Has anyone on here ever had a dodgy meet? We met a couple in Kildare in 2005 (Not thru S4I) who seemed lovely on the phone. However when we arrived at their home, she was absolutely plastered and he wasnt. We waited a little and she sobered up however the dodgiest part was after we finished playing. Both the male and this male half went into the kitchen to have a ciggie and it was there out of my wifes earshot that he proposed that I come down alone next time. Curiously I asked why he would want just me and not herself. He then informed me that he likes to see his wife get plastered and then have a few guys come in and tie her up and really physically get heavey handed with her. Now I love a little slap & tickle just like any regular straight guy, but he was saying that he liked to see her really roughed up, and even went so far as to say he enjoyed seeing her actually being punched in her lady part (Dont know what words I can use here without being vulgar). I mean, how sickening is that? He liked seeing her being tied up and punched in the boobs and down below. Punched? I mean come on that is so totally over the top. He said I could do anything I wanted to her once I didnt bruise her above the neckline. However the strangest thing was he was very gentle with my wife and I would have had no idea of his real interests had he not told me himself. How can a man treat his wife like that as obviously she didnt like being treated that way, hence her being so drunk when we arrived. My guess is she got plastered as she may have thought we were going to give her the treatment she was used to receiving. For any of you folks that may think this is a wind up I assure you that I am totally being straight here. Obviously I cant and wont give names, or even the town that they lived or may still live in, just that it was in Kildare. This lady had children for this animal and had just recently given birth again. And he wanted her roughed up with punches and other things that are done with the fist. All apparently against her will. How do you report this to the cops? Do you go in and tell them you are swingers and would like to report an assault that hasnt happened yet but were invited to take part in. We didnt report it as to be fair we didnt want to end up in the newspaper or anything like that just in case. Yes we had no backbone when we should have had. So has anyone here ever had such an experience and if you did would you tell us how you handled it. Oh by the way when he told me this I immediately got dressed asked my wife to do the same and left there and then. I only told her on the way home in the car. I couldnt say it there in their house. I just had to get out of there right away when I realised his true intentions. I felt totally dirty tand so duped that he had sex with my wife while all the time having, and hiding the personality of an absolute animal.
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Has anyone on here ever had a dodgy meet? We met a couple in Kildare in 2005 (Not thru S4I) who seemed lovely on the phone. However when we arrived at their home, she was absolutely plastered and he wasnt. We waited a little and she sobered up however the dodgiest part was after we finished playing. Both the male and this male half went into the kitchen to have a ciggie and it was there out of my wifes earshot that he proposed that I come down alone next time. Curiously I asked why he would want just me and not herself. He then informed me that he likes to see his wife get plastered and then have a few guys come in and tie her up and really physically get heavey handed with her. Now I love a little slap & tickle just like any regular straight guy, but he was saying that he liked to see her really roughed up, and even went so far as to say he enjoyed seeing her actually being punched in her lady part (Dont know what words I can use here without being vulgar). I mean, how sickening is that? He liked seeing her being tied up and punched in the boobs and down below. Punched? I mean come on that is so totally over the top. He said I could do anything I wanted to her once I didnt bruise her above the neckline. However the strangest thing was he was very gentle with my wife and I would have had no idea of his real interests had he not told me himself. How can a man treat his wife like that as obviously she didnt like being treated that way, hence her being so drunk when we arrived. My guess is she got plastered as she may have thought we were going to give her the treatment she was used to receiving. For any of you folks that may think this is a wind up I assure you that I am totally being straight here. Obviously I cant and wont give names, or even the town that they lived or may still live in, just that it was in Kildare. This lady had children for this animal and had just recently given birth again. And he wanted her roughed up with punches and other things that are done with the fist. All apparently against her will. How do you report this to the cops? Do you go in and tell them you are swingers and would like to report an assault that hasnt happened yet but were invited to take part in. We didnt report it as to be fair we didnt want to end up in the newspaper or anything like that just in case. Yes we had no backbone when we should have had. So has anyone here ever had such an experience and if you did would you tell us how you handled it. Oh by the way when he told me this I immediately got dressed asked my wife to do the same and left there and then. I only told her on the way home in the car. I couldnt say it there in their house. I just had to get out of there right away when I realised his true intentions. I felt totally dirty tand so duped that he had sex with my wife while all the time having, and hiding the personality of an absolute animal.
Orgasminator
hi omg if that was me i would have afit if any male hunt me or brused me i dont know what i do just get out as quick as possible have to say no we never had that problem . as i meet alone once hubby knows and if i did not feel comfy i woould leave straight away and go home xxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
thats fucked up, that is
This is not the first time i have heard of something like this and seen it, but i have to say not on this site. I dont know how you would go about reporting it, but maybe if you contacted the police and asked their advice, but sadly unless the woman confimrs any reports the police cant do a thing. There are some sick twisted bastards out there, but thankfully there are ppl like you whob had the morals to get out of that situation. I know it is terriable to say as i was abused by my husband too but if the woman is putting up with it there is not a lot any one can do sadly.
