As an interested bystander ive seen the frustration of cpls over getting an mff organised and more importantly having a fem cancel at the last minute. Let me give you my point of view... I don’t think it’s good to take profiles on face value...
Firstly I think mff is over represented. As you can see there are many, many profiles... men (its number one fantasy apparently), cpls and women advertising and promoting mff but I think the pull of it, when it comes to getting your rocks off, is not actually what gets a lot of people going. For some of these cpls it’s actually the guys predominating fantasy and bringing his gf/wife into this (not coercion... that’s different). Forinstance it’s the guy writing the profile but when you actually chat it’s the fem online and she seems to say something quite different. It’s a rare event indeed for a guy pushing a mff to succeed because women are a lot shrewder to their own needs. To me a real MFF is fem pushed and more resembles a polyamourous relationship that anything else. Women are much more inclined to build a friendship and relationship before making that a sexual reality so theres a lot more time to consider it, and let the deeper psychology bubble to the surface. Is this person really bi? Who am I doing this for? De de de... theres much less of the more simple mmf method... meet, swing, fuck...
Also theres a lot of bisexual and bi curious fems on the site (more than st8!) which is a bit hard to believe on a site that doesn’t particularly cater to the gay community. Many gay women and a lot of bi women wouldn’t use a gay based site because of the harassing comments of straight guys on a site like this so you’re dealing with people who wouldn’t event go there.
This isn’t to take anything away from the genuine cpls and fems who are into mff and are active, and fair play to ya... It just seems to me to get two true bi sexual women who are willing to share that out with one particular guy is more unique that widely believed and there a lot more emotional and psychological barriers to overcome before a successful meet. Just my two cents.
Fair play,,Very well put,,and said.. :clap:
Im simply trying to say some people dont know what they want, but actually they dont really want a MFF... they just say this because of the media and subtle social cues.
Hmm,,,Well,We DO.. We have done before,,and we liked it. That's why We want to do it again!
Finding the single Bi girl that wants to join in is what the hard part is though. Sadly..
L and C...
Well I have been a member of this site for quite a few months, I have never felt intimidated as a practising BI-Female! I have met a wonderful couple, Husband fully endorsed his wifes Bi-curious or Bi-Sexual preferences, (didn't ask as it is not my buisness)...
Bi Sexuality is not a form of voyuerisim, I find this view prevails amongst many of the younger members of sex sites such as Swing , Aff ect...
Many Bi - sexual women tend to be choosy when it comes to meets, soley because they do not wish to be used as either partners sexual fantasy..
Actually... I dont wanna push the boat out, but these cpls im talking about, the fem is intrested in guys. Again I dont wanna tar everybody with the same brush but my experiences on this site of mmf have been with people that say bi fem, wanting a mff threesome on their profile. Also just chatting ive had women say directly this to me.
Im talking about the representation here... mff gets an over representation... its not talking away from the many bi women and cpls who have happy mff sexlives.
So ill add to my point, this over representation actually leads to an under representation of mmf. I could imagine this to be because mff is portrayed to be a natural act etc but im not sure about that so dont quote me.
Hey Addie,
Muchos respect. THe only media card you have to contend with is the popularity of bisexual girls. Girls who are not truely bi kissing for the cameras or to tease the boys on the dancefloor.
I'm sure you've run into this?
Hmmm yeah media is too general. There is a lot of "product placement" though of mff on mainstream tv.
we are a genuine cpl and we have done the mmf thing and the ffm thing and met other cpls we found all experiencesfunand good however we do spend that bit more time looking for a bi fem to join us as its so hard to find sumone who we like and they like us ... mmf are so easy to come by especially if ur a cpl u can find a man easily enuff to join in and one u like too...
In terms of throwing it out to a male audience it is. I see it everywhere but maybe thats just me lol
well, I dont think you read what I said fully.
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