WHY OH WHY 99% OF PEOPLE HERE COME TOO A SWINGING SITE TA TAKE THE PISS AND TIME WASTE ...........YES I UNDERSTAND THAT NOT EVERYONE WANTS A SINGLE BLOKE AND THATS FINE BUT WHY CANT PEOPLE BE HONEST INSTEAD OF BEING RUDE EVERYONE TO THE OWN BUT MANNERS COST FUCK ALL .......SORRY FOR THE RANT
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Warming the Bed
totally agree!!On this ages now and sent countless mails and i dont think i have gotten one reply!!im always courteous and still nothin...i go into the chatrooms a bit but hard to get involved because a small number of people seem to know eachother and just talk to themselves!!Id rather spend my time in a bedroom anyway, not in a chatroom just talkin about it...rant over,tks
I agree with sparks lads but it does take a bit of time all you need is Patience just follow the chat room rules and have respect for fellow member and you do the mail you have to remember that they are more single males on here than single females so the females do get bombarded with alot of mail in which id say that 60% of it rude mail if your not not getting replies try making the mil a little bit more interesting for that person to read and enjoy and you should grand just hang in there it all work out.
Aston I understand your frustration but agree with bugs and sparks here. As a female I do get bombarded with email I try where I can to respond but don't always not to be rude but there's just so many. Not only that but there are occasions where I have politely said no thank youth thenget a further 4 mails to try persuade me otherwise and the effect this has is u just stop replying to people.
Chatrooms are definitely a good place to get chatting have a bit ofbanter. Dont ask to whisper after 1 or 2 responses and don't whisper without asking. At the end of the day chat the wayu would in a normal non swing situation. It might be a swinging site but that doesnt mean every female wants to jump on every man who speaks to her
Just percavere Hun. If it's not working for you well up to u what you want todo about that.
Kitten x
.............cheers for the reply ta me rant just letting off steamPersonally I don't reply to mail. Yes this seems rude but it's my own choice like it or lump it. Starting off here I always did but after a year or so I stopped. It got too much like a correspondence site and I was spending too much time playing email tennis that led nowhere. I make my connections in the chat room, anyone I have met has been through the chat rooms. These meets came about after long banter there.
I can't find a magic formula to help anyone make that connection. But I do find the 'click' term maddening. Those in that 'click' didn't join the site already knowing each other. They met here got on and formed friendships. They maintain contact with each other because they find they are real, trustworthy and are not short-term members. Since 2008 I have seen a lot come and go, for whatever reasons. There are people on the chat rooms that I will have the craic with and I couldn't even tell you what they look like, it's not necessary on a chat room. The chat room is the social hub of this site, to say you would rather spend your time in a bed room than a chat room perhaps isn't the right attitude. If you are in that much of a hurry to get into it a nightclub might be a better forum for you.
In general, I've said it before, when you come into a room don't just say 'hi' then complain you are being ignored....... who are you addressing that 'hi' to. Is it a whisper gone astray, are you replying to a whisper, is it a general hi to the room. Watch the chatters, see who seems the most approachable and would seem to be conducting most of their chat on the main room. Say hi to them by name and try to go from there. If the room is moving fast, don't take an ignored comment as a snub, it simply might have gotten overlooked in the lines of main screen and whispered text. As for not getting invites, sure how would you as an unknown entity, it stands to reason that those who are known and shown themselves as desirable guests will get priority.
At the end of the day each one of us was a newbie at some stage, we persevered and didn't let the supposed 'click' intimidate us. We all have our stories of what could have put us off...... I for one was too shy to chat on the main room for a long time. Then there was the rumour that I was a man........ but that's a different story!
I can't find a magic formula to help anyone make that connection. But I do find the 'click' term maddening. Those in that 'click' didn't join the site already knowing each other. They met here got on and formed friendships. They maintain contact with each other because they find they are real, trustworthy and are not short-term members. Since 2008 I have seen a lot come and go, for whatever reasons. There are people on the chat rooms that I will have the craic with and I couldn't even tell you what they look like, it's not necessary on a chat room. The chat room is the social hub of this site, to say you would rather spend your time in a bed room than a chat room perhaps isn't the right attitude. If you are in that much of a hurry to get into it a nightclub might be a better forum for you.
In general, I've said it before, when you come into a room don't just say 'hi' then complain you are being ignored....... who are you addressing that 'hi' to. Is it a whisper gone astray, are you replying to a whisper, is it a general hi to the room. Watch the chatters, see who seems the most approachable and would seem to be conducting most of their chat on the main room. Say hi to them by name and try to go from there. If the room is moving fast, don't take an ignored comment as a snub, it simply might have gotten overlooked in the lines of main screen and whispered text. As for not getting invites, sure how would you as an unknown entity, it stands to reason that those who are known and shown themselves as desirable guests will get priority.
At the end of the day each one of us was a newbie at some stage, we persevered and didn't let the supposed 'click' intimidate us. We all have our stories of what could have put us off...... I for one was too shy to chat on the main room for a long time. Then there was the rumour that I was a man........ but that's a different story!
I gave up sending you invites to the Cork-AllFirstFridays-club Meet-And-Greets - as you have never yet attended - therefore I gave others the chance. We currently have over 350 Members.
quote user=astonvil]true but hard wen peeps dont even chat ta ya in chatrooms let alone get invites ta "meet and greets" have replyied ta parties and meet and greet invites and no reply weeks later get SORRY FULL
quote user=astonvil]true but hard wen peeps dont even chat ta ya in chatrooms let alone get invites ta "meet and greets" have replyied ta parties and meet and greet invites and no reply weeks later get SORRY FULL
Warming the Bed
ok midnight, maybe you right...i'll make more effort in the chatroom and see how it goes....say hi if you see me!!!;)
:whistling:Its like swimming, you have to jump in and swim like the clappers for a while.
I chat to all, i chat to males and females, i rarely chat in whispers and stay in the open. It takes a while to get known or established but the rewards are so worth it.
There are some great people on the site and some of the friendliest feckers you are ever going to meet, but you have to put the effort in. If you dont someone else will.
You will get to know people through chat, then more likely to get an invite to a meet and greet, and then your away as the initial contact have been made, and like it or not, its a small community where lots of people know each other.
You are only going to get out what you are prepared to put in.
Sean
lol trust you !!!!!!!:sparring:
hwoar: member that expression on my ickle face when i say u walking out like darth maul