just wondering why people are so afraid of meeting others from their own county... like grow up...
"ooo, wat if we meet out somewhere"? "what if the person knows us already"
so f*cking what... at least talk to the person or couple and if you dont trust them dont meet them in the first place. And if you know the person, all the better, you know what they are like...
and if you are on here, what have you got to worry about.. anyone who sees you on here is on here themselves...
and as for myself, i have been declied meets because i'm only 22, and i "might brag about it to my friends".... for those who have said that,
HOW DARE YOU!!!
i myself have put pics on here of me dressing up, something no one knows i do, and i aint gonna go shouting me mouth to anyone about anyone else on here... we all on here for one reason, to have fun. only some people are so chicken or ignorant to even write back.
to those who are like that, please, get over yourselves...
....................rant over..........
comments or posts from people in the same boat appreciated...
Micky I can see you are annoyed, but yelling at people is not going to help..
People have preferences Micky, and rightly so, I prefer to meet people not from my own area for privacy reasons..
I prefer to meet people over 40 as I connect with them on a differnet level to younger people, and I accept that younger men and women feel the same about my age group..
Look be yourself , enjoy the site, if someone isn't interested, then so what?
It happens to us all, move on, and find people who are..
each to their own micky and most don't feel comfortable meeting people they may see about town, especially the married people who are here as singles.
I suggest you look a bit further afield, and around your own age group if you want a positive outcome.
I can Understand yer Frustration , I have the same thing, I havent met many bar 2 from Galway and looking at the profiles the counties awash with swingers, But it doesnt bother me, loads other counties to Invade...I mean visit for fun.
Personally for me, it is all about discretion and respect for privacy.
Like Lucy said, society has loads of judgmental people out there who view things in a particular way. It is quite ok for a guy and girl to be seen out there, members of the same sex, but we must always realise that as a single, when meeting a couple, we must at all times respect their request for privacy, just as I would seek the same.
For me to say that i would have no problem meeting someone from my own county would be correct, however I must get to know them and trust them that our discretion is paramount at all times.
All posts are valid here. But we have to remind ourselves, we only meet people when we feel confident to do so, having chatted swapped texts, cammed in private! I think the Original poster frankly is being optimistic to find what he is looking for pm close to home, but I could be wrong and do not know the exact details of him venting his frustration, if anything it has drawn our attention and prompted replies. I don't look for meets that have specific graphical locations similar to my own, that said I would not say no! But like others have replied, sometimes meeting to close to home can draw up fear, fear of being recognised.
We prefer to meet ppl from dublin but have no problem with where they come from as long as they are not time wasters.
i think it is all about being "outed" in your locality, when i first joined this site one profile i first spotted was a brother in laws. like an earlier post said,you don't need your kids finding out. i am in an awkward position myself,in a marriage that was over several years ago,but as there are young children involved,i am not willing to walk away from them,as my first priority has to be them. i wouldnt want someone from the surrounding areas leaking it that i am swinging,because it would be too messy regarding my home situation. strangers are safer in a funny kind of way.
We are all on here for the same reason and if by chance we come across a profile or cam of someone we know, just think they may be as freaked out as us and may want discretion too, so hopefully they would be adult enough to keep their mouth shut as they may have as much to lose as us.
Layla, i dont believe i ever asked you or mailed you, so why the very personal response? and yes i do read profiles, and to be frank the language i used is my choice as i am furious that so many people are ageist/sexist on here, you being one of them layla, going by your post there.
"horny 22 year old males"
i'd be obliged if you would retract your statment about me needing to grow up, as i do read all the profiles before i even consider writing to someone...
as far as profiles go, at least mine is honest... you wouldnt believe the amount of profiles of couples with "straight males", who when they get their partner out for the evening suddenly become gay or bi, so dont give me that crap about reading profiles...
to end, i'd like to say that this post was originally to share my experience with the site so far, not for couples (who going by their profiles wouldnt meet me anyways) to have a go at me for expressing myself... end of....
Technical note:
You do not have to be a member of the Site - to view profiles on the site.
You do not even have to have a profile on the Site.
Being 'outed' would not normally happen from other bona-fide members of the Site - but the likelihood of being spotted by someone you know is not insignificant.
Keep your face pics assigned to Private - and send Gallery Invites to people you want to share your face with - if you want to remain anonymous to non-members.
And many say they are bi when they are not...
Does it really matter, who meets who where or when?
We are all adults and it is about freedom of choice!
unfortunately narrow mindedness limits freedom of choice ... & yes it would be nice if we could just live life as we would like ... but society wants us to conform ... to be a number not an individual.
Also there is the matter of keeping your private life private which would be difficult if your neighbors knew you were swinging. Also as a couple people have said its not something you might want your kids/family/coworkers to find out about, especially if the kids are young and not adults yet.
Theres also the fact that in many professions being "outed" as a swinger would cripple your career especially if you are in the public eye or in a position of trust where expectations of proprietry are more traditional. Turning up for an interview and seeing someone from the site interviewing you might be a bit of a shock. Especially if you had swung with them :embarrased2:
There been some good advice about only sharing face pics with a limited set of people.
Lifes short have fun as long as it not hurting anyone!!