Totally understand Ravenfire, I do some work now and then (Free of charge) for a couple of women's refuges in the greater Dublin area. So I do see the devestating effects domestic violence has on both the ladies involved and also the children too. However the initial post was more to do with sexual violence within one's home rather than normal domestic violence (Not to say domestic violence is normal). This was the first and only time I had an experience like this. It was 5 years ago now and we never contacted them again, just ignored his calls from then on. Dont know if they still live where they did back then. Thanks for the comments Ravenfire, much appreciated
holy shit. wow. I'm sorry you had to go through that.... but I'm even more sorry for that woman. I wish she had enough courage to stand up to her husband that is very obviously abusive.
I completely understand why it was difficult to report at the time. I would have to think twice about doing it myself... because as was mentioned above, you could make a report with the police and put yourselves out on the line for this woman and she could choose to not press charges. It's a big risk to take over a woman that obviously has been putting up with that kind of abuse for awhile. If she has children, she may also be less likely to report it.
You could contact the crisis center. I think they would be much more sensitive than the police, but that's just my opinion. There is nothing they haven't heard, trust me. I have several friends that have (unfortunately) had to use their services and they were very understanding.
Master of Sex
omg well dora some ladys are afriad to leave so they stay for there children but for that to happen at a meet or been asked to do to a lady i would do what all peeps should do leave the lady i think has no choice her hubby rules the rust could not imagine any man or lady for that matter wanting this done to them and enjoying it .i dont mind a slap on the ass but not a beating
not to go off topic I hope... but I think it's fair to say that some people enjoy pleasure mixed with a bit of pain. Just because a sexual encounter is more physical/violent than what we would personally prefer does not mean that someone is being forced or coerced to engage in such activities.
Who am I to say that a woman doesn't like to be tied up, gagged, hit, or punched? If that's what she wants then who am I to stop her and say otherwise.
Now, in this scenario I don't think that is the case. There are several reasons why I feel this woman is being abused: 1) she needs to get plastered beforehand to potentially withstand the beatings 2) her husband spoke about the subject without including her at all, and 3) it was kept a "secret" from the original poster and his spouse. If this was 100% her choice, etc. I feel the couple would have discussed it together without one partner or the other obviously dominating the situation. This was kept a secret for a reason and there is obviously some connection between the intoxication and increasing of pain threshold, etc.
That's my 2 cents. When I first read this thread I was saddened... but yesterday evening I thought of this again before bed and became incredibly enraged. What a terrible situation for someone to be in.
Who am I to say that a woman doesn't like to be tied up, gagged, hit, or punched? If that's what she wants then who am I to stop her and say otherwise.
Now, in this scenario I don't think that is the case. There are several reasons why I feel this woman is being abused: 1) she needs to get plastered beforehand to potentially withstand the beatings 2) her husband spoke about the subject without including her at all, and 3) it was kept a "secret" from the original poster and his spouse. If this was 100% her choice, etc. I feel the couple would have discussed it together without one partner or the other obviously dominating the situation. This was kept a secret for a reason and there is obviously some connection between the intoxication and increasing of pain threshold, etc.
That's my 2 cents. When I first read this thread I was saddened... but yesterday evening I thought of this again before bed and became incredibly enraged. What a terrible situation for someone to be in.
I think the big difference between a bit kinky and just plain wrong is the difference between pain and injury.
What that guy was proposing was inflicting injury on this woman. I don't feel that anyone would consent to be injured. As mentioned above, there are too many red flags that say this is not consensual.
As for the OP, it's difficult to make the proper call in a highly weird situation like this so don't be hard on yourself. Hopefully, this thread can even open up some eyes and give us all a bit of knowledge toward preventing or stopping this kind of abusive behavior. There is no difference between domestic violence and any other sort. It's all violence.
Ok I've done some searching and it looks like this guy is still at this stuff. Below is a link to an advert he has posted on another site. To the Mods: I'm not so sure if I am allowed to post this so if not please feel free to cancel or delete my post. Here is a link to one of his adverts, and since he has advertised, I dont see a problem in posting it other than the fact that someone here may be into it and use it to their own advantage. i'm just posting the link to prove my initial post on this matter was truthful.
Sorry Mid, wasnt so sure about it, wont do it again. So instead here is the text from an advert by this guy who likes to see his wife abused:
NOTE: This advert was not taken from S4I as Im sure it wouldnt be tolerated here.
