Just wanted know from you ladys what do you perfer a man with muscles or a nice average built reason why i asked is because i meet this girl a few weeks ago for a coffee i liked her and wanted to meet her again.
I sent her polite text and invited her out for dinner she told me no i wasnt her type because i was to thin. now im 6ft2 with broad shoulders and train to keep in shape but this comment as knocked my confidence abit.
as anyone any advice i even stepd up my training because it as made me a bit paranoid about my body.
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what do you perfer
I prefer a guy with an average body over one that is extremely muscular or really, really thin. My body isn't perfect so I don't expect any man I'm with to have a perfect body either. It's not about having an ideal body, whatever you think that might be, but being comfortable in the body you do have.
I have some of my own body image issues... and I could be more confident, but I'm working on that bit 
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:-o Ok so I'm gonna just throw this out there...
Personally I like bigger guys (not with muscles necessarily), I mean stockier guys, tell ya why, because I'm tall and big built as well as having a few extra pounds to be kind to myself haha, not just that, but I'm attracted to guys carrying a bit of weight/ kinda stocky or to tall guys who are naturally bigger built because of the height...I wonder was this the reason she said that, was she a big girl herself? I don't know, just throwing that out there!
In saying that, it doesn't mean I don't find slimmer men attractive, actually, all of my ex's have been slim bar one. But, I suppose, I just like when the guy is taller and has bigger hands, haha.
I have another friend who is totally attracted to skinny guys, she loves skinny guys, but now she is with a guy who's pretty average.
It doesn't matter about what you look like, yes we all have that perfect ten, but doesn't mean that we always want that for now...a perfect all rounder is so much better in my eyes, personality first and foremost, sense of humour and then looks!
Anyway, like I said her fussiness might stem back to her own insecurities and as lovebird pointed out tactlessness. I wonder did she just not find a click between you and used this as an excuse....
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Knock backs aint nice, but some people aren't as diplomatic as others and quiet possibly thats the first thing that came to mind, and in hindsight she may think she could have handled the situation better. i have met people that I just didnt click with and I would always try and make it clear while being considerate that I have no more interest than the initial coffee/Drinks.
I'd Just put it down to experience Biggles, everyone has a different type too, and we aren't all everyone's cup of tea, but once yer happy with yerself that's the main thing.
Biggles...
for me its about the attitude of the guy.. as in... he has to have some confidence... not point in arriving to meet me and shivering in your shoes...btw i'm not that scary. But back to looks part ... i'm 5f 7 ish in bare feet and i like a man to be taller than me so for me once he's about 6f... not a complete freak... has a good sense of humour and is a bit naughty i'm happy! (oh and pestering types just p me off big time and i'd never meet anyone like that..) i;m sure ure yummy..btw from how u described yourself...
I can still hear a comment i guy gave me in the middle of things and i have to wipe it from my head at times of confidence crisis...
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hi bigg i have meet quiet a few ppl here got on with most of them and if you read my profile it says that if you dont like what you see just say so and stay friends we only live once so why not injoy it and i think you have to click as well xxxxxxxxxxxx suzie
:clap::clap: Well said suzie... we cant all be everyones "cup of tea" but hey we are all human with feelings so at least try and be nice and if yis cant find anything nice to say then keep yer gobs closed!!
Biggles as everyone has said chin up hun.. ive never found u anything else only polite and friendly so 
to whoever :giggle: shes entitled to her opinion too i guess but it is a case of to each their own... :therethere: 
to whoever :giggle: shes entitled to her opinion too i guess but it is a case of to each their own... :therethere: Quote by user=MissCoolCpl
Ok so I'm gonna just throw this out there...
Personally I like bigger guys (not with muscles necessarily), I mean stockier guys, tell ya why, because I'm tall and big built as well as having a few extra pounds to be kind to myself haha, not just that, but I'm attracted to guys carrying a bit of weight/ kinda stocky or to tall guys who are naturally bigger built because of the height...
wow MissCoolCpl :clap: I'm exactly the same way! I don't particularly fancy guys I feel like I could overpower haha.
Like others have said I wouldn't get too hung up on it. Some women just don't like thin, some do. When I was at my fittest my weight was just under 10 stone, my wife told me I was to thin and the word gaunt was used alot. Now I'm 12 stone (injured and got lazy) my wife is happy but I'm not. I liked the way I looked and I'm happy to be back in full training and getting back down to 10 stone, so as long as your happy who really gives a crap.
