I’m not sure that this thread will work, but it is worth a try, so here goes…
Role Play isn’t everyone’s thing, but for those who do get into it, it can be very hot and very enjoyable. I can’t claim to be any expert or authority on the subject, but I’d like to post a few musings and hear what others might add. A few fresh ideas from others would be greatly appreciated, in fact.
What is it?
Well, there are various levels of role play. My comments apply almost exclusively to soft role play, which involves partners acting out the roles of Boss and Secretary, Nurse and Patient, and suchlike, as part of their foreplay and sexual activity. (There is also harder role play in the world of S&M, in which partners simulate punishment, torture or scenarios, and much more.)
Why it works (for some)?
I find that it works for numerous reasons. The first is probably the element of tease and seduction, and then heightened arousal that results. Another is the freshness and variety of it all. A third is the realisation of a fantasy being fulfilled. That doctor/secretary/boss you fancied, but who was always unobtainable, has just become available in the form of your partner; and, better still, that doctor/secretary/boss is crazy about getting up close and personal with you too. A fourth may be simply that we all think we are brilliant actors and like the acting, thinking on our feet and the invention of a scenario.
Preliminaries.
Some may attempt role playing and after a couple of minutes run out of ideas and direction. In other cases it seems too daft to continue it, and is again abandoned after a few minutes. Whatever roles you try, some loose idea of a scenario is worth agreeing. If it is Doctor and Patient, agree some overall scenario on it being, say, unprofessional doctor and innocent patient. Think through a few possibilities without discussing the details with your partner. Then start – maybe with one person going out and re-entering the room. Play it by ear after that. (Heck, you’d nearly think I was claiming to know what I was talking about. Apologies. It’s not quite meant to sound like that.)
Level of detail
A few props may help – boss’s suitcase, nurse’s uniform, etc – but relatively little suffices. Too much detail and scripting of the roleplay are as likely to kill it as too little preparatory thought. If there is no element of surprise, it fails to arouse.
Tension
I have found that the key element throughout is maintaining tension. That is achieved by one partner being serious/innocent and sticking loosely to the role as it would be in reality, while the other is distracting/seductive. This is even better if it comes in waves – tension/then both serious/then tension/then both serious/then tension/etc until eventually neither are serious and the real aim of it all is fulfilled. Considering the alternatives may illustrate this better. If both continue to play the roles seriously, they may get Oscars or medical qualifications before they get around to sex. If both are too seductive right from the start they’ll be into bed in no time and the role play will be virtually irrelevant.
Sample Roles
The list is endless. Here are a few common ones, but I’d love to hear of others you have tried.
Doctor–Patient, with unprofessional doctor
Doctor–Patient, with nymphomaniac patient
Teacher–Student, with disruptive student and general lesson subject
Teacher–Student, with innocent student and sex education as lesson subject
Teacher–Student, with corrupt student offering bribes for exam results
… and much more.
In most cases the male and female roles are interchangeable.
Then the next league up is trying it as two couples… I never got that far but always fancied the fun of it all.
Having written the above and re-read it I still feel that it sounds a little like a manual for role play, which I never meant it to be. Apologies again for that.
Have you ever tried role play? Any ideas you can share? I’ll be most appreciative of anything you can add. If you appreciate the topic but are uncomfortable about discussing it so openly, a brief comment saying you found it interesting will still be very welcome. Thanks in advance.
Heartiest Regards
Cool Hand
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My Personal Favourite is Brian Cowan and Mary coughlan, I normally play Brian cowan and growl a lot, and then get herself to whine about policy and the state of the economy in a woeful donegal accent,
'Maaaary what ya talking about...snarff, Your neither capable or quailified, now oprn yar mouth like a good garl'
I'm probably only 23 years old and have a girlfriend who's mid 30s.
But I like to role play this (nearly) 50 year old grey haired man wh can manage sex about twice a month.
I wear a floppy belly that I got from the 2 euro shop in Nutgrove.....boy it looks so realistic.
My girlfriend get's mega turned-on as it really feels like having sex with a real 50-year old codger.
