Hi all
I have been on this site for quite a time now
I have mailed quite a bit talked to some people
set up some dates with some ladys . But all of them never turn up
so I have to ask are u chicken ladys
I am 6ft2 big guy all my friends say I am fun
when I am out with a lady it's all about her ..
I love oral and will spend all night making a lady
happy in whatever way she likes
fue drinks nice dinner nice hotel ...
But still no takers from this site ...???
So ladys ....TELL ME WHAT TO DO ??
Martin
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Are most of the ladys here chicken ???
Are the ladies chicken to meet
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No
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mrg
I can somewhat understand your frustration but I think your post & associated poll is very unfair to the single ladies on the site.
Next time you are in chat ask a woman how many mails she receives per day, most will receive 20-30 unsolicited mails per day, it is akin to spam or the junk mail through your letter box.
Many of these mails are short & often not so sweet. Crude & rude would be a better description for the mail.
Even mails from friends or those that they have recently spoken to in chat may get missed amongst the dross.
So while it is nice to send mails, particularily as a follow up to a chatroom conversation, remember it is not that you are necessarily being ignored but that it is impossible for the ladies to keep up with the constant deluge of post.
A single brief conversation in chat may not necessarily be memorable to the lady ... They get bombarded with whispers and "hellos" in open chat, so again it can be difficult for guys to stand out from the crowd & be memorable when it comes to opening/replying to their very full mail boxes.
As for arranged meets & no-shows ... That unfortunately goes with the territory, & is a problem for couples, single girls & single guys. Remember there are also guys masquerading as girls...so they may get a kick out of leading people on ...
For many, despite their best intentions, nerves may get to them in advance of the meeting. We were all first timers/newbies once and it can be a big first step. I would give people a second chance but if they keep messing you about, then forget them.
If possible I would recommend you go along to a "meet & greet" as a way of meeting people, it is an ideal way meet up for an informal drink/chat, a "meet & greet" is an ideal way to get to know people in a relaxed way, it is not a party and there is no expectation of "play", plus it is an opportunity for your personality to come to the fore, something that is not always possible in the chatrooms.
Many of the genuine people on here will have comments on their profile or have been established by other members, ... Do you look up their comments etc ?
1- Do you speak by phone to the people before a meet or is all communications via the site
2- do you exchange pictures with them, do you cam with them in a private room
3- do you email/text
4- on the day of the meet do you make contact to make sure all is still ok
I know it seems like basic steps but it is a good way to weed out the messers.
As for your question ... no the girls are not chicken, but they are entitle to make up their mind, membership of a swing site is not an automatic invite to a shag, it is like any other social networking site ... it takes time and effort to get to know people, it can be a long process but when you do meet the genuine people you will know the time spend building the foundations was worth it.
Orgasminator
hi mrg yes it is hard to get ppl to meet up some can be fussy and not like the fem or cpl they meeting come in suzies chat get to know ppl on chat and hope to click xxxxxxxxxxxxxx suzie
:clap: :clap: :clap: Alan-Ball!! You really gave a great wealth of experienced advice there Boy! Well Done!! I hope Mgr takes that on board and finds a better response in future to his searching here.
One further word of advice I would proffer:
Mgr: Sort out your profile - it gives us girls nothing about You - oh yes it covers the 'I love oral/give me a chance to please you' angles - but it says nothing about you as a person, what you are like as a personality, and the sort of people you get along with. In other words, it's too vague - too much like all the other 'single males' who prowl these sites. Give yourself a boost and let us know about what you like, and who 'Mgr' is and perhaps - perhaps - there'll be someone who shares a common interest with you - you just never know what folks are likely to be into.
One further word of advice I would proffer:
Mgr: Sort out your profile - it gives us girls nothing about You - oh yes it covers the 'I love oral/give me a chance to please you' angles - but it says nothing about you as a person, what you are like as a personality, and the sort of people you get along with. In other words, it's too vague - too much like all the other 'single males' who prowl these sites. Give yourself a boost and let us know about what you like, and who 'Mgr' is and perhaps - perhaps - there'll be someone who shares a common interest with you - you just never know what folks are likely to be into.
