Well, we are not here to judge anyone, each to their own in all of these matters. We are all adults here, we all have our wants and our needs. swinging is for consenting adults. We are a couple and both of us had different ideas of what we wanted from swinging. However, at the start, dave had some things he wanted to try that I wasnt into and I had some things I wanted to try that he wasnt into. So we figured out what we both wanted to try TOGETHER and discarded the rest. we are after all doing this as a couple. I guess that if you are in a relationship with someone you love and you want to swing but your partner does not, then you have to make a choice. its kinda one or the other. either she means too much to you to go behind her back and swing anyway, or she doesnt. in which case its not a good recipe for a long lasting loving relationship and you should be single. But thats just an opinion from our point of you. We would at the same time, not judge you whatever you decide. its ur business!
