My question is
Is this a swing site or a chat site.
It would be nice to, at times chat with someone that has actually met someone since they joined ages ago rather than just thinking about meeting.
Dont get me wrong, I enjoy the banter of the chatroom especially the flirting of the cam, but at some stage it needs to move on to the next level.
I know that its horses for courses and each to their own but at the end of the day is this site not an opportunity to meet up with likeminded people for fun......
Just throwing it out there for comments.
Mary xxx
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Is this a swing site or a chat site
hi legs and heels I have met a few people on here both couples and single females and as a single male on this i figure I'm in one of the hardest positions to meet people. Bu tI still manage occassionally. As for the chatting etc. its fun but like you said its hard to find someone who wants to more than just have a chat. Plus there are a lot of time wasters. The amount of couples I have chatted to that when it comes to meeting its always a case that the male is the only one who can meet or the only one who can talk on the phone or the only one online so in reality its obviuosly just a single guy trying to up his odds by trying to look like a couple.
And in regards to why you are having any sort of trouble meeting people on here is beyond me cause trust me as a big legs fan i would kill to have a chance to meet up with you and enjoy those amazing legs of yours ;)
We have met loads on the site and are having loads of fun on here...the banter and craic is all part of finding out who you click with and will have fun times with. Without the social side of things it wouldnt be much fun when you reach the bedroom....but we for one can say there is loads pf people meeting..as KK says check verifies etc and take it from there...put in what you want to get out of it do some leg work on profiles...happy swinging.:bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce:
Sex God
Its a thing I often wonder about alright,
There are a lot on here that seem to just use the place as a chat site and to each theyre own if they have paid for it, its theres to as they wish but it can be frustrating alright.
Sometimes I think that all people want to do here is chat-
As a single guy it can be hard to meet others as there are far more sinlge males in here than in any other category- but it has been done- and there was some great fun!!!
I would love to attend a M&G but never got round to it-
Some other sites are better for meeting but still enjoy swing4ireland!
happy chatting and happy cracking!!!
fuckmesideways! legsandheels, you're not seriously having trouble drumming up interest? You need a holiday in West Cork!
Yeah, it's a chat site. And people don't chat about sex much either which I find really odd. After quite a few years on the scene we're starting to think that most swingers aren't very interested in really good advanced sex, they're just not getting enough at home, or one partner isn't or whatever. And the other thing that I don't get is that there are so many singles, guys and gals, doesn't that just make it a casual dating site? Isn't swinging by definition something that people in long term relationships do? If you're single it's just casual sex.
If I had the money and skills I'd start an invitation only, non-public, swinging couples website where people would ONLY be able to talk about sex if they want to use it for chatting.
Charlie, (who's gonna tell it like it is cos we're outa here by March anyhow, lol)
Its defiantly a swing site :swingingchair::swingingchair::swingingchair::swingingchair::swingingchair: unless I have logged on to the wrong site again 
:banghead: ……
Maybe its time to sit back and look at this from a different angle that is more suited to the times we all now find out self's living in ???????????????????????
Yes it seems fewer are meeting put its hardly surprising . HEY we are in a recession . People cant afford time off work or to get away every weekend which seemed to be the trend when I first joined . Id have to say we have all noticed the difference and the knock on effect it has had , Put I do fell most are making and effort to keep in play in regards to attending the bigger meet and greets and house parties as they are lets say less taxing on the pocket in these harder times …
Is it just a change in the approach to a meet that is required now ?? And as we are all proud people no one feels they should be the one to say so , no one wants to seem cheap or stingy …
:dunno::dunno::dunno::dunno:
I for one will point out there are a lot off reasonable and adorable places to meet that are (for want off a better word ) upper glass… all it takes is a little planning and per booking …ring and ask what there best offer is …check out web sites and join up for special offers …don't assume that a deal is a deal …check it out and do the math times its not a deal put a quick fix and more savings can be made ……all off these are going to save you a few Euro and will allow for forward planning ….