I even have to play 'out of breath' games.
jo
Master of Sex
:-?Jo - your probably 23 years old?:O
:-?Did no one tell you when your birthday was?:-?
:evil2:
Thanks everyone for the replies. Much appreciated.
Dora, after reading your list I felt - in acting speak - like a village amateur who has just bumped into a Hollywood legend! That is a most impressive list and offers some interesting ideas. Thanks again.
Avalonpat, I was unaware of that group and will also be looking for it and joining up. Sounds like a great idea indeed.
Heartiest Regards
Cool Hand
Sex God
Always had an interest in the fetish world and role-play. I think originally my interest came from the dressing up for role-play ,but of course, as with any interest if one likes it ,it develops, it started off small, going to a fetish club here and a fetish club there. My favourite as some people would know is, the mistress/sub scenario, and yes I know its an old theme but I still enjoy it , tried lots of others but still always come back to it.
Never liked to dominate a complete wimp though, to me thats not domination, there has to be some spark or spirit, to it has to be with a partner thats in the zone as well, no point in you going completely into the role, if the person your with , is giggling and laughing cos they think its silly ,(that really would deserve a smack on the arse)
The most important aspact is that both people know each others boundries and stick to play can be great fun :clap:
:love:
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....with one person, that i roleplay with, we even write out dialogue that we learn off and recite within the role play ...that can add an even more intense feeling to the roleplay as we have already become excited by the dialogue prior to the meeting....wonderful indeed..
Dora, your comment interests me greatly. My experience has been that if the session is too predictable, as in having it right down to a scripted scenario, the magic suffers. The writing of the script might provide highly erotic fun for several days in advance, and the acting may be even more fun, but the culminating sex seems like a film where you knew the precise end from the begining. I'm now thinking that your approach may be worth reconsidering, though - maybe not for every time, but occasionally as a variant - and I'm keen to try it.
Thanks again for posting.
Cool Hand
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:-?Jo - your probably 23 years old?:O
:-?Did no one tell you when your birthday was?:-?
:evil2:
Look...I've been lied to from the day I was born:
'What a beautiful baby' they said.....I was a minger.
Do you know the psychological trauma of hearing "aaarh, he looks just like his daddy" at time when my real father of heavans and the underworld had been dead for three thousand years (tutankhamum ya know).
I've had to lie to myself to keep myself sane.....can't you see that sanity has won.
And...as time passes by, i look more and more like my mummified father, son of oasiris...king tut.
Thanks to Freud, I'm the good jo now.
jo
There is one bit of my first post which I've worded very poorly, so I'd like to have another stab at it. It is in this section:
"Whatever roles you try, some loose idea of a scenario is worth agreeing. If it is Doctor and Patient, agree some overall scenario on it being, say, unprofessional doctor and innocent patient. Think through a few possibilities without discussing the details with your partner. Then start – maybe with one person going out and re-entering the room. Play it by ear after that."
What I really meant by that was that, having agreed the scenario, you think up two or three things (maybe more) that you'll try to say or do in your role, when the roleplay begins. But for the maximum excitement these are not discussed with your partner, so that your partner is more aroused by the surprise element of it all. And vice versa for you.
So if the roleplay is, for example, boss and secretary and you are the predatory male boss, then you might come up with ideas like:
- telling the secretary to sit on your knee while you dictate a letter
- include irrelevancies in the dictated letter such as "Open my blouse."
- ask the secretary to read back the finished letter and when she reads bits like "Open my blouse" you do that.
- drop items on the floor that necessitate her bending over.
- discuss the new office rules about secretarys' clothing, or lack therof.
And that's just a start...
If the secretary in the roleplay doesn't know what is coming next, and she is really into roleplay, then the effect can be very arousing. This is doubled by the fact that she has similar ideas of her own which you don't yet know about.
Just a few ideas... Enjoy.
Cool Hand
"Whatever roles you try, some loose idea of a scenario is worth agreeing. If it is Doctor and Patient, agree some overall scenario on it being, say, unprofessional doctor and innocent patient. Think through a few possibilities without discussing the details with your partner. Then start – maybe with one person going out and re-entering the room. Play it by ear after that."
