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Sexual maturity?
Master of Sex
I dont think i have gotten there yet!!!! :grin: Ask me again next year..............
Jax:smoke::inlove: Master of Sex
:rascal:Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i am 40 next year:scared:
40 was the watershed for me ... discovered swinging with Windows98 & dial up internet ... have never looked back since & I don't care that I am 50 in June ... age is really only a number ... its the state of mind that matters , but I suppose with age comes maturity & a realisation of what is important in life & love ... ladies being size zero, guys having a six pack or 8 inches... its all just media hype ... being nice & being yourself are much more important ... look at how you have developed over the years ... live for today & celebrate your past
:doh:god my birth cert says im over 50, but guess wat i know i deff dont feel it. life is wat u make it. i think as u realise tat u dont need sitter fr kids an not rushin home, tat life does become easier. u can enjoy ur time and fun as u feel like it. i wont say hang ups disappear as they dont, but they are less obvious. changes are evident when u can look in mirror an not pick out the faults. it is great feel sexy and enjoy the fun. and as for mature, we all mature wit age just like a good wine. he he.. rose:evil2:
Sex God
I think the last two years I have scome into my own, I was a rampant little ...well not so little fecker in my early 20's but had'nt a clue what I wanted naieve etc, But When I turned 28 I started to feel more at ease with myself, I know now what I like and dont like and I think I'm more open minded because of it.
Orgasminator
:Pi suppose i was 30+ when i fully entered my comfort zone ,even tho id been married and divorced by then ,and the best sex off my life has been from then to the present day ,and it says 50 on my birth cert too funny havnt experienced sex at 50 yet lol lol will have to make up for it at the wkend :evil2:
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I don't think I'm there yet. Yes I love sex, but I'm still very uncomfortable with my body and being totally naked in front of someone else
Shaven, having met you the "meet and greet" I would have to say any one should count themselves lucky to have you naked in their room. We all have issues with our bodies, even the super models, sports stars and the lucky adonis. However I understand where your coming from, but remember for a guy that once the shirt & trousers are off , the hairy back, beer belly, un toned muscles are all on show, ladies do have the advantage/option of lingerie, so changing in private and re appearing in some sexy lingerie should help over come any problem you might have. remember a guys brain is not that well developed once it gets "hot & heavy" the penis takes over, being naked or any flaws you think you have are not an issue. as you get more comfortable in someones company any issues you have being naked should disappear. Unless asked (& even then a diplomatic answers is required) anyone (other than ur doctor) insensetive enough to comment on a persons body will spend a long time in the gulag that is "the cold side of the bed" & do you really want them in your bed. we were born naked and beautiful ... we are still beautiful.
i agree head....
i much prefer a natural look anyway,
i wudnt like an overly buffed body...i like a bit of softness and to not feel that i need to be skinnier or more toned....
but i do feel since last year i have become more sexually aware and sure of what way i like sex,
i still have hangups and they interfere sometimes, like wen were taking videos throughout the sex session and its an odd angle and i look like im a big man i get obsessed with it, then later wen i look at it i wouldnt think someone else looked like a big man if i saw them in that pose so thankfully rational donna comes bak hehe
i think alot of people have some kind of hang up 
shaven hun i do know what ya mean about being uncomfortable with your body hun :upset::-owho needs cosmetic surgery when weve the real thing goin 
hwoar:i think feeling sexy and dressing sexy is great theres part of my body i am happy with :smile2: all mine 
je have filthy mind :-o:doggy:and a dirty laugh :haha:but great for the mind body and a soul whatever part is been explored i do feel like a young one :bounce: still
shaven hun i do know what ya mean about being uncomfortable with your body hun :upset::-owho needs cosmetic surgery when weve the real thing goin hwoar:i think feeling sexy and dressing sexy is great theres part of my body i am happy with :smile2: all mine je have filthy mind :-o:doggy:and a dirty laugh :haha:but great for the mind body and a soul whatever part is been explored i do feel like a young one :bounce: still from the replies it seems most are agreed that maturity is a state of mind ...being happy with who we are ... & while we will never be completely happy with who we are, perhaps we can be comfortable ... as the years go by i am becoming more & more comfortable with myself ... so yes I am mature
Master of Sex
i think its when you, as mentioned above feel confident with yourself and your relationship.. having dipped our toes into swinging about 9 years ago i (mrs)most definetly wasnt ready while it was a hugely enjoyable experience sexually,mentally i wasnt ready i had too many hang ups and it could off ruined our relotionship.. im glad we gave it a break for a few years as now i know its something im totally into without any issues!!!! so i can honestly say ive reached sexual maturity.........
thanks head and alan :-o
actually alan i'd not really thought about it like that before, i guess as women a lot of us worry about every lump and bump, and think the minute you get semi naked the man compares you to every other woman he's ever been with, or whoever happens to be on that days page 3. apparently that's not the case :haha:
well my experience is that, generally speaking, the closer to societies idea of beautiful a woman is, the less likely I am to be able to have an interesting conversation with her. There are a lot of women who trade solely on their looks, and a lot of men who are quite happy with that, but I have to say that I'm not one of them. There are, of course, women who fulfil both criteria, but they are rare indeed - I'd rather a have size 16 a woman with a brain than a size 6 bimbo any day.
Orgasminator
:P:laughabove:totally agree with every word of above post ,had afew skinny bimbos over the years but honestly never more than one night stands cant abide girls that are more concerned with there "looks" than what is going on around them .ps had my fair share of essex girls and yes its true they are thick as mickeys pig ,thank feck in a city the size of london i met and fell in love with an irish colleen with brains and beauty 
:inlove:
:inlove: Must be a boy ting related to playing sport or whatever where your naked in front of your mates etc never had a hang on getting naked i is as is... As for maturity you got me thinking and i suppose in summary
Teens = How far could i go
Twentys = How many and how often
late Twentys = Performance
Thirtys = Exploration and Naughtyness
late thirties = realising i have a lot more to explore and swing4 for us full of professors of pervertness ...... happy Days
Ding I thoroughly agree...I am in what I have heard called the dirty thirties and boy are they right!! Maybe sexual confidence comes with age but I feel the sexiest I ever did at this stage in my life and yet my body was in better shape in my twenties (like everyone elses I suppose!). I personally feel I know what I want sexually and aint afraid to ask for it. I wish I had the confidence I have now when I was younger but thats life I suppose and your experiences make you stronger and the person you are today. On a sexual level with partners though, the younger guys have a sexual confidence which is attractive but the guys in their thirties or fourties have a certain air of happiness in their own skin which is attractive to me. Hope this makes sense...sorry for rambling on :devil:
I reached my sexual maturity in my teems, what can i say i love sex lol,
only getting comfortable with my body now and only because i have a partner who adores it lol
He on the other hand became a randy goat when he hit his fortys lol well it was only then he had the courage to get down and dirty with me pmsl
well as the saying goes life begins at 40! and I have to say that thinking about that saying made me think about my life and as well as other things I certainly became more sexually mature and more confident in my own skin as they say. maybe I was a late starter compared to other but heck I've been making up for it since long may it continue