Don't get disheartened were there is a will there is a way it only take a little longer and as I have found allows for more time for fun in the long run .. I like my euros in my pocket and not there's maybe that's just me ?
In regards to talking sex errrrrrrrrrr not for me I have sex I don't talk it …flirting , teasing , laughing , spending time to get to know a possible meet is more important to me ..I to have been stood up … let down .. Fogged out , even walked out on …put that's life and in my book makes me stronger , wiser and dare I say better off . . :dunno::doh::dunno:
We have said it OVER and OVER and OVER again both in forums and chat ……………….
update your profiles …pics ( even if private ) and information …. For some I say ' FILL IT IN ' … If your not comfortable with showing comments that's fine …Why not have a chat with someone you have met and ask if they would mind if some mailed them in regards to the meet …it doesn't hurt to ask … and if there agreeable state it in your profile …. And for the love off all things good check your setting …saying you cant accommodate and cant travel is a sure why to get peeps to run a mile be surprised how many have it on there profiles ..
Well that's my view . . . Like it or lump it ….. Cant get everything right …put hey sure cant be wrong all the time either ……………………………..
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:banghead: ……Maybe its time to sit back and look at this from a different angle that is more suited to the times we all now find out self's living in ???????????????????????
Yes it seems fewer are meeting put its hardly surprising . HEY we are in a recession . People cant afford time off work or to get away every weekend which seemed to be the trend when I first joined . Id have to say we have all noticed the difference and the knock on effect it has had , Put I do fell most are making and effort to keep in play in regards to attending the bigger meet and greets and house parties as they are lets say less taxing on the pocket in these harder times …
Is it just a change in the approach to a meet that is required now ?? And as we are all proud people no one feels they should be the one to say so , no one wants to seem cheap or stingy …
:dunno::dunno::dunno::dunno:I for one will point out there are a lot off reasonable and adorable places to meet that are (for want off a better word ) upper glass… all it takes is a little planning and per booking …ring and ask what there best offer is …check out web sites and join up for special offers …don't assume that a deal is a deal …check it out and do the math times its not a deal put a quick fix and more savings can be made ……all off these are going to save you a few Euro and will allow for forward planning ….
Don't get disheartened were there is a will there is a way it only take a little longer and as I have found allows for more time for fun in the long run .. I like my euros in my pocket and not there's maybe that's just me ?
In regards to talking sex errrrrrrrrrr not for me I have sex I don't talk it …flirting , teasing , laughing , spending time to get to know a possible meet is more important to me ..I to have been stood up … let down .. Fogged out , even walked out on …put that's life and in my book makes me stronger , wiser and dare I say better off . . :dunno::doh::dunno:
We have said it OVER and OVER and OVER again both in forums and chat ……………….
update your profiles …pics ( even if private ) and information …. For some I say ' FILL IT IN ' … If your not comfortable with showing comments that's fine …Why not have a chat with someone you have met and ask if they would mind if some mailed them in regards to the meet …it doesn't hurt to ask … and if there agreeable state it in your profile …. And for the love off all things good check your setting …saying you cant accommodate and cant travel is a sure why to get peeps to run a mile be surprised how many have it on there profiles ..
Well that's my view . . . Like it or lump it ….. Cant get everything right …put hey sure cant be wrong all the time either ……………………………..
:whistling::whistling::whistling::whistling::whistling::scared::bolt::bolt::bolt::bolt::bolt::bolt::bolt::bolt::bolt::bolt::bolt::bolt: :lol: :lol: Problem with this site for me is as follows.........................
Alot of the couples attitudes stink and leave alot to be desired.
You look at their profile and you leave them a proppely worded message or you try to say hello in the chat room.
They basicly tell you to go away (fcuk off as one said to me in the chatroom),even though their profile and what they are into CLEARLY STATES single males and mail them with a nice/decent mail.
