a lot.. I honestly believe this is why some meets break down,especialy those that involve couples, be it married or just swing partners.
perhaps I am one of the lucky ones in that I can have fun without feeling a need to "love" or have a "loving" attraction to the person ... getting on with the person & a shared interest in fun does it for me.
I have also gone to meets with ladies I would be very friendly with & because I know we are both there for the same thing, "fun" and our relationship is based on friendship & fun, jealousy has never been an issue.
