have been on this for a while and mostly men on here! I have chatted to alot in chatrooms but if you message someone never get replys and im not nasty just normal stuff!
I just think there are so many men here that it makes it hard for normal guys to get anywhere near anyone
Every profile says
**** NO SINGLE MEN*****
Just venting is all!!!
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does anyone actually meet?
Get yourself along to a M&G. Theyre usually listed in the forums. Yes its hard for a guy to get noticed, and thats just how it is, but if you make an effort and attend a M&G then other members will meet you in a non sexual surroundings.
Then you can make your best impression and hopefully be one of the lucky guys to meet up for fun with cpls & singles alike 
Warming the Bed
I see where ur comin from pal, ive been on the site for a while and havent met anyone. The best thing to do is to try to attend meet and greets, lots of people attend, singles and couples, its the best way to get to know members, rather meeting one on one cos many might be reluctant. Was supposed to attend one back in November but couldnt make it. The main thing singletons and couple want is trust, theyre not goin to jump into the cot with any randomer.
Good luck, Im sure u wont wait that long to meet up with someone.
Warming the Bed
Its not so hard, dude
Sexlightened
We agree dude...
Were a cpl and would find it hard to meet a single guy, just for d fact that there is so many weirdos and non genuines out there.. If we met u at a m&g and hit it off we would be more open to inviting u along to a party r a meet r sumthin u get me?
I feel its important to meet single guys face to face just becos they get a bad rap and ther is a sml minority out ther that ruin it for ye..
mucho love xx
Oralpleasure
Might I suggest ( it been said over and over and over again) that writing a profile that contains more than
' nice guy here looking for female ' would be a place to start . Is it really that hard to write a little about yourself in regards to what you are like as a person and what type of person you would like to meet ?. A blank profile is not going to have the desired effect . I am married and I do play alone at time also , As I know a lot off women on site do …put for the life off me ( I am sorry PUT ) you profile wouldn't get a second look . Advice is given everyday here on how to make an impression with others be they male or female ( http://www.swing4ireland.com/ZhYP6pH5YvUXcAlT )take the time to read it then sit down and think about how you approach life on site then make a fresh start .
Best off luck
Beddy
' nice guy here looking for female ' would be a place to start . Is it really that hard to write a little about yourself in regards to what you are like as a person and what type of person you would like to meet ?. A blank profile is not going to have the desired effect . I am married and I do play alone at time also , As I know a lot off women on site do …put for the life off me ( I am sorry PUT ) you profile wouldn't get a second look . Advice is given everyday here on how to make an impression with others be they male or female ( http://www.swing4ireland.com/ZhYP6pH5YvUXcAlT )take the time to read it then sit down and think about how you approach life on site then make a fresh start .
Best off luck
Beddy
As a couple who actually state our preference as meeting singles, we have to agree with Bedtime, we would not give your profile a second glance. You give no feel for the person you are or no content to attract anyone's interest. Even your thread contradicts your profile, as in your profile you say you have "been with a few from the site" but yet you post asking if anyone actually meets. Also some other pics maybe not a cock as we already assume you have one of these 
There are many wonderful, intelligent, witty, charming sexy singles on here, so guess what you have competition… My suggestion is to look at some of these profiles and take some tips from them, and as others have mentioned get to the meet and greets and spend some time in the chat room.
Like everything in life you get out of this what you put in, this can be the best of fun but only if you make the effort.
Mags.
There are many wonderful, intelligent, witty, charming sexy singles on here, so guess what you have competition… My suggestion is to look at some of these profiles and take some tips from them, and as others have mentioned get to the meet and greets and spend some time in the chat room.
Like everything in life you get out of this what you put in, this can be the best of fun but only if you make the effort.
Mags. Quote by bigbruva
I'm a validated and genuine guy. Still find a lot of awful rude couples here with very high opinions of themselves.
If I wanted to have sex with a horrible fat mess I'd go to ***removed **** and not be begging some of the obviously troubled individuals here.
Open your eyes people.
oh gorgeous bigbruv you do certainly have a way with words,
but i will agree with one point in this having watched some fems and cpls in chat and the way they speak to single guys just because they are not interested in them ,it makes me cringe somtimes ,im not sure i would be able to cope as well as some of the single guys do if i was geting the same treatment and rejection as some of them do , we used to have a thread here some time back that midnightchat started called the single guy appreciation and it was a pleasure to read , but of late i feel that it has become single bashing like it used to be,,and i know im gona get taken down a peg or two for this comment but i feel all i read these days are treads and comments against single guys ,, i have met many many genuine and lovely single guys ,and this site would not be the same for me if they wernt here..
anyway awaits the bashing xxxxxxxxxxxx
""""(prejudice and ignorance are turn-offs for everyone, right?)"""". <<<<< I didnt say it you did ..........................
