Sexual Status

1 Dec 2009

That said, for what ever reasons, fair play, Numberseven, I hope I have not offended you or your comments.
Padd's

Quote by user=Padds
Erm, afraid of being recognized and you have a face pic on your profile? No disrespect here, but, Hello!!!
Incidentally, who mentioned the church? why was that introduced?
Wow Great thread....... Yes i'm one of those guys who put straight on there profile afraid of been recognized and verbaly beaten back into the same corner i've been on many occasions. A lot of people see Bi-sexual people as greedy feckors who want it both ways but don't realize the torment that people have inured while fighting with there consions and old style irish church beliefs that many folk still hold.. When i was young i fought tooth and nail with my sexuality and up till a couple of years ago i was still fighting but i'm fully aware now of who i am, and i'm comfortable with the fact that i'm Bi-sexual. Without realizing it i was Bi-sexual then and i'm Bi-sexual now. Am i happy, yes. Would i change it, hell no, this is who i am....

1 Dec 2009

[quote user=numberseven]Wow Great thread....... Yes i'm one of those guys who put straight on there profile afraid of been recognize}...... I hadnt got a pic up at that stage padds.........The church had a lot to do with the way people thought in this country for a very long time. Only last year the pope denounced homosexuality as a sin and something people should feel sorry for.

1 Dec 2009

Quote by user=numberseven
Wow Great thread....... Yes i'm one of those guys who put straight on there profile afraid of been recognized and verbaly beaten back into the same corner i've been on many occasions. A lot of people see Bi-sexual people as greedy feckors who want it both ways but don't realize the torment that people have inured while fighting with there consions and old style irish church beliefs that many folk still hold.. When i was young i fought tooth and nail with my sexuality and up till a couple of years ago i was still fighting but i'm fully aware now of who i am, and i'm comfortable with the fact that i'm Bi-sexual. Without realizing it i was Bi-sexual then and i'm Bi-sexual now. Am i happy, yes. Would i change it, hell no, this is who i am....

Great post and so honest too.
I know all too well how you feel. Like you I have struggled but now I embrace that I am bi and in a sense am proud of it too. I do think the hardest thing is to admit to ourselves. Once we get over that, then even if others don't accept it, we are happy that we know who we are and what makes us happy.
Look forward to chatting with you and again, well done. I always admire honesty.

1 Dec 2009

Quote by user=Padds
Incidentally, who mentioned the church? why was that introduced?quote]

Padds, I agree with numberseven. It was the same church and religious beliefs that held me back from been honest with me and with my heart.
There is a great line from the bible "Love one another just as God has loved you"......I didn't note anywhere in that where it said who you could or couldn't love!!
The first step for me was to learn to love myself for who I am. Having done that, no amount of brainwashing or bullying will ever keep me down.

1 Dec 2009

I hadnt got a pic up at that stage padds.........The church had a lot to do with the way people thought in this country for a very long time. Only last year the pope denounced homosexuality as a sin and something people should feel sorry for.

Excellent post Seven! Homosexuality within the framework of all main-stream Church teaching in Ireland is denounced as a sin, and an act of sodomy..
Now if you are a BI-Guy then you are deemed as homosexual, thus you are shunned by the Church, no wonder many people especialy men are loathe to declare they are indeed Bi..
Such a pity Seven that you felt the need to have to explain yourself AGAIN in this thread, but my hat off to you for having the courage to do so and include a pic of yourself..

1 Dec 2009

Quote by user=Virgogirl
I hadnt got a pic up at that stage padds.........The church had a lot to do with the way people thought in this country for a very long time. Only last year the pope denounced homosexuality as a sin and something people should feel sorry for.

Excellent post Seven! Homosexuality within the framework of all main-stream Church teaching in Ireland is denounced as a sin, and an act of sodomy..
Now if you are a BI-Guy then you are deemed as homosexual, thus you are shunned by the Church, no wonder many people especialy men are loathe to declare they are indeed Bi..
Such a pity Seven that you felt the need to have to explain yourself AGAIN in this thread, but my hat off to you for having the courage to do so and include a pic of yourself..
Excellent post seven.....and well said virgo

1 Dec 2009

Numberseven,
Sorry, I think maybe both you, Dar4, Bongo1 and Virgo misread my post, or maybe think I was being negative? Far from it.
We have all had to struggle, to endure and face reality at varying stages in our lives, face the things that we placed at the back of our minds, knowing that eventually they would surface. I for one admire you for placing a picture on your profile, infact I commend you.
Having a Face pic on your profile is not something I would really do, but I have cammed, so in essence, that's pretty much the same thing.
But fair play, I do admire you.
Padd's:welcome:

Quote by user=Padds
That said, for what ever reasons, fair play, Numberseven, I hope I have not offended you or your comments.
Padd's
Erm, afraid of being recognized and you have a face pic on your profile? No disrespect here, but, Hello!!!
Incidentally, who mentioned the church? why was that introduced?
Wow Great thread....... Yes i'm one of those guys who put straight on there profile afraid of been recognized and verbaly beaten back into the same corner i've been on many occasions. A lot of people see Bi-sexual people as greedy feckors who want it both ways but don't realize the torment that people have inured while fighting with there consions and old style irish church beliefs that many folk still hold.. When i was young i fought tooth and nail with my sexuality and up till a couple of years ago i was still fighting but i'm fully aware now of who i am, and i'm comfortable with the fact that i'm Bi-sexual. Without realizing it i was Bi-sexual then and i'm Bi-sexual now. Am i happy, yes. Would i change it, hell no, this is who i am....