So thats the 1 main reason why I barely ever bother to come here and post anymore.
This site seems to be set up for a certain little clique of people who dont seem to like abnyone else trying to join inEven when you respect the rules and be pleasent,certain couples seem to trounce all over you.
I did meet 2 couples before and I really did enjoy my time with them,but as I tried to interaxct more and more with the site as a whole,I got couples being very rude to me and rude in general towards other genuine single males.
Orgasminator
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fuckmesideways! legsandheels, you're not seriously having trouble drumming up interest? You need a holiday in West Cork!
Yeah, it's a chat site. And people don't chat about sex much either which I find really odd. After quite a few years on the scene we're starting to think that most swingers aren't very interested in really good advanced sex, they're just not getting enough at home, or one partner isn't or whatever. And the other thing that I don't get is that there are so many singles, guys and gals, doesn't that just make it a casual dating site? Isn't swinging by definition something that people in long term relationships do? If you're single it's just casual sex.
If I had the money and skills I'd start an invitation only, non-public, swinging couples website where people would ONLY be able to talk about sex if they want to use it for chatting.
Charlie, (who's gonna tell it like it is cos we're outa here by March anyhow, lol)
Charlie, with respect, if you are questioning why there are singles on this site why are you advertising on your page that you are looking for (and have met) single ladies from here? It does seem to contradict your view somewhat.
My opinion on the singles issue is live and let live, each to his or her own. We all have our own reasons for chatting and / or meeting (or in my case both....
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through SFI. We are all adults here (I hope... :eeek:) and I for one have never seen any arm pulling going on nor would I want to (either couples or singles).So here's to a respectful and fun filled swinging time for all!!!
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Wilder
Hear hear wilder..
I'm swinging as a single.. Just as much as I would if I was in a couple.
Who cares about martial status.
Enjoy the fun and if u don't like what I'm doing... Then don't look!!
I for one think this is a great site for meeting and having fun!
swinging is different world to meeting for "casual sex", swingers are usually much more open minded..
I don't judge and don't expect to be judged either!
Ginger
all swingers are equal.. just some are more equal than others!
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Wilder, with respect.... if there's an apple tree in my garden I can both question how it grew and eat apples from it. Yes, a well spotted inconsistency but a) I never claim to not be a hypocrite and b) the single lady wasn't single when we first met her!! ;-)
I still don't get the difference between this and a casual dating site as far as all the singles are concerned... and I re-iterate that swinging by its historical definition/development is something long-term couples do.... the french words non-conformiste and libertine might be more appropriate. And I never said singles aren't welcome here either, of course they are, i'm just wondering.
We were out in Galway the other night and I swear the "ordinary" single girls out about town were dressed as scantily as if they were in Cap d'Agde, you wouldn't see the likes at a swingers party, and I think more sex happens in "ordinary" night clubs than many swinger meets....
Beds, i agree with your practical "shut up and fuck me approach", anytime luv, but surely people should exchange ideas and tips... or does everyone here already think they're god's gift to swingers????
peace and luv
charlie
peace and luv
charlie Just to add a small piece to this thread... its now the 21st century, profiles should give some lifestylers an inkling of what they are looking for, we don't mind meeting single guys, single fems or couples, but there is a couple of pointers that need to be taken into consideration...
1. Dependability (That they actually show up).
2. Chemistry/Attraction (call it what you want, but still boils down to the same thing)
Been to a few parties and meets, don't have a prob meeting nice people where appreciations are mutual and respect is on show at all times, have been messed around by more than we'd care to mention, (couples and singles), but we just move on, we enjoy our time when its available and can't drop homelife in an instant to meet someone, thats just the way life is at times.