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Hi all
I have been on this site for quite a time now
I have mailed quite a bit talked to some people
set up some dates with some ladys . But all of them never turn up
so I have to ask are u chicken ladys
I am 6ft2 big guy all my friends say I am fun
when I am out with a lady it's all about her ..
I love oral and will spend all night making a lady
happy in whatever way she likes
fue drinks nice dinner nice hotel ...
But still no takers from this site ...???
So ladys ....TELL ME WHAT TO DO ??
Martin
....well whatever chance you had before you called the single women of the site chicken, you've certainly gone and fucked that up.
What an awful generalizing thing to say?
Sex God
Quote by user=mgr
Hi all
I have been on this site for quite a time now
I have mailed quite a bit talked to some people
set up some dates with some ladys . But all of them never turn up
so I have to ask are u chicken ladys
I am 6ft2 big guy all my friends say I am fun
when I am out with a lady it's all about her ..
I love oral and will spend all night making a lady
happy in whatever way she likes
fue drinks nice dinner nice hotel ...
But still no takers from this site ...???
So ladys ....TELL ME WHAT TO DO ??
Martin
Well I aint a lady but I tell you what to do first, Loose the all encompassing and highly insulting opinion that because a woman won't meet you she is a chicken!!
Look at it this way, its a numbers Game, we outnumber the women by a huge Margin, so we need to make the effort, convey ourselves as best we can by email chat etc, ( though I have to say devil the meet I have had from emails alone)
You said you spoke to a few on here before yet the meets came to nothing, did you actually speak by phone? hear a voice etc? I know a lot that are very trusting and would hang on every text or email correspondence they receive, not the most sensible of methods, I always Insist on a phone chat inside a day or so of making contact, it sorts the messers out from the genuine folks, also a conversation can tell you enough in 10 Minutes that half a week of texting won't.
Don't be so dismissive of the site, and by no means be dismissive of the ladies on here, I have met a lot of 'Real' Fun Ladies from here and I can vouch that the site does work. But you really need to do the ground work, invest some of yourself into your conversation, approach etc. we all are here for fun, Not relationships, thats true, But just because the ladies on here have a more broader outlook on theyre sexuality it doesnt for a minute mean they are by any means quick to jump on the first cock that swings by the door, if anything they will be more choosy as there is a huge pool of males to draw from.
There is no 'quick hit' when it comes to swinging.
This reeks of desperation just like your last thread, is this honestly the only way you can get the attention of the opposite sex by insulting them.....you will not get far in doing this and rightly so. I would not be attracted or have any interest in a guy who acts like a child when it's not happening for him...time to grow up it may happen for you then.
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Sorry guys do u even read the post ....
SOME of the ladys I sad not all
work this out
have mailed 10 ladys
have mailed 6 for over 2 months
have spoken to 4 on the phone and of the 4
3 of them picked the time and place to meet
4 of NO SHOW'S
now u tell me
Some people are just here to mess people about though, this happens on other sites as well & i think this has happened to all of us at one time or another. Don't think they're "too chicken" to meet, not knowing the people concerned i don't know but if this was the case then a text or a phone call would be the polite thing to do. Some people just get a kick of having people jump through their hoops, just because you talk to someone on the phone or are texting them beforehand doesn't mean the people will turn up. The only way you'll know is when you arrive at the scheduled time / place. I don't feel it seems like desperation to pose the question as to why people arrange meets and then don't turn up.
Chance Favours The Prepared Mind
hey, just a thought!!! its unlikely you arranged to meet somewhere theres not goin to be people around, cos in my (limited) experience both you and her need to be able to get away without it bein awkward. so....... mabey she/they did turn up and just didnt like what they saw? in not sayin for a second that you arent a really nice guy, but fuck it, everyone isnt atracted to everyone!! just a thought.
Quote by user=mgr
Sorry guys do u even read the post ....
SOME of the ladys I sad not all
work this out
have mailed 10 ladys
have mailed 6 for over 2 months
have spoken to 4 on the phone and of the 4
3 of them picked the time and place to meet
4 of NO SHOW'S
now u tell me
Yes we read your post, but your biggest boo boo was insinuating women here are chickens.
You should read Titan and Gangbangs posts, they gave very helpful advice.
But the best post so far was Amazinghead......maybe what was posted should be taken note of. This has happened to many members here cause no matter what we like to think we are not all gods gift to the world.