What I really meant by that was that, having agreed the scenario, you think up two or three things (maybe more) that you'll try to say or do in your role, when the roleplay begins. But for the maximum excitement these are not discussed with your partner, so that your partner is more aroused by the surprise element of it all. And vice versa for you.
So if the roleplay is, for example, boss and secretary and you are the predatory male boss, then you might come up with ideas like:
- telling the secretary to sit on your knee while you dictate a letter
- include irrelevancies in the dictated letter such as "Open my blouse."
- ask the secretary to read back the finished letter and when she reads bits like "Open my blouse" you do that.
- drop items on the floor that necessitate her bending over.
- discuss the new office rules about secretarys' clothing, or lack therof.
And that's just a start...
If the secretary in the roleplay doesn't know what is coming next, and she is really into roleplay, then the effect can be very arousing. This is doubled by the fact that she has similar ideas of her own which you don't yet know about.
Just a few ideas... Enjoy.
Cool Hand
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Could lend itself to some long posts.....
would a role play such as
being a freshly hatched baby parrot being preened by mummy bird and fed regurgitated well masticated food be OK?
or is that for a different type of thread (maybe 'weird food' or 'secret fantasies')
jo
Very interesting post, indeed, Jo.
I half think I see your point, but in case I'm mixing things up could I ask you to elaborate on it, please?
Thanks in advance.
Cool Hand
To break my head and neck into this world from a shelled home for several months and listen to the call of parent bird.
Survival. Survival is the game. Survival is the same: for man and beast.
Both to feast on love and passion, and some is for ration:
except for the special baby.
Tended carefully in a nest lined with carefully selected feathers and leaves layed in order around a nest.
One of six eggs; the first one of six eggs is hatched as me.
Special? Yes I'm special to my parent bird.
But I'm blind. I can hear but I can't see. But I do see the world ahead of me.
I do hear the flapping wings of my parent bird beating closer and closer to me.
I may be helpless, but I do know what to do. Blind....I open my mouth.
Kind....parent opens hers to gently encourage me to beg.
To beg for my life?
No, but yes. That is it. Survival. Survival for me who begs for my life.
Collected in distant fields and hedges: berries, nuts, and seeds seem sacrificed to feed me my life. A farmers livelyhood has been ....just for me. Survival. I must survive. Not knowing if I'll ever see, but knowing what I must do.
Eat.
Let my parent bird the forests to feed me.
Masticated. Swallowed. Doggy-bagged in a crop.
Parent bird regurgitates my prescious meal. Passing mouth to mouth. I feel life and passion flow into me.
Helpless...but i survive.
I love being helpless and blind and being pampered for a reason.
No one knows that reason, but there is reason.
I love it and I survive.
.....
Or to put it another way: I like to lie there smoking a cigarette and having a cup of tea and have my girl be on top shagging me. Not many girls would do that. But I like it that way. The game is called 'I wanna be lazy fucker tonight' and my girl loves it (truth).
jo
Quote by user=jomor999
To break my head and neck into this world from a shelled home for several months and listen to the call of parent bird.
Survival. Survival is the game. Survival is the same: for man and beast.
Both to feast on love and passion, and some is for ration:
except for the special baby.
Tended carefully in a nest lined with carefully selected feathers and leaves layed in order around a nest.
One of six eggs; the first one of six eggs is hatched as me.
Special? Yes I'm special to my parent bird.
But I'm blind. I can hear but I can't see. But I do see the world ahead of me.
I do hear the flapping wings of my parent bird beating closer and closer to me.
I may be helpless, but I do know what to do. Blind....I open my mouth.
Kind....parent opens hers to gently encourage me to beg.
To beg for my life?
No, but yes. That is it. Survival. Survival for me who begs for my life.
Collected in distant fields and hedges: berries, nuts, and seeds seem sacrificed to feed me my life. A farmers livelyhood has been ....just for me. Survival. I must survive. Not knowing if I'll ever see, but knowing what I must do.
