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HAS THE SITE LOST ITS APPEAL ON YOU?
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I think the same can be said of all sites , there are rude people everywhere , it has always been the case that you get back what you put in , if timewasters are an issue that crops up a lot for someone then they need to examine their selection criteria , sites just enable the interaction , its the people who make the experience either pleasurable or otherwise .People will come and go and dip in and out of these sites depending on their needs and their time to enjoy the lifestyle , at the end of the day if you need people to give you reasons why you should stay ...then the experience has obviously become stale for you .
Dragon, sorry to see you are feeling this way as I've not seen you about of late!
I go through phases whereas I need a break from the site and I find coming back refreshed after a period of time does in fact help! As I'm a member of other sites, I would agree that it's not just this site, it's the same right across the board. I have, along with a lot of other members alike you experienced timewasters and unfortunately they do pop up now and then.
If you are in this mind-set I'm not sure anyone can convince you to stay, but I wouldn't encourage you to leave altogether. Perhaps step back for a week or so and have some 'me' time to refresh and recharge ;)
I would also encourage people to park their profiles for a while and then they can pop back in and out as they see fit into the future.
Timewasters and the "all-talk" merchants are a fact of Swinging life and you shouldnt let them get you down. People drift in and drift away and depending on whats going on in peoples real life, people will have the time or not for this place.
Take a step back, refocus and come back when your ready, but just park your membership for the moment.
Hope you get your Mojo back soon.
Sean
I think the site follows the mood of soceity in general. When things were good, there was loads of banter, M&G being organised and generally a good atmosphere. I find it is much quieter now - 140 in chat and no-one chatting! Maybe people can't get away as readily anymore so the site is in a lull.
Also the number of time wasters increases with the number of people with nothing to do, its probably a sad fact of life.
My philosophy is that we choose to login and if we do then just be honest and if fun happens let it. But don't be a dick....
Ps: It is not just this site, one other site, used to have loads in Irish chat, now it is always zero.
Think timewasters and the people who are just talk are an issue everywhere not just here but on other sites as well I have found in the past and I imagine that will always be the case. It's a pain when you come across people like that but sadly there's nothing else to do but move on and hopefully be wiser for the experience.
But it also seems to me that when you go into the chatroom not alot of people bother to say hello even when you say hello to them. There more interested in looking at the sexy cams than actually chatting or flirting their bits on cam. Not to mention the silent wanker who says nothing but sends a rush of blood to his head every 5 minutes ...............oh yeah you know who you are lol. But we shall give the site a go still be it with caution. Yes other sites do also have their time wasters etc but this one does come as one of the worst.
Grumpy Kerrymale
Whatever you do, just dont leave. When it comes to swinging no other site comes close to this one. S4I is a wonderful place. However I know and Im sure most others know what you mean by losing appeal. It isnt the site I dont think, but rather your personal feelings.
Everyone goes through peaks and throughs here on site, everyone. Some decide to not log in for a few weeks or months to relax & recharge. There's nothing wrong or irregular about that. Having left the site and come back I realise that it was a good thing to do, although I will say I do wish we had just asked a Mod to put a ban on our profile for 6 months instead, as this would have saved all of our comments that we lost when we deleted our original account 
. While away from the website I concentrated on other aspects of my life and came back with a different outlook on many aspects of life and not just swinging. Im sure you will too.
Whatever you do Drags, dont leave!! Just do as most posters above have advised and just park your profile to the side until you are ready to come back. If that's what you decide to do, we will all be waiting to welcome you back with open arms.
Col
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. While away from the website I concentrated on other aspects of my life and came back with a different outlook on many aspects of life and not just swinging. Im sure you will too.
Whatever you do Drags, dont leave!! Just do as most posters above have advised and just park your profile to the side until you are ready to come back. If that's what you decide to do, we will all be waiting to welcome you back with open arms.
Col
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Sex God
If someone wants to leave thats there own decision and I for one don't believe in begging anyone to stay, if you feel that way initially you pretty well have your mind made up in my opinion.
As for getting sick of the site, hell I do find I have less and less tolerance for it of late but then again I have little time to be on here as I have had in the past, but like a few before my post have mentioned like all things your experience of the site can go through phases of transition, I do find it a bit intimidating in here at times ( I hear you say shut up you liar....You of all people!!!) but as with all things we all get some degree of comfort from a level of familiarity on any kind of web site by having people we talk to regularly etc.
