My Dogging experience so far...

24 Jun 2013

I decided recently I wanted to try the dogging scene, after many swinging sessions and parties I'm well versed in Swing etiquette so I reckon I'll get the hang of this soon enough. I went to a spot and just missed the couple who had arranged to meet a few so that was that one. Next up I decided to go by a well known Dublin spot, not much going, nobody there apart from one other guy, he came over, opens my door and starts to try play with me, I was a little reluctant given I was in a straight humour but I let it go for a couple of minutes then I decided to leave. Grand. Decided I'd give that spot another bash and see whats happening, plenty of cars around but nothing going on really, hung around for a bit and the guy from the previous night turns up, he approached my car and I shake my head, he came over still and tried to open the door which was locked, I shook my head to signal I wasn't interested, he hadn't really taken no for an answer the previous night so I didn't want to engage. So then he calls me a wanker, gives me the finger then spits on my car. Is the dogging scene full of guys who are just desperate for any little bit of action or are there people out there, genuine people who are in it for the pure thrill and excitement. I think half the guys wouldn't be out there if they could get it in the comfort of their own home. I on the other hand am in the whole swing scene for the fun and excitement of it. If it was just a regular bit of sex I was after I could get that anywhere I needed that rant biggrin

24 Jun 2013

Your experience. I'm like you, fancy trying it a a 2st timer, sh*t, good job I did not go. That would have freaked me out. Maybe next time you'd let me come along (I'm fully straight) so I do not get into and 2hassle" Good luck if you go out again. Chris

24 Jun 2013

I certainly won't let that experience turn me off, I just know to avoid that chap if I see him again, while I'm into the scene and groups I tend to keep to myself too, not even slightly pushy and respectful, it's certainly not too much to ask

24 Jun 2013

Some experience Gar, I would have been fairly freaked out with anyone opening a car door without an invitation. Need to be a little more cautious

25 Jun 2013

Quote by muzikhead
Some experience Gar, I would have been fairly freaked out with anyone opening a car door without an invitation. Need to be a little more cautious

I hate pushyness myself and this guy was just a bit of a sap, I don't think he was dangerous though. Just shows you do need to watch yourself and be careful

26 Jun 2013

to be quite honest thats the reason why i would not go to that ''well know spot'' there is far to many pushy males and if they are pushy with guys i could only imagine what it be like for couples. as a single guy i have been followed from car park up and back up and back even when i have told guys im straight and im looking for couples and i am not a couple. so i dont go unless i have knowledge of something happening any more

28 Jun 2013

Gar101; you are spot on you have no idea how it is for a couple!!!! Some seriously disgusting behavior down there, We have started to use another spot for pre arranged meets because of how bad it is and how rude and pushy and disgusting some of the lads are down there.

28 Jun 2013

That's mad that its happening so much Deec. Seen myself the cars following couples, driving up too close beside them and the like but actually trying to open a door when not invited is pretty shocking

29 Jun 2013

Quote by muzikhead
That's mad that its happening so much Deec. Seen myself the cars following couples, driving up too close beside them and the like but actually trying to open a door when not invited is pretty shocking

Even at that, people getting too close or following couples is one thing, but to be touching without permission and be pushy about it opens a whole new can of worms
TBH all I wanted was to watch some action and see a couple, I'm not looking to join in really (if the opportunity arose I'd find it hard to say no lol) but I'd be happy to be in the background if I was left in peace. But having a guy with his hands all over me when I'm not really into it is completely offputting

29 Jun 2013

As a 1st timer I'm now more wary than before.................and as such all the backup information I've read "learning" seems a million miles away from what you nice people are informing us of. Think I might just scrub that "experience" from my to do list, shame, but I really do not know how I would react. Back to my dirty vids :doh:

5 Sep 2013

Finally got some proper action. Won't say where and when but suffice to say it was brilliant and the bug has bitten wink

5 Sep 2013

Nice one Gar, happy dogging from here on out!!!

13 Oct 2013

Quote by gar101
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Is the dogging scene full of guys who are just desperate for any little bit of action or are there people out there, genuine people who are in it for the pure thrill and excitement. I think half the guys wouldn't be out there if they could get it in the comfort of their own home. I on the other hand am in the whole swing scene for the fun and excitement of it.
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Nice report, very interesting to hear of your experience. However your conclusion. Is a bit odd. What exactly is the difference between you and the guys you criticise? Manners at most. You're on this site for sex, your going dogging for sex (or sexual activity). Even if you were not playing your partipation is based on the erotic pleasure the scene gives you. That you don't get elsewhere. No different from the trolls you describe at the dogging scene. Your manners may be different but your motives and incentives are identical.

14 Oct 2013

Quote by filthsdc
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Is the dogging scene full of guys who are just desperate for any little bit of action or are there people out there, genuine people who are in it for the pure thrill and excitement. I think half the guys wouldn't be out there if they could get it in the comfort of their own home. I on the other hand am in the whole swing scene for the fun and excitement of it.
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Nice report, very interesting to hear of your experience. However your conclusion. Is a bit odd. What exactly is the difference between you and the guys you criticise? Manners at most. You're on this site for sex, your going dogging for sex (or sexual activity). Even if you were not playing your partipation is based on the erotic pleasure the scene gives you. That you don't get elsewhere. No different from the trolls you describe at the dogging scene. Your manners may be different but your motives and incentives are identical.
I absolutely take on board what you say but the point I'm making is that the guys who are there out of what I described as desperation rather than the actual thrill of dogging are approaching it in the wrong way. All you have to do is look at them as soon as a couple appear they are on top of them, so my conclusion is that desperation leads to poor manners. Motives and incentives are one thing, it's how you go about it that makes the difference