Having been on this site for quite some time weve come to the realisation that this site purporting to be a swingers site should really be defined as a sex site with chat !!According to the site stats there are over 49,000 members,of these how many are actual swingers in the true sense of the word and how many are simply here either for some sex chat and to perv at cams in the roomsand how many are here for a quick route to getting their leg over !!Swinging,whether with singles or couples can be a great experience and aswell as great sex can lead to great friendships but why do so many sign up to a "swingers" site calling themselves swingers ,thinking its a good idea but when push comes to shove all they can achieve is Email tennis or could it be a nice bedroom fantasy for a lot of couples but who are not prepared to follow through ??if thats the case dont join a site like this and call yourselves swingers! after all the bottom line ,taking away ALL other considerations is SEX , plain and simple.
Were sure a lot of site members will have a go at us in some form or other for what weve said but equally a lot of the GENUINE SWINGERS on here will empathise with whats been you want to join a site simply to have some social interaction theres plenty of non swinging sites out there.
Hi Southdownpair,
I totally empathise with you on some of the comments you make about the people that do seem to be here for social interaction and a quick thrill. There are a lot of genuine swingers on the site and like you said they are here for the full swingers experience, fun and a bit of friendship thrown in where applicable.
On the subject of those that seem to use the site for anything but swinging, there isnt really an effective way to vet these people in theyre suitability to partake in the site, Once people want to join, and keep withing the sites AUP and rules we cannot really prevent them of availing of the site.
Don't class myself as a 'Swinger' but as a person seeking friends who enjoy an adult flavour to their lives. I can't see the point in a contact site of an adult nature not encouraging a social aspect to the site.
The Meet and Greets are great for those who simply want a convenient rendez-vous, but they also serve a greater purpose in introducing Newbies to the lifestyle, and other like-minded people. They also make it possible for the chatrooms to be more interactive and enjoyable by folks who make friends as well as sexual contacts.
I'm sure there's many a profile on sites whereby the user has taken a look at the goings on and decided it's not for them - perhaps the profiles not visited in say, the last 6 months should be purged from the database.
But if a person gets their enjoyment from simply watching, viewing, or chatting - then why not be involved albeit on the periphery and not one of those 'real swingers'. It takes all sorts to make a community and I for one appreciate the variety and diversity shown in this site.
If you want to join a site simply to have some social interaction theres plenty of non swinging sites out there.
Hmmmmm... to be honest the whole idea or ideology of swinging sites, is surely based on the ability to socaily interact with like minded people...
It can take a long time for people to feel comfortable with meetings, be it intial contact or sexual interaction, what is the problem with taking time to get to know someone through chat and emails ect?
Are you saying that you can't be a 'real swinger' unless you leap straight in and meet others?..
There are very few sites that do not have a chat room, used by all ages, sexes, sexual persuasions, people who cam, enjoy watching cams, is this not part of being a 20th century swinger?
The internet has opened up a whole new world to swingers, sites are ever evolving to provide a good medium for this, but it won't suit all tastes, and why should it..
We would end up with an all inclusive club atmosphere, is that what you would want?
