I think about this every now and then and often thought about turning it into a thread....well here goes.
I was wondering......how do you choose to who to meet in here?
Now I understand there are many ways to choose someone....but what I am more interested in is........
What makes us choose NOT to meet someone?
I know there are people who dont meet the same people as, say....their friends have met.
This I can understand too.....as equally there are friends who recommend meets.
Have you ever read someone's profile....looked at their est. list or comments and gone....oh..theyve met X. Y or Z and.....decided against meeting?
Have you ever....even in a round about way.....put someone off meeting another member because we want them to ourselves?
Or even because we just dont want that particular person to meet them?
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Who we meet.
(I hold my hands up here to the last one........not that i didnt want him to meet anyone else....far from it....just not the female I was close to......It was the one and only time the green eyed monster reared its head...which took me by surprise too, as my interest in that person was purely friendship based)
for me its about attitude...
if the person has a fun sense of humour, a naughty mind and a bit of umph then I'll go for it. If they push push push... pester... get nasty real fast... do Cock cam... not for me. don't get me wrong I'm not a prude, i can talk as dirty as the rest... but there is a time and a place.
I do read the comments and the est list too and if i see someone on it i know than that's usually even better...I'm very wary of people on here for a few years and not est and no comments... what have they been doing??
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Great post Mona....
I tend to judge by chat, profiles and verifications are often misleading...
I can get get a feel of someone from how they interact via mails ect.. but again have made a few mistakes...
Would never take someones word as accurate, as many have agendas and issues and can falsely accuse but on a few occasions friends have given me the up on someone and I trusted them and was right..
Sex God
I usually use their chat, in the chat rooms to decide, if we get on in chat and they dont take themselves too seriously , its a good indication for me that we will get on in the real world so to speak. I will also throw my eye over the comments and establised,when chatting I find the comments help a bit,but for me their not the be all and end all, I mostly go by the way ppl chat.
But the one thing that will turn me off more than anything is somone tormenting me over and over again for a meet, perstering me every time i come into chat,that gets a black mark in my book.
And to answer what makes me not choose, well if im honest, theres always ppl we like and dont like in chat as well as life, and if i see one of them on an persons establised list, it will definitly colour my view on agreeing to a meet.
Gotten to the stage where trust none of the profile comments established. Too many folks have agendas so never take anyone elses word.
Meet first then decide later if want to swing. tried the swinging on first meet lived to regret it, then again have swung later and lived to regret it the good folks outweigh the a**holes.
On the chatrooms dont bother anymore as unless you are part of the group who meet regularly at meet and greets etc then you are practically invisible, actually completely invisible. Difficult to have coversation with self.
So as to meeting Pics, Cam, meet decide then play to answer the question posed in thread.
Sex God
I use the comments purely to see if someone is real, in the case of the female accounts on here some do make me wonder, seemingly here so long and no comments and pictures that might seem a wee bit too good to be true.
as for the attributes of those I find myself attracted to? well 'gameyness' as I call it, the ability to be sexy and funny and comfy in there own skin, these are terribly important things for me, if your so self absorbed in yourself that you can't have a laugh and a giggle your not for me. Pushyness and needyness are also turn offs for me.
Then again, once in a while, some stunner catches me eye and all the above go completely out the window lol....nah just kidding.
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people who are pushy and who are all the time whispering and wont chat in the open and ask is this mr or mrs and if u say mrs they will constantly love the chat and the fun and if u make a connection well that is a bonus and can lead to a great night of fun and sex. every one has there own idea off what they would like and some people like to chat for a while before they meet but we are all different but we all want the same thing some fun
If someone asked me to meet them, even if we had never chatted, I would out of courtesy meet them, that is after all the idea behind the site. At then end of the day you cannot beat the face to face meeting, admittedly chatting in the chatrooms, emails, texts and even the forums can help you form an opinion or view on people ... but face to face there is no PC, screen, keyboard or mouse to hide behind ... body language say it all.
That said a friend once did recommend I meet someone ... we meet for coffee and have since become great friends ...
I couldn't imagine pancakes without her :rose:
Although Alan....they will never agree on what tastes better with them....bacon and eggs or blueberries and mascarpone....lol
ok back on topic......today I was chatting to a very pleasant gentleman on here, chatted to him a few times.....always polite and never rude.
What is the problem then you might ask.....well during our conversation he made one remark......relatively innocent and no harm meant.....but it stopped me in my tracks and the shutters came down.
Has anyone else found that even one remark made by someone in here can change your opinion of them instantly????
from being interested to putting them on a no go list.
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Although Alan....they will never agree on what tastes better with them....bacon and eggs or blueberries and mascarpone....lol
ok back on topic......today I was chatting to a very pleasant gentleman on here, chatted to him a few times.....always polite and never rude.
What is the problem then you might ask.....well during our conversation he made one remark......relatively innocent and no harm meant.....but it stopped me in my tracks and the shutters came down.
Has anyone else found that even one remark made by someone in here can change your opinion of them instantly????
from being interested to putting them on a no go list.
Yup Mona, Golden rule...'if in Doubt pull out'
Have to admit that an off the cuff remark can put me off, and it has happened on occasions in the past,one guy was rude during a convo, I should have stuck to my original thought and not have met as he went on to spend a lot of the meet insulting me in one way or the other..
I actualy found out recntly that he even suggested to someone else that he intended to go off to a nightclub with someone else and this was during our meet
its trust for me if i dont trust someone the forget it and trust has ta be earned bottom line ............as for reading peeps comments gettin ta the stage some commets are done for peeps by the friends form here who havent any interest in meets dont get me wrong there are genuine peeps here wit genuine commets but i just dont take notices of the commets...........and iv no time for peeps who are in "clicks" who treat ya like ya aint there thats up ta them but manners cost nothing cant make peeps chat ta ya but sher thats life
My criteria is changing all the time: at first the guys had to be young and hot but then i soon relized sometimes they don't have much to offer and that just cuz they have fit body doesn't mean the sex will be good. Then i started to read profiles a little bit and their comments if they have any...gives u an insight to who they are. Mind..i still want photos and the ages i go for are still a small window but hey i like what i like. Going into the chatroom is easiest to sess people out tho..their reactions have to be quicker than a mail that they can contrive to their best advantage. The ones i won't meet tho are the guys that treat the site as a dial-a-fuck---i am all for NSA but come on guys...whispering me or mailing me saying i will be here at this time..want to get the ride of ur lifetime----doesn't do it for me (cuz its usually not hahha) life is about evolving and so are my needs and wants............just to keep you on ur toes boys 
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its trust for me if i dont trust someone the forget it and trust has ta be earned bottom line ............as for reading peeps comments gettin ta the stage some commets are done for peeps by the friends form here who havent any interest in meets dont get me wrong there are genuine peeps here wit genuine commets but i just dont take notices of the commets...........and iv no time for peeps who are in "clicks" who treat ya like ya aint there thats up ta them but manners cost nothing cant make peeps chat ta ya but sher thats life
Astonvil i agree with the trust bit and not a lot of guys get this :S first of all cuz there are a lot of messers on here and sadly we have all encountered them but secondly on a womans perspective its down to safety. As for the clicks...well there are some in the chatroom that are too far up their own hole hahah but i wouldn't say they are the clicks...its individuals more i think and only a few not bad concidering the amount of people in the chatroom
:smile2: and keep in mind i will always chat to ya
