whats the point??

14 Nov 2009

Hiya Lovebird kiss

I find that some may be on a break from meeting others but still like to interact in chat....
While it might be frustrating for others to understand and in fairness it doesn't state in any of the rules of S4I that if you are on this site you must meet up with other members.
It's another case of to each their own and if people don't like it move on, there are alot of other people on this site looking to meet...but I agree there was no need for that guy to

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be on the recieving end on her verbal,uncalled for,onslought

It's nice to be nice and a simple 'not meeting at the moment' would've sufficed in this case.
Now deep breaths hun,enjoy the rest of your weekend :cheers:

14 Nov 2009

hi lovebird i would agree with you on this having quiet a lot of ppl here but i meet alone and i like all nite meet but only at weekends i realy like to get to know the person xxxxxxxxxxxxxx suzie

14 Nov 2009

We don't agree with been nasty to ppl who ask to meet us but we have stated on our profile we are on a break and if we get asked in chat for a meet we just say look at our profile rather than having a go at ppl, maybe if ppl checked out the profile of the person they are going to ask to meet before they do it, ppl may not be rude to them. It`s very easy to go into chat and jump on the first person that takes your fancy so to speak but if you don't take your time to read their profile and know what they are looking for you will end up with egg on your face. That's why we have profile after all, so we can let ppl know what we are looking for and in turn find ppl who want the same thing, ok we all want sex but that's not all there is to it, is the person we want bi, straight ect? You wont know that unless you look at the profiles. We have made some exceptions while on our break, but it was worth it lol.

15 Nov 2009

Hi lovebird Good thread! If i can give my opinion from a single girl's perspective... :scared: I have been on the site for a long time now and have met a lot of really great people on here... and for what it's worth i do consider these people .. friends worship

As people who have chatted to me in the past know, I am a very private person (not only in swing but in general) and I have never wanted anyone on here to "establish" me or comment on a meet with me simply for the reason that I am so private... and for that reason I have been referred to in the past as "all talk and no action" .. to my disapppointment. :violin: However, i believe this is a swing site and not a "meet when you chat" site. I have (at present) a " not meeting at the moment" on my profile and i feel that if people choose to chat rather than meet... it's their choice... (and following on from the "do they read profiles post poke

) Only my two pennies.. bolt

ps wuff u dora :bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce::bounce:

15 Nov 2009

Lovebird, Amber, Anna77, great post & I would have to agree with all your opinions 1 yes it is supposed to be a swing site ...but chatrooms are the social network side ... for some chat is their form of foreplay 2 everyone is entitled to take a break ... as a matter of fact short breaks help maintain the interest 3 everyone is entitled to their privacy...if you don't want comments etc it should be possible to "reject" or "hide" them that said from the various posts over they years people will be aware of complaints of "all talk no action" "no shows" "messers" it is unfortunate that the guy didn't read the profile to realise the woman only wanted chat ... but it would appear her response was also uncalled for ... however i suspect she had been getting many unwanted whispers & his comment, although in public was the straw that broke the camels back....

15 Nov 2009

there was no need for rudness so i think the lady in question could have handled it better ... buy you no hun truth is alot of people here have gained alot of friends on this site an if they need a break from swinging alot of the time they still want to have the banter with there like amber said hun deep breath an have a fab weekend xx kiss

15 Nov 2009

Good thread!
If i can give my opinion from a single girl's perspective...
O M G .......Thank you for that,,Anna...
You just made Me realise.....There are Single Girls on this site......
I thought it was just a rumour....:grin:

15 Nov 2009

Have no idea who is being referred to here, but hhmmmm think lb has established this Thread's reason was really to highlight the way the "lady" spoke to the guy, rather than what the Site is for. Have to say here, if it was the other way around, the guy would have been absolutely slaughtered, so Im glad lb has brought this up, cos I think girls sometimes "get away with stuff!" BUT and a BIG but lol, sometimes that's just an un-written rule and is widely accepted as so lol, and as women it's our perrogative!! Hehehe!! However would also have to add in, - even though I might get backlash for it Lol, but will mention it anyway! A couple of or maybe, 3 girls on the site in the Chat-rooms, who are all lovely lovely girls, are seriously seriously vocal in Chat and have emmmmmm rather "dressy" shall I say, profiles, and 1 in particular, I found out there one day when somebody asked her in chat, she has _never_ _even_ _had_ a bi experience never mind a threesome, in fairness she admitted it openly outright, butttttt her profile tells a whole different story - the total opposite to say in the least, soooooo even though she admitted it, what right has she to have such an elaborate Profile??!! Guys get maimed practically for "Bigging up" their profiles, but i.m.o. it's not just the guys. I'm not saying that every-one is intentionally un-truthful or in-genuine in any way, and in no shape or form do I mean to cause any offense to any-one on here. I'm merely just adding to lb's point. As a foot-note on a happy note lol! can I say whilst this site is designed but not soley geared towards swinging, I always used to like attempting to get across the message that features on here DO include chatting etc. (Admittedly that has kinda changed in some ways over the last while, as I've kinda realised that out of a few guys, there was only 1 that, - going on the whole "connection /spark" thingy, after 1 night, I would have liked to have seen again.) And there is a Thread some-where on here and I was actually thinkin bout it today, Im gonna find it and dig it out from tha Forums lol, which was about Love or some crap like that, but basically a few of the Sticklers maintained to the core that there was absolutely no chance of "Finding some-one" on ere, and guess what??!! Those exact very same few met guys on ere that they are with at the moment so while it is aimed at swinging primarily but not exclusively, there are other aspects that can be explored perhaps, so there is possibilities ..... Finally it does seem to be a given that people in general are receptive of this being a social site as much as a swinging site, so as far as Iâ€™m concerned if a minor few are saying that folk on here are only interested in the swinging / sexual side, they would want to become more involved in the Site and find out more as to how they arrived at this conclusion. I'm gonna scarper outta ere now before somebody comes after me! Iâ€™m getting frikened now!!! :upset::undecided: innocent

15 Nov 2009

Quote by user=MrCorkHot
Good thread!
If i can give my opinion from a single girl's perspective...

O M G .......Thank you for that,,Anna...
You just made Me realise.....There are Single Girls on this site......
I thought it was just a rumour....:grin:
shhhh Mr Cork!!! :uhoh: I'm a mythical creature!! bolt

15 Nov 2009

Quote by user=anna77
Good thread!
If i can give my opinion from a single girl's perspective...

O M G .......Thank you for that,,Anna...
You just made Me realise.....There are Single Girls on this site......
I thought it was just a rumour....:grin:
What's the point? In the non cyber world exactly! But are we not in cyber? Well some of us? I am always in trouble in the the forums so keeping this short. Each member on this site does not have to justify their being here, we All take breaks, periodically, if not to remain sane! LB that guy you mentioned was not wrong, from your post he did everything as per the sites AUP rules. The female should be reprimanded for being a tosser, yes but lets not make a small incident turn into a big issue! Instead get back too why we are All here! Padd's x

15 Nov 2009

says he who cribs about 1 single word being edited ..... innocent

(Ah ya kno I'm only slaggin Padds! kiss

15 Nov 2009

Yup pedantic Padds here and will remain so! Just a pity there where not more like me, that are not afraid too stand out from the crowd, instead of trying too be everyones pal! That's just not me, nor will it ever be. I was born with a tongue and I will use it both in the vocal format and for other more pleasureable uses. ZaZa I know you jest.

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says he who cribs about 1 single word being edited .....

(Ah ya kno I'm only slaggin Padds!")