1 Dec 2009

I have to say fair play to everyone for putting their point across and not turning it into an all out war, as Bi ppl we have to face that enough in live and i would hate to think it would start here. Well done everyone.

1 Dec 2009

Ah no not at all Pads your grand, no probs man. The nature of forums and threads is if you put yourself out there expect good and bad comment back that's what makes it interesting.

1 Dec 2009

Cheers,
Padd's,,,, No I am off to bolt

Raven, my little Minx,,,,,,,

Quote by user=numberseven
Ah no not at all Pads your grand, no probs man. The nature of forums and threads is if you put yourself out there expect good and bad comment back that's what makes it interesting.

1 Dec 2009

Quote by user=Virgogirl
:mrgreen: I think tippbi meant Mrgreen as in the emotion MrGreen

Correct Virgogirl, go to the top of the class. Padds go to.... my room??? :mrgreen:

1 Dec 2009

Which room and where? I want to go to that room :giveup: :bounce: If your there?

Quote by user=tippbi
:mrgreen: I think tippbi meant Mrgreen as in the emotion MrGreen

Correct Virgogirl, go to the top of the class. Padds go to.... my room??? :mrgreen:

2 Dec 2009

OOOOO a secret room.....is it all dark and full of whips and chains??? Hiyaaa Padds x

3 Dec 2009

Quote by user=ravenfire
OOOOO a secret room.....is it all dark and full of whips and chains???
Hiyaaa Padds x

Raven if it is, cmon we will get there before them bolt

4 Dec 2009

It wasn't, but after reading the 2 posts above I'm stocking it up straight (pardon the pun :mrgreen smile

away..........

4 Dec 2009

Tippbi bring me and i will chase Raven and Amber to it x

Quote by user=tippbi
It wasn't, but after reading the 2 posts above I'm stocking it up straight (pardon the pun :mrgreen away..........

12 Aug 2011

Quote by Amberx
This is something I have been wondering about for some time, the sexual status on a profile!!
It is no surprise to most on here that I have a thing for bi guys :lick: and it has been said to me bi several guys that they are bisexual however their sexual status on their profile is straight.
Not a major problem until push comes to shove (pardon the pun).
When I ask why this is, I'm told they haven't come out as being bi and prefer it kept to themselves (ok well my take on this is, they have no photo's so who exactly is gonna recognise them personally as bisexual) and a few other reasons.
Now I'm not saying they are not genuine but how can one tell if the profile states one thing and the member says another!! :-?
So I'm asking you if your status is set to other than Bisexual or Bicurious and you are either of them why is that?? :rose:

YES!!...thank you for sharing my logical and realistic way of thinking...totally agree with everything you say...afterall, if you are excited about meeting and getting down and horny with a same sex peep (guy on guy is soo horny...such a turn on), cause they have stated they are bi on their profile, it doesnt take long into the eve before you realise that the same sex peep you thought you were going to be flirting and getting down with...hasnt got any sexual interest in you at all...instant turn off...ruins everything straight away..why bother...? just be HONEST...there are lots of straight peeps on the site, just as there are bi, and if a person has no interest in bi..why try to arrange to meet, much better to meet up with peeps who are interested in the same sort of fun..makes for a much hornier and fun eve.... wink

12 Aug 2011

Quote by dar4u
I recentlty up dated my profile to bi, as I felt, I have to be honest with myself first and foremost and the same for others too.
I had been bi-curious for many years, and I guess I still am to a point in that I have had only one bi encounter.
In saying this, I had been advised by a member here to put up I was straight as it would scare too many people away. I will admit I did have it up a straight, but having received warm support from other members here, I decided, I have nothing to hide, I am who I am, and if you choose to meet me, then you know who I am.
Honesty at times can be difficult, but with so many people who lets others down, I do not want to fall into that category for not been honest.

That is true what you say about scaring away peeps by stating bi curious on your profile (this seemingly just applies to males), but the way we look at it is...we are what we are, and because we are honest with our sexuality on our profile, anyone scared off by it..well they're not for us anyway...and visa versa, which leaves us with the peeps who are not sacred off but turned on...and those are the kind of peep me and mr love...

12 Aug 2011

Quote by dar4u
I recentlty up dated my profile to bi, as I felt, I have to be honest with myself first and foremost and the same for others too.
I had been bi-curious for many years, and I guess I still am to a point in that I have had only one bi encounter.
In saying this, I had been advised by a member here to put up I was straight as it would scare too many people away. I will admit I did have it up a straight, but having received warm support from other members here, I decided, I have nothing to hide, I am who I am, and if you choose to meet me, then you know who I am.
Honesty at times can be difficult, but with so many people who lets others down, I do not want to fall into that category for not been honest.

Well said dar4u :thumbup: why change your preferences to suit people who scared away by a bi male...lol...didnt actually think attitudes like that existed on swing sites, why is bi fems considered such a turn on for guys, whereas bi males send them running scared...:scared:..they dont know what they're missing if you ask us...