I know this post is going to cause some controversy. I was off the scene for about 10 months or so as in I wasn't meeting or going to parties. Now I'm back and well I did know I would have to put in some work to get known again on the site. Problem is now I'm back and raring to go but it seems the singles aren't very popular anymore. Party hosts tend to be looking for couples only. Those inviting singles ask you to find a male to bring along. So my thing is, are the singles not wanted anymore and if so why? Is it because I'm a single straight female and well couples obviously don't want that on a one to one meet, but why not at parties. Or has the single female now got a similar reputation to the single male?
Feel free to correct me if you think I'm wrong.
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Quote by sparks28
I know this post is going to cause some controversy. I was off the scene for about 10 months or so as in I wasn't meeting or going to parties. Now I'm back and well I did know I would have to put in some work to get known again on the site. Problem is now I'm back and raring to go but it seems the singles aren't very popular anymore. Party hosts tend to be looking for couples only. Those inviting singles ask you to find a male to bring along. So my thing is, are the singles not wanted anymore and if so why? Is it because I'm a single straight female and well couples obviously don't want that on a one to one meet, but why not at parties. Or has the single female now got a similar reputation to the single male?
Feel free to correct me if you think I'm wrong.
I'm sorry that things seem to be going that way for you firstly
I can only comment on my experience which is naturally from a guys perspective in that for the most part (but not all the time) single guys aren't wanted at all at parties which is fair enough after all if people are holding a party they're entitled to invite who they place and i'm not complaining or anything just stating a fact is all. I'm a bit surprised if that's going the same way for single females on the site as well but maybe that's the direction the site is going in now.
This has been going on for a while now i think, and it seems that most of the singles are all now coupled up with other members from the site.
There are hardly any single "singles" anymore but it's probably only the cycle of things at the moment.
People drift in and drift away and some drift back again.
I'm sure as a beautiful single lady, you are going to have no issues getting invites to stuff, as the single ladies are still and always will be more popular than the males.
Its good to see you back.
Sean
Orgasminator
Sorry to hear that Sparks, things are bad when the gals are getting snubbed - maybe its time for a few singles only parties ;-)
welcome back sparks 
Hon, I have to agree with Sean here...that alot of the single woman that would have gone to these parties have hooked up with other memebers and with KK ...about maybe the people throwing parties are trying to keep the numbers even. In my opinion the site has changed quite a bit over the last few months With anywhere you will have influx of new people and it will take a while for them to earn the trust of the regulars and it doesn't help that there is also an influx of messers that kinda ruin it for the people that are here for NSA. I know you are known by us all but i am thinking of evening numbers so trying to get a genuine guy to attend a party could be tough. I was never interested in going to the parties but I would hope you are not taking any of this personally. As Lucy said she would have ya ;) :rascal: and i am sure there are plenty out there that will. Glad to have you back chick :kiss: Wouldn't completely agree here. Yeah true about a lot of peeps coupling up and pairing off lately, (still waiting for Mr. Zaza to reveal himself lol ) 
:sad: But for Parties listed on the Site at present, - most if not all of them appear to have invited females, same for group-type meets in Let's Meet Up, they don't seem to be leaving out females? And not that I'd have any great knowledge on the matter, but as an outsider/by-stander, in Chat I regularly see couples attempting to include single females in their plans .....
Now maybe girls with more in-depth insider information see it differently ..... When it comes to finalizing last-minute frills, and specifics/requirements, - maybe it is noticeable that girls are left out, - if numbers are to be even, or if it doesn't tally with couples, or for whatever reason. Again I wouldn't know, but would be interested to hear more.
:sad: But for Parties listed on the Site at present, - most if not all of them appear to have invited females, same for group-type meets in Let's Meet Up, they don't seem to be leaving out females? And not that I'd have any great knowledge on the matter, but as an outsider/by-stander, in Chat I regularly see couples attempting to include single females in their plans .....
Now maybe girls with more in-depth insider information see it differently ..... When it comes to finalizing last-minute frills, and specifics/requirements, - maybe it is noticeable that girls are left out, - if numbers are to be even, or if it doesn't tally with couples, or for whatever reason. Again I wouldn't know, but would be interested to hear more. 
Orgasminator
Quote by duffman
I've decided to host a single girls only party in my house, Sparks I hope you and all you other sexy single ladies can make it
Duffman good on you for spoting an invitation waiting to happen! Why didn't I think of that??