I'm a validated and genuine guy. Still find a lot of awful rude couples here with very high opinions of themselves.
If I wanted to have sex with a horrible fat mess I'd go to ***removed **** and not be begging some of the obviously troubled individuals here.
Open your eyes people.
I sometimes do wonder if some read what they write
…. What a contradiction ....Most here know my opinions regarding how others chose to view someone /anyone how is slightly out side what YOU consider to be the normal or perfection( keep looking there is no such thing ) Put to actually have the audacity to say it for all to read is a refreshing even if to your own debarment … ' horrible fat mess ' ??? dose that make you gods gift by any chance ???? 'a lot of awful rude couples here with very high opinions of themselves ' may be shock to know we are all different and we all have like's and dislikes and just because we don't choose to hop in to bed with you doesn't mean we are rude or have a higher opinion off ourselves …It just means you are not what we are looking for ..... nothing rude about it at all ……..
I'm a validated and genuine guy. Still find a lot of awful rude couples here with very high opinions of themselves.
If I wanted to have sex with a horrible fat mess I'd go to ***removed **** and not be begging some of the obviously troubled individuals here.
Open your eyes people.
I sometimes do wonder if some read what they write
…. What a contradiction ....Most here know my opinions regarding how others chose to view someone /anyone how is slightly out side what YOU consider to be the normal or perfection( keep looking there is no such thing ) Put to actually have the audacity to say it for all to read is a refreshing even if to your own debarment … ' horrible fat mess ' ??? dose that make you gods gift by any chance ???? 'a lot of awful rude couples here with very high opinions of themselves ' may be shock to know we are all different and we all have like's and dislikes and just because we don't choose to hop in to bed with you doesn't mean we are rude or have a higher opinion off ourselves …It just means you are not what we are looking for ..... nothing rude about it at all …….. Quote by lucylovesit
I'm a validated and genuine guy. Still find a lot of awful rude couples here with very high opinions of themselves.
If I wanted to have sex with a horrible fat mess I'd go to ***removed **** and not be begging some of the obviously troubled individuals here.
Open your eyes people.
oh gorgeous bigbruv you do certainly have a way with words,
but i will agree with one point in this having watched some fems and cpls in chat and the way they speak to single guys just because they are not interested in them ,it makes me cringe somtimes ,im not sure i would be able to cope as well as some of the single guys do if i was geting the same treatment and rejection as some of them do , we used to have a thread here some time back that midnightchat started called the single guy appreciation and it was a pleasure to read , but of late i feel that it has become single bashing like it used to be,,and i know im gona get taken down a peg or two for this comment but i feel all i read these days are treads and comments against single guys ,, i have met many many genuine and lovely single guys ,and this site would not be the same for me if they wernt here..
anyway awaits the bashing xxxxxxxxxxxx
I didn't say I was gods gift but I'm certainly of a calibre where other attached gentlemen would be intimidated by my physique and attributes.
I'm just calling a spade a spade.
I wouldn't take this all too seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway.
Quote by bigbruva
I'm a validated and genuine guy. Still find a lot of awful rude couples here with very high opinions of themselves.
If I wanted to have sex with a horrible fat mess I'd go to ***removed **** and not be begging some of the obviously troubled individuals here.
Open your eyes people.
oh gorgeous bigbruv you do certainly have a way with words,
but i will agree with one point in this having watched some fems and cpls in chat and the way they speak to single guys just because they are not interested in them ,it makes me cringe somtimes ,im not sure i would be able to cope as well as some of the single guys do if i was geting the same treatment and rejection as some of them do , we used to have a thread here some time back that midnightchat started called the single guy appreciation and it was a pleasure to read , but of late i feel that it has become single bashing like it used to be,,and i know im gona get taken down a peg or two for this comment but i feel all i read these days are treads and comments against single guys ,, i have met many many genuine and lovely single guys ,and this site would not be the same for me if they wernt here..
anyway awaits the bashing xxxxxxxxxxxx
I didn't say I was gods gift but I'm certainly of a calibre where other attached gentlemen would be intimidated by my physique and attributes.