15 Nov 2009

Good topic LB. Its good to see a few differing points of View. I can understand people wanting to take a bit of time out from meets,I can also understand people taking theyre time to get into the site on a 'meeting' level But I can't really get people that have no intentions of participating in the lifestyle turning on people when they try to question they're motives for being here, surely with this being aimed at people that swing or those that wish to get into the lifestyle, I think the ones that question 'non swingers' reasons for being here are perfectly within they're rights to do so without getting ridiculed and lambasted, it must be a bit confusing for the people asking the question. Secondly I do appreciate that everyone has the right to be here and someone even said that they dont have to answer to anyone on here, true, but I am sure you can appreciate the frustration of those that when in chat get the face eaten off them 'without salt' when they ask this simple question. Now if I was to say something really provocative i'd even go so far to suggest that the ones who react so hastily when put the question,deep down they don't know why they are here either, and the truth is far too hard to admit to. Just my few bob. (Edited to correct grammatical boo boo)

16 Nov 2009

Peace ....Not War If the music make you moove.....feel like you wanna make looove under the stars.... xxx F

16 Nov 2009

We all fluckin ere n that's tha main thing!! :clap: :clap: :clap:

16 Nov 2009

if ppl dont want to meet then i dont see wot the problem is..thats not sayin they didnt meet before and wont meet again.. it might be something to do with their private lifes that stops them from meeting.. i have a family and cant jump at the chance of meeting when i want..wish i cud but its not possible.. i have taken breaks from time to time.. yes its needed.. and yes i have put on my profile before that im takin a break from meeting and im only here to chat.. whoever u r talkin about didnt need to jump down that mans throat.. but there r ppl like that on this site and many more sites... unfortunatley...theres nothing in the rules to say if ur not planning on swinging then u cant join.. i myself joined few years ago.. never met anyone cos i at the time was just curious about the site.. then i left the site for about year and a half for personal reasons.. its only since i came back start of this year that ive met ppl.. so Lb id say get on with meeting ppl who u want to and dont be bothered by ppl that dont want to meet because at the end of the day we dont know wot goes on in peoples lifes off this site.. lifes to short to be worried about wot other people do on this site...so just enjoy the site and remember why u joined cos ur reasons for joining may not be the same as others ... smile

16 Nov 2009

Whilst in agreement to leave be as is and live and let live, the purpose of a Forum is to air entitled opinions not quench them on the basis that people have lives so for that reason opinions can't be given. Of course people have lives but they also have opinions and a right to them. So we should still be allowed to air our views while letting folk lead their lives, it's both together. But not airing our views in order to let people live their lives is robbing us of our entitlement to our opinion. Que sera sera!!

18 Nov 2009

Well my take on this whole topic would be the fact that the "lady" in question was down right rude to the bloke who asked a simple enough question ok he should have read her profile but come on did it warrant what seems to be a full on attack?????I cannot stand bad manners and rudeness and as someone pointed out women seem to get away with it more here(this is the mrs part of couple btw).Lovebird I can understand your frustration but as in all walks of life theres always people can surprise ya and piss ya as a couple dont meet with single guys(there are a few exceptions innocent

)we still get asked but a polite no thanks will normally suffice,however persistent offenders wont get a polite response but I dont like to air it in main!!!! So I do think its all down to personality and how you connduct yourself in chat is a good indication of what a person is like on a face to face meet!! Mrs D x x

19 Nov 2009

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Well my take on this whole topic would be the fact that the "lady" in question was down right rude to the bloke who asked a simple enough question ok he should have read her profile but come on did it warrant what seems to be a full on attack?????I cannot stand bad manners and rudeness and as someone pointed out women seem to get away with it more here(this is the mrs part of couple btw).Lovebird I can understand your frustration but as in all walks of life theres always people can surprise ya and piss ya as a couple dont meet with single guys(there are a few exceptions)we still get asked but a polite no thanks will normally suffice,however persistent offenders wont get a polite response but I dont like to air it in main!!!!
So I do think its all down to personality and how you connduct yourself in chat is a good indication of what a person is like on a face to face meet!!
Mrs D x x

Fully agree with you Mrs D.

19 Nov 2009

It's nice to be nice! And it doesn't cost aything either! (Stolen from a certain pedantic person!) :happy: