I know that s4i properly takes the view that it will not have a name and shame policy towards timewasters, which is fair enough as it is open to abuse. Just wonder what people would think of the use of comments though. There are at least two people on the site that I have had personal experience of and have also heard from others that they messed them about.
Lots of these people have a modus operandi. They do the same thing to everyone they meet. What is blood boiling is to see them online, happily working on their next victim. Obviously they will not let negative comments on their profiles.
What would happen if Admin got three or four comments about a particular user, from different people on the site, all showing a similiar form of behaviour. Would they act on that and challenge the user? Its surely not good for the site to be open to abusers who are herefor their own reasons to take pleasure out of messing genuine people about.
Just a thought!
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Dealing with Timewasters
Tom, first of all you would have to be clear on your definition of a time-waster:
a) someone here to chat only and indulge in solely on-site contact.
b) someone here to chat only but creating the impression they would be interested in a meet.
c) someone you have engaged in hours of contact with only to be told sorry not going to meet.
d) someone who arranges a meet and then backs out, whether at the last minute or even with no notice.
e) any other definition you could apply……….
Definitions a to d are par for the course. At no point during sign up is any individual asked to sign an agreement that they will be genuine in how they represent themselves. There is a limited scope wherein admin can govern how people represent themselves i.e. couples are in fact couples, females are in fact females etc. If you placed an ad on an online service advertising your car for sale, you do not have the option of calling that service provider and saying ‘Joe Bloggs contacted me about the car, I engaged in contact with him and discussed the car and its features. I sent him photos. Turns out he is just a tyre kicking You as an adult made a conscious decision to use the service, the provider allows you to formulate an advert and provide a contact medium. The provider bears no responsibility as to what happens beyond this. The same principle applies here.
Definition d and e fall beyond the scope of responsibility of the site. Any activity arranged off-site is not associated with the site nor will it be monitored by the site. I’m sorry that this seems unsympathetic, I do actually empathise. I have experienced spending countless hours of my valuable time establishing a connection with individuals here, only to have it totally back fire on me. I would also say I have engaged in prolonged contact with individuals, and only after hours of chat have I been able to determine that they are in fact people I do not want to meet. Perhaps at the start of this contact I may have created the impression there was a possible meet to be had. However, there is no onus on me to follow through on this.
The end point here is that it will not be allowed that comments relating to negative experiences with a profile shall be recorded and available to view. This topic is raised regularly, the answer has always been no.
a) someone here to chat only and indulge in solely on-site contact.
b) someone here to chat only but creating the impression they would be interested in a meet.
c) someone you have engaged in hours of contact with only to be told sorry not going to meet.
d) someone who arranges a meet and then backs out, whether at the last minute or even with no notice.
e) any other definition you could apply……….
Definitions a to d are par for the course. At no point during sign up is any individual asked to sign an agreement that they will be genuine in how they represent themselves. There is a limited scope wherein admin can govern how people represent themselves i.e. couples are in fact couples, females are in fact females etc. If you placed an ad on an online service advertising your car for sale, you do not have the option of calling that service provider and saying ‘Joe Bloggs contacted me about the car, I engaged in contact with him and discussed the car and its features. I sent him photos. Turns out he is just a tyre kicking You as an adult made a conscious decision to use the service, the provider allows you to formulate an advert and provide a contact medium. The provider bears no responsibility as to what happens beyond this. The same principle applies here.
Definition d and e fall beyond the scope of responsibility of the site. Any activity arranged off-site is not associated with the site nor will it be monitored by the site. I’m sorry that this seems unsympathetic, I do actually empathise. I have experienced spending countless hours of my valuable time establishing a connection with individuals here, only to have it totally back fire on me. I would also say I have engaged in prolonged contact with individuals, and only after hours of chat have I been able to determine that they are in fact people I do not want to meet. Perhaps at the start of this contact I may have created the impression there was a possible meet to be had. However, there is no onus on me to follow through on this.
The end point here is that it will not be allowed that comments relating to negative experiences with a profile shall be recorded and available to view. This topic is raised regularly, the answer has always been no.
Well midnight I absolutely recognise that different people want different things. I have chatted to lots of people who just want to chat and not meet and thats fine.
The people I am talking about are those who get a kick out of arranging meets with people and have no intention of meetings. Its not backing out, or getting cold feet, they deliberately set out to not turn up and seem to get a buzz sexual or otherwise, out of it.
Nor am I necessarily talking about publishing negative comments, but if admin gets three or four comments about on user, all of which show that they have a particular way of not showing, maybe they should consider acting on it. i accept that they shouldnt act on one or two bad experiences, but if admin gets lots of complaints? And the user is still in the chatrooms, arranging another "meet"?