I'm just calling a spade a spade.
I wouldn't take this all too seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway.
think you picked up the wrong quote there !!
Okay guys, I don't normally get drawn in to threads, but this one has kinda interested me due to our swing preferences.
Firstly I would hate to think we would be considered rude to anyone, including singles. I can be very direct and do get a little pissed off when we get rubbish whispers, you all know the kind, and yes i do tell both singles and couples who do this to back off. But again I hope not in a manner to cause offence.
We have had to be pretty direct and I guess you could say cruel at times when some people have got upset with us for not wanting to meet them but only when their attitude and reaction has been both aggressive and offensive to us.
We would not agree with bigburva regarding singles been intimidated by his attributes or physique, as I believe like most people on here its the complete package we look for, isn't it nice to meet someone with a brain, and isn't it true that the mind is the biggest sexual organ.
In essence to revert to the original post, I think and this it just my opinion, that on here there are many different people with different preferences. Not everyone is for everyone, we have lots who don't like us and never will, there is enough room for we don't meet everyone. So Dotser maybe take on board some of the advice offered but mainly just be you and all of life is a lesson so just enjoy it.
Mags
oh gorgeous bigbruv you do certainly have a way with words,
but i will agree with one point in this having watched some fems and cpls in chat and the way they speak to single guys just because they are not interested in them ,it makes me cringe somtimes ,im not sure i would be able to cope as well as some of the single guys do if i was geting the same treatment and rejection as some of them do , we used to have a thread here some time back that midnightchat started called the single guy appreciation and it was a pleasure to read , but of late i feel that it has become single bashing like it used to be,,and i know im gona get taken down a peg or two for this comment but i feel all i read these days are treads and comments against single guys ,, i have met many many genuine and lovely single guys ,and this site would not be the same for me if they wernt here..
anyway awaits the bashing xxxxxxxxxxxx
Have to agree with Lucy here but would just like to add that the respect has to work both ways. Couples and single fems should realise that each single guy is an individual and just because 9 out of 10 blokes pester you doesn't mean the remaining 1 decent guy deserves to be treated in the same way, to be honest I doubt it takes much effort the seperate out the time wasters and weirdos from the genuine and nice guys! .......
On the flip side, single guys have to understand that Couples and single fems get alot of attention in here, they get alot of unwanted whispers, mails and requests and therefor have a greater amount of options to choose from, patience and respect is needed here guys, treat people in here like you would if you met them face to face and after a while things will come good!
It is extremely annoying tho to sit and write a mail to someone or a couple and not to get a reply tho, even a 'No thanks I/we are not interested' would do! Just a suggestion
but i will agree with one point in this having watched some fems and cpls in chat and the way they speak to single guys just because they are not interested in them ,it makes me cringe somtimes ,im not sure i would be able to cope as well as some of the single guys do if i was geting the same treatment and rejection as some of them do , we used to have a thread here some time back that midnightchat started called the single guy appreciation and it was a pleasure to read , but of late i feel that it has become single bashing like it used to be,,and i know im gona get taken down a peg or two for this comment but i feel all i read these days are treads and comments against single guys ,, i have met many many genuine and lovely single guys ,and this site would not be the same for me if they wernt here..
anyway awaits the bashing xxxxxxxxxxxx
Have to agree with Lucy here but would just like to add that the respect has to work both ways. Couples and single fems should realise that each single guy is an individual and just because 9 out of 10 blokes pester you doesn't mean the remaining 1 decent guy deserves to be treated in the same way, to be honest I doubt it takes much effort the seperate out the time wasters and weirdos from the genuine and nice guys! .......
On the flip side, single guys have to understand that Couples and single fems get alot of attention in here, they get alot of unwanted whispers, mails and requests and therefor have a greater amount of options to choose from, patience and respect is needed here guys, treat people in here like you would if you met them face to face and after a while things will come good!
It is extremely annoying tho to sit and write a mail to someone or a couple and not to get a reply tho, even a 'No thanks I/we are not interested' would do! Just a suggestion
Have to agree with Lucy and Duffman.
We have some single male friends on the site and very charming fun and sexy they are too but we have meet all of these guys at meet and greet night. Whilst we do talk to single guys in the chat room and reply when we can in main chats to compliments or general hellos we are also inundated with un-wanted whisper which tend to be the usual and for some reason unsuccessful chat up lines as hi wanna f**k.