If the sites for you, you go take the bad times with the good.
Plain and simple.
sorry we missed you worship but I honestly did not notice you say hello.
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kerrymale....u came in chat the other day and i said hello to you as soon as you came in...matter of fact-a huge hello w/lots of
....but you didn't reply to me :silly: and then soon left :smackbottom: .....so perhaps you missed it
...it happens :dunno:
Sexpert
it's getting better by the day :thumbup::thumbup::smitten:
:high-smile::high-smile::lickface:
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Sexpert
Think its tough with rude people and timewasters dragon ?
It is at times im sure .
Please think of the single guys without meaning to sound full of self pity
the numbers just arent in our favour .
So dragon for every wierdo and timewaster theres maybe ten guys trying to impress??
HOW BAD IS THAT HUN
Cheer you up ??
Eoin
Sex God
well we have been on site for awhile now ,,and have enjoyed ,, met some lovely people
single guys stop pretending to be a couple be up straight ,, met some lovely people on site ,,and ones we havent look forward to xx for ones that are thinking of leaveing well think yee havent stayed long enough xx there are some lovely guys on site xx and girls xx couples xxxx:thrilled:
bobbysgirl xxxx:
Actually no it hasnt. At present the site seems to be shifting and ushering in a new era.
If you dont understand what I mean then let me be clearer.
Step back 18-24 months ago and this site was so much different. There was a group of members who dominated this site, who believed that the site revolved around them, as if somehow they were the epicentre of the swing scene in Ireland. But they have now dispersed. Why? Many possible reasons.
Maybe they realised they were getting older while a whole new batch of members joined, new members in their 20's who were fresh and energetic and in some ways more appealing, and this group felt that they were no competition for the hot young newbies.
Maybe it was all the backstabbing and infighting that caused this group to implode, there was plenty of that believe me. Maybe it was that some of the main members of this group decided to leave, and the remaining members not feeling as secure as they once did, believed they had no other option but to retreat into the background because they were no longer supported by their commrades.
Maybe it was a mix of all the above and maybe some other reasons too.
That being said I think the site nowadays is fresher, healthier and in some ways a more inviting place than it has ever been. I really love the site as it stands today. Members are on an equal footing (they always were but some were made to feel that they were not by a certain contingent) and overall those who had a self perceived stranglehold on both the site and the scene are no longer "in power".
Some newbies may not know what I mean but most longtermers will know exactly what I mean. And regardless if they laud me or loathe me they will in the majority agree with me, albeit silently.
No the site has not lost its appeal on me, im actually enjoying the site and the community spirit that current members bring to it.
Moreso now than at anytime in the past
my 2 cents, i think its easy to get too caught up in the lifestyle, too let it dominate you, the site is really just a place for like minded people to get in touch with each other, like everything else there are phases times when its quieter and being the nature of the scene people come and people go. Everyone has got there own "real" lifes too cant devote 24/7 to what is essential a fun activity to be enjoyed when there is free time.
Like all other fun activities when it stops being fun its time too take a wee break. If its messing with your head so much then are you really in the right frame of mind? is there not enough in "real" life like bills, work, family drama to mess with your head?
I think people expect too much tbh, like when you see folks whinge oh ive been here 2 weeks no meets this site is crap etc like what do you expect really??
Well said kkgirl. Always liked reading your input. Spot on as usual.
Great brain in that very pretty head of yours. Never a dull moment chatting with you. Always a very balanced and informative approach from you.
Now how do I get hold of you for a good natter or to just shoot the breeze? 
call me Col just like old times :lol:
Seems im suffering from that same affliction too :-)
Are you hinting that I should call down and jump in beside you on your couch?
Now theres an invite and a half. Dont think I could resist that kind of temptation...This will prob get us hung..
But dragon you should not need anyone else to define you or encourage you into something ur unsure of! if the site has lost its appel you have to ask is it the site? Or is it you? a lot of thing sugarloaf has said ring true..
But the decision is and always will be with the person holding there own faith..do what is best for you guys dont search for others to make your own self worth...as most people here only care about what they can get out of others and will say whatever to get into your..well u no....ok ok yes harsh but sumwhat true..
Be you own guide follow ur own path but step on noone as u go and it will all work out fine...
Find your needs and your have will find you :-) ok roll on the savageing...