These days prefer to meet singles at parties or meets, mainly because they show their genuine interest in the lifestyle, and if the chemistry is there... who cares what their personal situation is, we only want to 'borrow' them for a few hours, we don't plan on them moving in and living with us ;)
well yeah, fair fucks folks. So back to the original question, I wonder exactly how Legandheels think they're going wrong? pics are way above the usual standard on here, profile says enough... could be longer but we tried a long profile and it got us nowhere, its like playboy, people are really only looking at the pictures!
erm..kkgirl... without causing a row, do bear in mind that the brain is the next biggest sexual organ after the skin, the ability to think can and should be a big turn on. Certainly has been for the people we've had the most fun with.
am i wrong in my understanding of the original posters meaning here,,,,what i think i understand from the post is ,, NOT that legs are complaining about not being able to get a meet as its quite clear from their profile coments and verifications that they have no problem at all in this respect,, but i feel that they are saying that alot of the ppl that they speak to that have been on here along time an havint as yet met anyone an they are wondering why,
Legs if this is the correct understanding ,, in myy experience these ppl are in some instances ppl who (A) joined up with the intention of taking it further an bottled it but like the chat so cant help themselves but keep coming back (B) a guy pretending to be a cpl who may have had a brief conversation with his partner about having a 3sum with a girl, comes on here thinking he will get one just by expressing his requirements and being sadly disapointed that its more difficult than he thougth but decides to try and get himself an extra marital affair while hes here, (C) complete an utter time wasters who enjoys messing ppl around
I always give the benifite of the doubt to all at first as its not long before it becomes aparant what ppl are really looking for on here when you speak to them for a short while , but i do understand you frustration but as they say we have to sample a lot of sour apples to get that sweet juicy wet pussy , ooops i mean sweet juicy apple
xxxxx lucy :lol:
:lol: no offence charlie but i save the serious thinking for things that warrent it...and swinging for me is jus about the fun and frolics...thats all, I have a personal life that takes up all my drama quota. Think it messes with your head if ya start taking it to depths its not ment to go.
think baileys and lucy have pretty much summed it all up,
"Beds, I agree with your practical "shut up and fuck me approach", anytime luv, but surely people should exchange ideas and tips... or does everyone here already think they're god's gift to swingers???? "
There is more than one way to ask a question and get an answer …I just prefer honest responses and for the few ( yes even I tried ) that have interacted with in in such a manner all I can say is , ' I never hear such a load off bull ' talk is cheap and cheaper when it cant be backed up with actions ' shut up and fook me ' doesn't come in to it at all …. , I am a swinger not a prostitute ………….. Yes the exchange of likes and dislike and so forth are required …maybe I have it wrong …that's possible , put I am getting what I want from this site and I take the good with the bad and I sure as hell wont change my values in life for a roide . What ever happen to sex for fun ..when did it become about talking a meet through from start to finish and yes the brain is the biggest sex organ in the body and maybe if a few more used it to think more about the people they wish to meet that than a quick f**k this conversation wouldn't be required …
Lets face it we are all different and we are all going to … want… , expect … , desire …. and need different things from any relationship …be it swing or not and to say that we aren't is ridiculous beyond believe ….. Yes single lads find it harder to meet here ………… isn't that true in the so called real world to tho ….. Has it accrued to some that it might be there approach to this life style causing the encounters to be few and far between ? some single lads do better here they can be seen putting the effort in so why shouldn't they ?? Yes some married couples do expect more and ant afraid to say it …why not it's a free country ?
I meet when I want …whom I want and because I like the people involved…not for a quick fix as I can have that at home if I want to …..