We to have been ignored ourselves on a number of occasion in relation to single women couples and single men on the site but we don't take it personably there can be many reasons for this but we remind ourselves that we can't be every bodies cup if tea unfortunately lol and we move on and respect each individuals choice to either respond ignor or play with us after we have shown our intentions.
We are all here for a good time make friends and with a bit if luck hook up with like minded people for whatever it is that floats individuals boats but that's not to say we will drop everything just to meet up with any person or persons that shows an interest in us. The world is made up of all sorts which is what makes thus life so exciting but for every genuine nice and sincere person there is always that persons opposite to remind you to always be careful and weary before any meets might be possible.
Manors cost nothing and either does patience so be polite be patient but most of all be careful.
The World is full of many people and every one different....
That's what makes it interesting some times......
Its hard on single guys sometimes and it's difficult to become noticed but i have found through experience that patience and manners go a long way.
It dont hurt to be friendly either..
Sean
Warming the Bed
Hi Doster,
N.B YOU NEED TO SEDUCE WOMEN HERE JUST LIKE ANYWHERE ELSE, JUST BECAUSE THEIR ON A SWINGERS SITE GUYS SEEM TO THINK ITS EASY TO GET A RIDE, SO NOT THE CASE
firstly you need to jazz up your profile, looks like you wrote it in a hurry and didnt put any effort into it, and they say, you get out of something what you put into it, and i believe thats true.
Secondly your profile is very contradictory, you say your a straight male yet your profile says your looking for a bi-male?? your going to have to explain that or correct same.
Thirdly, you say you have met a few from here in your profile, get them to leave a comment about their experience and also member verify you, makes your profile look real then and if people know those you have played with they could sus you out from them and perhaps arrange to meet you.
Forthly and most importantly get your ass to Meet and Greets, shake hands with people and get your name and face known, have a chat with those attending and let them see your real and maybe youl find that spark with someone and take it further at some stage, least you could expect is to get verified and maybe a comment from someone who spoke to you and thinks your a nice guy.
Add some pics to your profile, I think those without extras can have 11 pics, and use your imagination, i may be wrong but the ladies here may be sick seeing the usual cock shots so try and be different, now im not saying go out tonight and try get a pic of your cock in a firemans ear or anything but you know what I mean when i say different.
I've been lucky enough to meet some lovely ladies and couples here, but it takes hard work and you have to keep it up, maybe I've repeated what other have said but if you take any advice from here you'll be meeting in no time, happy hunting,
Oh and dont send those winks, they just spell BORING I think, take the time to read everyones profile, dont just look at the pics and write a personal message to them, and not the usual, "hi Im in dublin, nice pics, wanna fuck" it doesnt work.
And Duffman pointed out, if someone sends you a mail, try and have the manners to reply, even if your not interested, a simple thanks for the mail/interest but no thanks or your not for me
Sparkie
firstly you need to jazz up your profile, looks like you wrote it in a hurry and didnt put any effort into it, and they say, you get out of something what you put into it, and i believe thats true.
Secondly your profile is very contradictory, you say your a straight male yet your profile says your looking for a bi-male?? your going to have to explain that or correct same.
Thirdly, you say you have met a few from here in your profile, get them to leave a comment about their experience and also member verify you, makes your profile look real then and if people know those you have played with they could sus you out from them and perhaps arrange to meet you.
Forthly and most importantly get your ass to Meet and Greets, shake hands with people and get your name and face known, have a chat with those attending and let them see your real and maybe youl find that spark with someone and take it further at some stage, least you could expect is to get verified and maybe a comment from someone who spoke to you and thinks your a nice guy.
Add some pics to your profile, I think those without extras can have 11 pics, and use your imagination, i may be wrong but the ladies here may be sick seeing the usual cock shots so try and be different, now im not saying go out tonight and try get a pic of your cock in a firemans ear or anything but you know what I mean when i say different.
I've been lucky enough to meet some lovely ladies and couples here, but it takes hard work and you have to keep it up, maybe I've repeated what other have said but if you take any advice from here you'll be meeting in no time, happy hunting,
Oh and dont send those winks, they just spell BORING I think, take the time to read everyones profile, dont just look at the pics and write a personal message to them, and not the usual, "hi Im in dublin, nice pics, wanna fuck" it doesnt work.
