Hello fellow Swingers,
I pose a question!
The question being:
" Why do people arrange a meet and then never show"
I have been on the site for awhile, have met and made some great pals through it ( those people know who they are)
But why do people arrange to meet, having swapped mobiles, texted and phoned then chatted on the messengers sites and then not turn up?????
I am baffled.
Thankfully, I am not one of the people above, If I cant make it, I will always let my meet/s know.
Padds
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i know the feeling padds these people should be named and shamed :wank: i got stood up at my first meet went all the way to limerick :upset: guess i learned hard way but hey doesnt do this person any justice 
as we do sometimes gossip among our friends 
and we do get to know true genuine people in time :clap: all mouth no trousers comes to mind :grin:
as we do sometimes gossip among our friends and we do get to know true genuine people in time :clap: all mouth no trousers comes to mind :grin: Nerves!!!
Lots of other reasons too, of course. But I reckon that folks get nervous at the prospect of a meet in reality. It's a shame, and very wasteful of time, effort and resources, when you've made the logistics work ready to meet and then it all gets called off - but at the very least - a text, a call, a mail to say they aren't up to turning up is better than silence.
If you've not got the balls to turn up - at least have the integrity to be honest and let the other person down with Respect!!
Lots of other reasons too, of course. But I reckon that folks get nervous at the prospect of a meet in reality. It's a shame, and very wasteful of time, effort and resources, when you've made the logistics work ready to meet and then it all gets called off - but at the very least - a text, a call, a mail to say they aren't up to turning up is better than silence.
If you've not got the balls to turn up - at least have the integrity to be honest and let the other person down with Respect!!
Sex God
Two reasons in my experience.
1. Nervous/horned up factor
nerves is self explanatory, and the horned up[ factor, well lets just say they all think its a great idea when chatting in a room but then they get theyre jollies in the meantime and the nerves set in 
I've had a few no shows over the years but thankfully with experience you pick up the signs and it becomes less likely to happen.
Van, what a bummer hun, an awful trip to make and them not to show.
I've had a few no shows over the years but thankfully with experience you pick up the signs and it becomes less likely to happen.
Van, what a bummer hun, an awful trip to make and them not to show. 
Master of Sex
hi padds know what you mean as you know that there is lots and lots of good peeps on here but i think they should be named and shamed it not fare on the other person waiting around or making a trip they did not need to do and vanity sorry to hear about ur first meet they were not worth it :angel::angel::angel:you one of the nicest people i have met off the site xxxxxxxxxxbonny
same here guys - lots of no shows ot be honest............ anyway im thinking that some of the guys i arranged to meet in the early days werent actually single at all - and the wife ended up not going out with the girls so the guy couldnt come out to play....lol
thankfully it doesnt happen very much now - but i could write a name and shame book at this point..lol
i think this happens in cpl suitations because you have either the guy or the girl chating to you on here making arangements and chating without actually discussing it with their partner and cum crunch time have to let ppl down as partner not up for it,,,, i notice this alot in the chat room. we never make arangements with anyone without first having spoken on cam to both parties and see if we get on well,,and we will always know when we are going to be available with a few weeks notice,,things do change and arangements have to be broken but at least have the respect for others to let them know in time. Thankfully we have never had a no show but i can imagine when you all excited and ready to go how dissapointing it can be but guys dont let it put you off just think you could be just around the corner from you best meet ever lollol
Padds, great topic.....
I have been cancelled on twice one weekend after another, leaving me sat at home alone twiddling my thumbs or sat in chat for the weekend. I'm a single parent so when I get some ME time which is the weekends, I like to use it to have fun not to be left sat home alone of a weekend.
I just wish the time wasters would stop and think before arranging to meet up with others, because it only ruins the fun for the genuine people of this site....my tuppence worth anyway!!
:clap: for all above 
No need for making plans yer not gonna stick to.. yes things happen to us all but not all the time So if yer just cancelling coz yer bottling it dont feckin bother making the plans in the first place!!! :taz:
Now all that said i can not complain at all... ive had nothing but positive experiences since ive been here... So big 
for those peeps as well as the big :kick: up the hole for the time wasters.... 
No need for making plans yer not gonna stick to.. yes things happen to us all but not all the time So if yer just cancelling coz yer bottling it dont feckin bother making the plans in the first place!!! :taz:
Now all that said i can not complain at all... ive had nothing but positive experiences since ive been here... So big for those peeps as well as the big :kick: up the hole for the time wasters.... Valid point fab. For myself i only had to cancel once and the couple where ok about it. I always follow through, whats the point if you have no intention to meet. But once again I do not believe in naming or shaming there is enough whispering and idle talk going on that does the site no justice, for the genuine peeps on here. Things happen that we have no control over.
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:clap: for all above
No need for making plans yer not gonna stick to.. yes things happen to us all but not all the time
Now all that said i can not complain at all... ive had nothing but positive experiences since ive been here... So big
I have only cancelled once, legitimate reason, they understood but I did regret the inconvenience it caused the others.
However the "how you dumped" put a whole new perspective on meets & what can happen.
I think the important lesson to be learnt is
1- always meet in a neutral venue
2- 2nd phone number for your fun life
3- never give your email address until really sure
4- get a friend to phone during the meet in case you need to "go"
5- be honest and up front, if its not happening say so
6- expect the un-expected
all going well you will have fun