:lol: Orgasminator
First of all Interesting topic by the way. I've only been a member here for 6 months so for that reason and the fact that I'm not female (hang on let me check that……. Yeah definitely not female… :laugh: ) not sure how relevant my comments are but this is how I've seen it so far..
I have met many single women from this site at parties and meet and greets and I've met many of them attending parties on their own. I've met some that have coupled up with guys from the site and also some that are in pseudo relationships with guys from the site. I've also come across single guys and single girls that other people perceive as being in a relationship (pseudo or legit) without asking the individuals themselves if this is the case (everything isn't always as it seams)….
I've found that the parties that have several single girls also have single guys (usually larger in number than the girls). I've attended about 3 or 4 parties as a single guy with singles and couples in attendance and must have done something right as every party has seemed to lead to another etc..
I've found honesty and good communication (when possible) has been very important (especially when chatting and playing with couples) as it's important to realise what people are looking for and figure out if you fit into that. I've come across couples who won't play with single guys and I have no problem with that either as it's their choice, I prefer when couples are upfront with me on this and will chat with them anyway. The most 'issues' I came up against was when I attended a couples only party with a pseudo partner and when talking to couples about myself and my friend once they discovered we were not 'dating' then they weren't as sure about us or didn't seem interested in playing. Again I understand this as everyone has their desires as what they want to get out of the scene. I've also come across many more couples that are more 'all embracing' 
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Maybe I'm going a little off the point here but to answer the initial question yes I have attended parties where single girls have attended but generally these are parties with more singles than couples in general. FYI lots of fun was had! 
Maybe you've just been unlucky with not making the right contacts and getting known by the right poeple, as I believe there has to be an element of that as with all things in life... I hope your luck improves soon! :thumbup:
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Maybe I'm going a little off the point here but to answer the initial question yes I have attended parties where single girls have attended but generally these are parties with more singles than couples in general. FYI lots of fun was had! Maybe you've just been unlucky with not making the right contacts and getting known by the right poeple, as I believe there has to be an element of that as with all things in life... I hope your luck improves soon! :thumbup: Well said Wilder.
Sparks you are welcome at ours anytime, be it alone or with a male guest, I would really hope that you realise this 
We have never said that single girls attending a party at ours must bring a male guest with them. We have however given single girls at our last party the option to bring a male guest along with them if they so wished. It wasnt a necessity, but rather us being thoughtful & considerate to the single girls we invited. The invites to the single girls went out with the option of a +1 male guest if they so wished to bring a guy along with them. We also invited single guys seperately with the notion that the single guys would outnumber the single girls - so balance & ratio wasnt a factor in our decision to allow single girls to bring a "date", it was just a simple courtesy to the single girls we invited.
If there was any misunderstanding by any of the invited single girls in the way the invites were perceived, then I do apologise, we both do.
However I do have to stress that we have never hosted or attended parties without single girls in attendance. I cannot imagine a party without them. Yes couples are cool & great fun, but in my opinion, its the single girls who really make the party come alive so to speak. They only answer to themselves and personally I believe that this allows them to be more adventurous and to be themselves and let themselves go much easier.
Oh and finally, when we attend or host, we always go do our own seperate thing and basically party like singles would. We do link up a couple of times throughout the night to make sure we are both happy and all is good etc, but apart from that we seperate and play like singles do.
We have never said that single girls attending a party at ours must bring a male guest with them. We have however given single girls at our last party the option to bring a male guest along with them if they so wished. It wasnt a necessity, but rather us being thoughtful & considerate to the single girls we invited. The invites to the single girls went out with the option of a +1 male guest if they so wished to bring a guy along with them. We also invited single guys seperately with the notion that the single guys would outnumber the single girls - so balance & ratio wasnt a factor in our decision to allow single girls to bring a "date", it was just a simple courtesy to the single girls we invited.
If there was any misunderstanding by any of the invited single girls in the way the invites were perceived, then I do apologise, we both do.
However I do have to stress that we have never hosted or attended parties without single girls in attendance. I cannot imagine a party without them. Yes couples are cool & great fun, but in my opinion, its the single girls who really make the party come alive so to speak. They only answer to themselves and personally I believe that this allows them to be more adventurous and to be themselves and let themselves go much easier.
Oh and finally, when we attend or host, we always go do our own seperate thing and basically party like singles would. We do link up a couple of times throughout the night to make sure we are both happy and all is good etc, but apart from that we seperate and play like singles do. 