Is it just me or do any other genuine guys ( not including lads just looking to hump anything in the vicinty) find it hard to get talking to single women.
I been on this website few weeks now and sent a few mails and tried talking to in the chat rooms but it just seems to me that most the girls on this site sont take you serious.
Do any other people find this to be the case and that it is very hard to get talking to new people?
Well,While most guys do look for anything the breathes in here,Women are way more specific in what they ,While men continue to keep looking,even after they may have found some already,Women tend to find what they are looking for,and be happy for a while after that.
Yes,It can be hard to get chatting in the chatrooms,but,there are also ways to overcome this.
You can look for the Moderators,who have the Yellow stars next to their names,who;ll only be too happy to chat,if they are not busy,,,,Plus,You can also open your own chatroom,,and greet whoever comes into your chatroom..
It may not be perfect,but,,It's a start..
Hope this helps?
Thanks for the input it is much appreciated
Ecoli,
I know exactly what you mean. I recon that there are alot of women ,if not all who get millions of emails from guys. I can't confirm this as i'm a guy. I hear alot of the time that one liners are not successful and so they shouldn't. However, I have gone the extra mile and written mails of substance and volume but sometimes I wonder if I'd be better off writing a one liner instead. Yes it is disheartening but guess you won't stike if you stop swinging! I have nothing yet to show for from this site. I have tried and tried and tried. We must go on ! There has to be light at the end of the tunnel.
Lads, the good ladies on this site are well outnumbered by us horn-bags by a rather large margin. It will take more than just an anonymous mail, be it one line or one hundred, in an inbox to get the attention of who you are seeking.
Advice? get chatting. As was said already. Try the smaller rooms and build up a repertoire of friends who will want to understand who you are and who will be there when you come back on......and in turn introduce you to others you may like to get to know. If you get blanked, don't assume the worst. There maybe a valid reason and there's always somebody willing to say hi back.
I agree that the genuine lads who would like to actually meet people for playtime fun, are well outnumbered. It only makes sense then, to get involved and distinguish yourself from them, and make yourself known.
Keep the faith.
Very well said blue boy.
it can be tough but you just have to persevere and do so withouth being pushy.
keep the faith lads.
Lads, another thing you're forgetting - because this is a SWINGing site it means many of the females are here looking for couples and parties, not single males.
Let's face it, what woman has to search online to get her leg over?
Swinging is about swapping for the most part.
Cherrylips is spot on guys. To be honest girls on this site could meet a different guy each night if they so desired but I personally prefer to meet couples or parties but thats not to say if someone caught my eye I wouldnt rule out guys. But its the ole supply n demand things guys...you're outnumbering the girls by a long strech unfortunately so girls can pick and choose. But I would advocate getting into the chat rooms and getting involved in chat if you can and built up a rapport with people first. Just my opinion....:devil:
guys courtesy and politeness goes a long way ... word of more than one syllable and a sentance that is more than " I wanna f*** u " ...think about how you would chat to women or couples if you meet them in a bar or club (when ur sober & not brave with drink)... its easy to be a twat & be alone ... its classy to be a gent
Excellent Points alan Barb and Cherry,
The Single male has got as lot going against him on here and unfortounately its a thing of putting in the effort, being polite getting to build up a rapport with people, I am here Mainly to attend Parties and meet couples, and Thankfully I have achieved both, But I tell ya I was here the guts of 8 months sending the long wionded emails and honestly have to say I didnt get one reply. The chat rooms are a great way to get involved, but alas they are not for everyone.
Keep the Faith bothers in Swing.
Thanks for the info guys. It's hard to meet ppl on here. Most of the time they think you are just another mongol trying to get the leg-over.
I try to have a laugh on the chat with others, most of the time Im blanked, even when Im just trying to be friendly.
Rome wasnt built in a day......
:-)
To be honest I after being in the main chatroom for the last few nights, I can understand how single guys feel..
Last night a guy made a small slip of rules and he was devoured by a female member, who is not by the way a moderator.
He was not being offensive and none of the moderators in the room took him to task..
New members especially single males, are advised to get into chat and mingle, yet they are mostly ignored by others.. it's time we all rememberd swinging and swing4 is a damn community not an elitist group of self important women and men!
Well said,Offally..:thumbup:
Let Us not forget the most important thing here.....We were all new members once,,and,so we should know what it's like to be a "newbie".