And Duffman pointed out, if someone sends you a mail, try and have the manners to reply, even if your not interested, a simple thanks for the mail/interest but no thanks or your not for me
Sparkie Some very good posts here! May i also suggest having a look in the anything goes forum where eden has a great post up.
Im not even going to comment on the single male who thinks its jealousy and not his attitude of calling other members "fat messes" that is causing him trouble.
And can i make one other point...In the chatroom. I for one find it very hard to chat if theres nothing to chat aabout. If im asked to whisper and alls to be said is Hi, how are u...well thats not much to go on there is there? Try chatting in the main room finding a common ground and whispering when u actually have something to say. even some funny comment on something the other person has just said...
And always nice to be nice, manners dont cost anything and no one wants to fuck twat!!
Warming the Bed
I'm lonely..... 
Warming the Bed
Quote by lucylovesit
I'm lonely.....
hahah poor photoT cmer to lucy and i will look after you
:hump:i kno u will....I think i would need it faster then end of month lucy...
Quote by bigbruva
I'm a validated and genuine guy. Still find a lot of awful rude couples here with very high opinions of themselves.
If I wanted to have sex with a horrible fat mess I'd go to ***removed **** and not be begging some of the obviously troubled individuals here.
Open your eyes people.
And if thats the way you address any female bigbruva regardless of the size or shape and then post it in the forums to show the rest of the women on how you speak about ladies...I think maybe you need to look in the mirror to see who the troubled one is!!! Speaking about anywoman like that im sure will do you no favours ,as youve quoted yourself ... Open your eyes
Quote by lucylovesit
I'm a validated and genuine guy. Still find a lot of awful rude couples here with very high opinions of themselves.
If I wanted to have sex with a horrible fat mess I'd go to ***removed **** and not be begging some of the obviously troubled individuals here.
Open your eyes people.
oh gorgeous bigbruv you do certainly have a way with words,
but i will agree with one point in this having watched some fems and cpls in chat and the way they speak to single guys just because they are not interested in them ,it makes me cringe somtimes ,im not sure i would be able to cope as well as some of the single guys do if i was geting the same treatment and rejection as some of them do , we used to have a thread here some time back that midnightchat started called the single guy appreciation and it was a pleasure to read , but of late i feel that it has become single bashing like it used to be,,and i know im gona get taken down a peg or two for this comment but i feel all i read these days are treads and comments against single guys ,, i have met many many genuine and lovely single guys ,and this site would not be the same for me if they wernt here..
anyway awaits the bashing xxxxxxxxxxxx
I didn't say I was gods gift but I'm certainly of a calibre where other attached gentlemen would be intimidated by my physique and attributes.
I'm just calling a spade a spade.
I wouldn't take this all too seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway.
think you picked up the wrong quote there !!
Quote by bigbruva
This thread is all opinion. I predict tempers being ignited if some people can't read between the lines of what a wind up is/isint.
Get a grib of yourselves. Anyone ever heard of a wind up merchant?
Ive heard of him bigbruva he adresses people with humour and comes across in a jokingly manner not as Arrogant!! wind up merchant= someone who specializes in teasing.
Maybe i dont have a sence of humour for not laughing when i read your statement on women
If I wanted to have sex with a horrible fat mess I'd go to ***removed **** and not be begging some of the obviously troubled individuals here.
But no i dint find it funnie and im doubting many theres no reading between the lines in your statement Bigbruva its very clear !!!!!
Quote by bigbruva
I didn't say I was gods gift but I'm certainly of a calibre where other attached gentlemen would be intimidated by my physique and attributes.
I'm just calling a spade a spade.
I wouldn't take this all too seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway.
Well for starters you dont intimidate me and im attached (As for me being a gent, well I cant attest to that so you'll have to ask others).
So you're hung like shergar on viagra, but it takes a lot more than a big dick to satisfy a woman. You're not the only one on here with a big dick, we've seen many well hung lads at parties in ours, and the reason they got invites is because they never came across as being all up themselves and they definitely never went around sayin "Ive a big dick".
If you have a big dick then great, it will do you a world of good Im sure, but theres no need to shout it from the hills.
If someone is good looking, fit, toned and well hung it makes no difference if the attitude isnt right
Well that's what my wife says anyways
If we can all show respect for each other most importantly, yes there is no guarantee that you will get the same in return of course as there are some people on here (single men / women & couples) that have no idea how to show respect sadly. Karma is a wonderful thing however as if people spend their time being like that then they will get the same themselves at some point.