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Hi,
30's couple. She blonde, slim, 34C trimmed, very sub, likes to be used an abused and be doing it. Likes it real rough. Male is straight and joins in the fun.
We are seeking a male or group of males tonight Saturday 15th May with some **mentions drugs** and maybe **mentions other drugs** and whatever else, to play tonight. We are near **Mentions town** in Kildare, about 30mins from Dublin.
Play tonight will be about midnight in our place.
We are 100% genuine and experienced swingers.
Email us at **Gives email address** and we will exchange numbers. She can be spoken to on phone if required.
Anyone without some **mentions drugs again** or other party stuff, please don't waste our time.
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So there you go, he not only openly advertises his fantasies, but also tries to validate it by stating that she actually enjoys it! What he doesnt go into is the exact detail of what he likes to see being done to his wife. Practices that no woman could possibly enjoy being forced upon her. And just so you all know, the practices mentioned in the OP are just the less upsetting ones, as I didnt want to go into further details for chance that I upset or distressed any member of this site. Lets just say that not only are hands and feet used to brutalise this woman but also other implements are used in varying degrees of brutality and degradation. Also, this guy states that the Fem may be spoken to on the phone before a meet occurs, however lots of women are forced to do more degrading things than answer phone calls which proves that her speaking to anyone on the phone can be easily coerced and scripted by him.
I must say though that we did not encounter any drug use while we were there, so maybe this is a new way for him to get her to be more submissive to his sick will.
Spot on squirty, spot on. But she does have kids by him so maybe thats the reason she doesnt leave. We met them 5 years ago, and he is still advertising looking for groups of males to abuse her. I'm surprised she is still there to be honest, surprised she hasnt been killed or reached out for a rope.
the fact that they have children may be one of the (many) reasons she has remained in the relationship... but of course in my opinion there are ALWAYS options... especially in this case. I don't care if I popped out 10 kids with the guy, there is no way in hell I would want my children around him.
If I knew this woman personally I would reach out to her... for her own sake and for the sake of her children. I am not a trained professional, although I am studying psychoanalytic theory, and I would argue that the psychological hold this man has on his partner most likely continues outside of their intimate activities.
If I knew this woman personally I would reach out to her... for her own sake and for the sake of her children. I am not a trained professional, although I am studying psychoanalytic theory, and I would argue that the psychological hold this man has on his partner most likely continues outside of their intimate activities.
There are just some really sick people in this world. Sadley predators like him seek out woman with low-self esteem to begin with and most likely she was very young when they first got together--for him to mold her.
Squirt, I can agree with you that there is always options but that is because we are not in the situation. This man obviously has complete control over her..when you have kids, have your esteem crushed, feel like you are worthless and that he is doing you a favour by having you, he probably controls the purse strings and has probably pushed all of her friends and family away then put on top the embaressment of letting someone treat you like this THERE IS NO PLACE TO TURN TO
All i can do is pray that one day she will find the courage to leave.
Squirt, I can agree with you that there is always options but that is because we are not in the situation. This man obviously has complete control over her..when you have kids, have your esteem crushed, feel like you are worthless and that he is doing you a favour by having you, he probably controls the purse strings and has probably pushed all of her friends and family away then put on top the embaressment of letting someone treat you like this THERE IS NO PLACE TO TURN TO
All i can do is pray that one day she will find the courage to leave.
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Squirt, I can agree with you that there is always options but that is because we are not in the situation. This man obviously has complete control over her..when you have kids, have your esteem crushed, feel like you are worthless and that he is doing you a favour by having you, he probably controls the purse strings and has probably pushed all of her friends and family away then put on top the embaressment of letting someone treat you like this THERE IS NO PLACE TO TURN TO
All i can do is pray that one day she will find the courage to leave.
You hit the nail on the head with that worship, it took me years to get the balls to leave my husband, happily for me i had teddy who gave me the courage i needed to know i was worth more than been a punch bag and a means for my husabnd to get his sexual frustrations out. And i have to point out that you can be in a marriage no matter what some people think. Sorry needed to get that out.
Ravenfire says:
You hit the nail on the head with that worship, it took me years to get the balls to leave my husband, happily for me i had teddy who gave me the courage i needed to know i was worth more than been a punch bag and a means for my husabnd to get his sexual frustrations out. And i have to point out that you can be in a marriage no matter what some people think. Sorry needed to get that out.
Do you know that within a marriage was not actually recognised by law until recent years? As far as the law was concerned, a husband had every right to treat his wife what ever way he wanted sexually up until a few years ago. So my point being that Irish law in respect of marital was in line with regimes like those in Iran and Taliban controlled Afghanistan. Makes you wonder. Well it makes me wonder anyway.