Swinging is meant to be about mutual fun with partners that have a common interest ,,,the so called click that is required to make what happens in the bedroom more appealing and fun and I am quiet happy to put the time and effort into the mix in order to satisfy my desires …. I am not a peace off meat here for a quick f**k and when treated like one I can and do assure you the other party in question will know he / she / they have stepped over the line , put in a manner befitting this life style as in order to prevail here you have to have a code off conduct that is only found in the swingers circle and when one brakes it they don't get to step back in …. There are Messer's in every walk off life over it and move on waste time and energy worrying about could-a , would-a , should-a's , he said , they said , she said , get on with life and if its swing life you want to get on with … see ya around ……………………
There is more than one way to ask a question and get an answer …I just prefer honest responses and for the few ( yes even I tried ) that have interacted with in in such a manner all I can say is , ' I never hear such a load off bull ' talk is cheap and cheaper when it cant be backed up with actions ' shut up and fook me ' doesn't come in to it at all …. , I am a swinger not a prostitute ………….. Yes the exchange of likes and dislike and so forth are required …maybe I have it wrong …that's possible , put I am getting what I want from this site and I take the good with the bad and I sure as hell wont change my values in life for a roide . What ever happen to sex for fun ..when did it become about talking a meet through from start to finish and yes the brain is the biggest sex organ in the body and maybe if a few more used it to think more about the people they wish to meet that than a quick f**k this conversation wouldn't be required …
Lets face it we are all different and we are all going to … want… , expect … , desire …. and need different things from any relationship …be it swing or not and to say that we aren't is ridiculous beyond believe ….. Yes single lads find it harder to meet here ………… isn't that true in the so called real world to tho ….. Has it accrued to some that it might be there approach to this life style causing the encounters to be few and far between ? some single lads do better here they can be seen putting the effort in so why shouldn't they ?? Yes some married couples do expect more and ant afraid to say it …why not it's a free country ?
I meet when I want …whom I want and because I like the people involved…not for a quick fix as I can have that at home if I want to …..
Swinging is meant to be about mutual fun with partners that have a common interest ,,,the so called click that is required to make what happens in the bedroom more appealing and fun and I am quiet happy to put the time and effort into the mix in order to satisfy my desires …. I am not a peace off meat here for a quick f**k and when treated like one I can and do assure you the other party in question will know he / she / they have stepped over the line , put in a manner befitting this life style as in order to prevail here you have to have a code off conduct that is only found in the swingers circle and when one brakes it they don't get to step back in …. There are Messer's in every walk off life over it and move on waste time and energy worrying about could-a , would-a , should-a's , he said , they said , she said , get on with life and if its swing life you want to get on with … see ya around ……………………
ah kkgirl! I never said anything about [u:9d83474e32]serious[/u:9d83474e32] thinking, lol
I think Lucy worked out the deep inner meaning of the first question, yes it just rings alarm bells for us when someone's
profile hasn't been updated since 2007 and they have no comments left but they still want to chat to you.
I'll leave it there, I think everyone in this thread is swinging off the same bedsheets anyway.
By the way , I know I'm a serious cantankerous over the hill old boar but if anyone is at all tempted to get to know
us do get in touch as we're leaving the site when our sub runs out in a few weeks. xxxxxxx
Thanks to everyone for all their comments. they have both verified and enriched our opinions of ppls views and attitudes to swinging and the site.
lucy your are spot on in your assessment of our post and we will try and keep a more open mind on the diverse motivations that people have for being on here.
Hope all enjoy the swinging as we have so far.
L&H xxxx
Sexpert
forget the chatters its the TIMEWASTERS that bother me
book time off work arrange things and then a no show no phone call or even txt
a wind up
having a social get together limerick 09 march watch forums for post
chat if you want but dont promise to come and then no show
no timewaters
cheers eoin
We have noticed this too TBH.
I think there like 3 groups.
Those that only want chat
Those that want to time was
Those that want to meet (seems to be the minority)
If you base your whole experience of meets on the chatroom I think you would come away disappointed.
In our experience all our meets have come from little Mng's we have sorted, the forums and at the bigger meets.
just to add our opinion we are quite new to this and have made some lovely friends we have had some meets and have done them through the site so as far as we are concerned there is plenty of people who want to meet ok we might all have to work a little harder to orginise it what with work and kids but its all worth it in the end all we can say is happy hunting folks and look foward to meeting many more