Eat.
Let my parent bird the forests to feed me.
Masticated. Swallowed. Doggy-bagged in a crop.
Parent bird regurgitates my prescious meal. Passing mouth to mouth. I feel life and passion flow into me.
Helpless...but i survive.
I love being helpless and blind and being pampered for a reason.
No one knows that reason, but there is reason.
I love it and I survive.
.....
Or to put it another way: I like to lie there smoking a cigarette and having a cup of tea and have my girl be on top shagging me. Not many girls would do that. But I like it that way. The game is called 'I wanna be lazy fucker tonight' and my girl loves it (truth).
jo
Jo Freud would have had a fookin field day with you, need to be pampered, sex and food, maam and babies.... it is all there....
Not sure about the tea and shagging, that i fear is a whole new theory on its' own
Addies....there is a bit of dare in having a cup of tea whilst having ya girl riding the fuck off ya.
a) how to concentrate
b) how to make it clear that you'll still interested
c) how not to scald her tits
and
d) not knocking half your teeth out whilst sipping it gently (and one does sip tea, not gulp, from a fine bone china cup in a refined sociey: one should know) with all the manic rhythms going on above you.
{I'm probably the sanest person alive....apart from my da: King Tut)
x
jo
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Addies....there is a bit of dare in having a cup of tea whilst having ya girl riding the fuck off ya.
a) how to concentrate
b) how to make it clear that you'll still interested
c) how not to scald her tits
and
d) not knocking half your teeth out whilst sipping it gently (and one does sip tea, not gulp, from a fine bone china cup in a refined sociey: one should know) with all the manic rhythms going on above you.
{I'm probably the sanest person alive....apart from my da: King Tut)
x
jo
a. concentration during sex is a virtue.
b. Looking interested during sex? Does filing your nails count?
c. Pefect I acn hardly find mine, so little chanc eof being scalded..
d..Would it not be better to use a large mug perhaps, and afterwards it could hold your teeth?
Addies....filing your nails counts as being interested....but....
struggling to tie the ankle laces of the shoes on your new Avatar doesn't. That could confuse a bloke into thinking he's got you writhing in ectasy.
UNLESS.......they are what you used to give Dora a good hiding with...(lash. lash) .:devil:
jo
Could I ask another question - one that has no right answer, just a variety of personal answers?
What do you reckon the ideal length of time for roleplay to be (excluding, if applicable, the time spent having sex at the end when the roleplay is effectively over)?
My own ideal is to aim for about half an hour if I am with someone who is newish to roleplaying, and about an hour with someone who is really into it.
The overriding factor in all cases, of course, would be a feeling of "as long as it is going well".
But that's just me...
Thanks in advance.
Cool Hand
An observation....and question?
I don't see too many Role Plays here. Why?
Are many RolePlays quite predictable? You can even buy the outfits....that is how predictable.
OR is it a case that people think that RolePlays are predictable (or of an expected format) that they either don't bother, or think that theirs are not 'RolePlay' because they 'haven't bought the outfits'.
Just wonderng. (or am I trying to tempt some posts here...? who knows)
jo
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Could I ask another question - one that has no right answer, just a variety of personal answers?
What do you reckon the ideal length of time for roleplay to be (excluding, if applicable, the time spent having sex at the end when the roleplay is effectively over)?
My own ideal is to aim for about half an hour if I am with someone who is newish to roleplaying, and about an hour with someone who is really into it.
The overriding factor in all cases, of course, would be a feeling of "as long as it is going well".
But that's just me...
Thanks in advance.
Cool Hand
I normally use the 'Eat her pussy til she demands you fuck her' Yardstick.
times can vary on different Models
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Addies....filing your nails counts as being interested....but....
struggling to tie the ankle laces of the shoes on your new Avatar doesn't. That could confuse a bloke into thinking he's got you writhing in ectasy.
UNLESS.......they are what you used to give Dora a good hiding with...(lash. lash) .:devil:
jo
:idea: Nail file to open shoe ties?
