Was reading the section of the site Guide To Swinging and have found it to be a bit helpful but there is not much there written for a single guy to read especially someone like myself. I clicked on the link and it was a section of a site based in the UK and they said single guys aren't allow lol which may be true of a club setup but someone hosting a private gathering is quite a different scenario I think as I�ve seen a lot of parties listed some don�t allow single guys but a lot do also (each to their own)
I�ll be honest and say that I�ve never been to a party and would be completely clueless to be honest (& just a tad nervy) so a column giving some advice from this vantage point would be very welcome. Not sure if this is the right section for this post but it seemed kinda appriopiate.
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Hi Style read this yesterday , and would love to reply and give u some pointers but, well, er female here so, would be looking at it from a differant point of view,but hopefully some of the single guys, that have gone to parties can reply and give u some hints and tips regarding behaviour etc 
think i'd need to get on the guest list for one of these though first LOLThere are a number of posts around but from experience there are a few things to remember as a single male in here and other swing sites.
1. There is a lot more supply than demand for single guys so you cant expect that your going to get laid in the first week or so(unless you very lucky or gifted then you might) girls are not a piece of meat and most dont like to be treated as such.
3. The girls / women have most of the control when it comes to swinging.
4. Be yourself, dont try to be something your not.
5. Be honest.
6. Don't stand people up or cry off at the last minute without having a very good reason, and letting them know as soon as possible. You wont believe the number of people that chicken out at the last minute and dont turn up.
7. It takes a while to get noticed and make your connections. you will find you will get a second meet much faster than you got your first. Once you are around a while and you get to know people this becomes easier.
8. Use the chatrooms and the forums. its the easiest way for people to get to know you, and see what your about.
9. Dont go trawling through the profiles and email every female / couple with a pulse as it really dont work.
10. You have to remember that most parties tend to be for couples and females and maybe the odd select male, so you will be very lucky to get a invite.
11. The meet and greets are a great way to meet people socially and then who knows. There is a strong meet and greet scene in Cork thanks to Marie and a few others. Check out the Cork first fridays group.
12. Patience and manners are two things that come in very handy as a single guy.
Sorry if this a bit long winded, but it might sow a few seeds and good luck on your journey.
Sean
hi Sparks welcome to site :welcome: and sure you will meet some of the fabulous couples and girls on here. I was single girl on site for couple of years and always attended parties solo and it is nerve wracking wont lie to you. Best advise I can give you is try to touch base and meet some of the other single girls for coffee etc and get to know them and wherever possible try to hook up with them before a party you are both attending. If you are attending a party solo then down a stiff one (drink!) beforehand for dutch courage and maybe just make eye contact with one or two couples and strike up conversation as you would on a usual social occassion and you will find that you will relax then because once the sex and debauchery starts u can forget converstation! Dont be afraid to ask people to introduce you to people you might like the look of either thats the way to make contacts for further meets. Oh and wear something comfortable and easy to slip outta :doggy: hope that helps!