Well the question was what do you prefer and I prefer athletic-medium build over skinny guys as I'm big myself.
While it might not be nice but feel horrible to get told that Biggles hun, even if she could have let ya know in another way, or maybe worded it differently. I do actually think it's better ....
Better than being in touch with some-one for months and they not putting a halt to whispers/emails etc., the opposite if anything, by continuing with it and not putting a stop to ya. And tryin to arrange to meet them, who then goes off and has arranged a meet for a single weekend, in one swift move.
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Granted it's a no-brainer of course, dead cert. if much better opportunity beckons lol, and obviously any-one is entitled to meet up with whom-ever they want to meet up with, when-ever they want!
But still, said here in the nicest possible least bitchiest manner, there's no need to make the other party - or guinea-pig lol, - or "The Third Wheel!" etc. feel like absolute total crap in the process because of their actions because they didn't set them straight in the first place, which would have been the right thing to do!!
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And funnily enough might I add, some-one who literally just had to know what your plans were at any given time to arrange something, yet not a syllable that they were arranging to meet others. (Note to certain plonker-:wank:-twonks, one usually says so if not interested, or gives an idea lol, or something to that effect like!)
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So i.m.o. I think the former rather than the latter on this one Biggles hun, she was on the right track in letting you know, just possibly could have done so slightly differently ....
But at least can be grateful it's a confimed addition to the "Showing their true colours" list!
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Oh well c'ést la fugging vie!!:small-print:
(Just a shame some of these things aren't in the small-print!!)
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While it might not be nice but feel horrible to get told that Biggles hun, even if she could have let ya know in another way, or maybe worded it differently. I do actually think it's better ....
Better than being in touch with some-one for months and they not putting a halt to whispers/emails etc., the opposite if anything, by continuing with it and not putting a stop to ya. And tryin to arrange to meet them, who then goes off and has arranged a meet for a single weekend, in one swift move.
:upset:
Granted it's a no-brainer of course, dead cert. if much better opportunity beckons lol, and obviously any-one is entitled to meet up with whom-ever they want to meet up with, when-ever they want!
But still, said here in the nicest possible least bitchiest manner, there's no need to make the other party - or guinea-pig lol, - or "The Third Wheel!" etc. feel like absolute total crap in the process because of their actions because they didn't set them straight in the first place, which would have been the right thing to do!!
:taz:
:undecided::uhoh::-|:undecided:
And funnily enough might I add, some-one who literally just had to know what your plans were at any given time to arrange something, yet not a syllable that they were arranging to meet others. (Note to certain plonker-:wank:-twonks, one usually says so if not interested, or gives an idea lol, or something to that effect like!)
:roll: So i.m.o. I think the former rather than the latter on this one Biggles hun, she was on the right track in letting you know, just possibly could have done so slightly differently ....
But at least can be grateful it's a confimed addition to the "Showing their true colours" list!
:color::smug::O:roll::color:
Oh well c'ést la fugging vie!!:small-print:
(Just a shame some of these things aren't in the small-print!!)
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:D :rascal:people who judge others on looks build or other things seem to have a very narrow minded opion of others, i feel you should be comfortable in your own skin no matter of build,looks etc etc . i have had women turn me down because of my tatts or told i look like i got out of prison, but each to there own if you want perfection you dont belong here,
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people who judge others on looks build or other things seem to have a very narrow minded opion of others, i feel you should be comfortable in your own skin no matter of build,looks etc etc . i have had women turn me down because of my tatts or told i look like i got out of prison, but each to there own if you want perfection you dont belong here,
I've had men turn me down for the same reason tatts. I think some men can be intimidated by a heavily tattooed woman... and others just aren't attracted to it. It can be a turn off as much as a turn on I suppose.
Hey gigg hun ....
We are all differant and none off us can please everyone weather it be in looks or in deeds hun ... Be happy in yourself and know that whats on the inside is what realy matters ....Put honesty is the most important thing for me id rather trust and be trusted than worrie what others think off how i look or dont look , non off us are perfect so dont worrie over the little things life is for fun and half the fun is in the sharing not in the staring ...
I am older than most on here, not particularly tall but have found that it is personality that counts ... can you hold a conversation & be respectful of the people you are meeting.
We all have our likes & dis-likes , tall, thin, BBW, athlethic etc, but that only whets our initial interest ... sure if we were to jump the bones of everyone that caught our eye :doggy: there would be no work done :crazy:
The coffee or drink meet is like an interview and if you wouldn't consider meeting for another drink then is sex ever going to be an option!
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