Hi,have been a fairly active member of this site with varying degrees of success and really liked the recent improvements to the site layout and recent updates.
My issue is any recent interactions with people and my general observations of all areas incl the forum,chatroom,galleries,party adds and alot of profiles are of people who are not really here to swing,the emphasis is of people who cant string a sentence together,have'nt got the balls to arrange a meet up or even swop pics - basically a majority of 3rd and 4th division amatuer swingers who are best on the sideline,who will never take anything anywhere past their armchair or email,My conclusion is that what was good in the past is now slipping into being a total and utter waste of time.
Are we surrounding ourselves by total amateurs here ?Its not even a a dating site.
Sorry for the rant,but can anybody prove me wrong or show me what I am missing or doing wrong as from all my recent experiences and observations this is no longer a swinging site,is this as good as it gets ? Prove me wrong !
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Sex God
Heya surf Dude,
I totally agree with you.
There are a lot on here that are all mouth and no Trousers.
whilst everyone has a right to be here and take from this site whatever does it for them, its very frustrating the amount of folks that are here just to chat and do nothing more.
now before you all Jump on me like roman senators on the ides of march, There are a lot of genuine people here that are very social and are top notch individuals, Yes Swinging has a social side and its makes the whole physical side of the lifestyle that bit more complete,
What I mean and I think what surfdude menas is that there is a lot of 'filling' and very little nutritional value.....christ thats one for the books...anyhoo....its never going to change, so is the nature of all sites, but in the long term I think the thoughts of this site becoming another social network type thing makes me shudder, now I know thats not going to happen..but..and its a big but, it could.
A person I spoke to last night made a very good point, there are certain amounts of folk on this site who also frequent a few if not all the other dating and similar sites, so why not do it on them and leave the swinging site for those that really want to swing.
'West', where Makemyday0126 is from:twisted:
Hi There
If others want a social network then there is plenty of sites out there but bear in mind most couples have a family and can be a bit hard at times to meet but saying that if you are on a swingers site then you know why you are on here, to meet others to have sex....that's what it's about.
I can tell you that we have had about 60 plus emails in the last week and only have manage to arrange one meet out of it...crazy LOL
But there is quiet a lot of genuine people on the site but we had a email not that long ago saying hey send us a facial photo's and we asked why ? their answer was just in case we know you...bloody hell like if you are in the lifestyle like us does it bloody matter !
Bottom line have fun you only live once and your a long time dead !!
This is a valid thread, but what are u asking to be done?? across the board there are people on the site that dont chat, just sit there, but it isnt the couples that do all the chatting, if i'm honest is the single guys that are more likely to open a conversation.
Ok, so some of them open a chat in totally the wrong fashion, and look to meet far to fast, and then they want want want, but at least they chat.
I have seen so many couples on here that dont, and no matter what u do they just sit there.
So u have identified a problem but if u have an arguement then offer some way of dealing with it.
I would agree that at this stage the site is on overload of single guys(not a personal or group atack) but a true statement. but again what do u do, ask admin to stop new single guy profiles till it evens up?? NO, u cant, it would be discrimination. plus all that would happen is they would set up a couples profile.
What would help would be that some sort of verification should be in place to confirm that the profiles are genuine at the time the profiles are set up, and before they are active. Like for me, if a single guy is not living with parents, why cant they accon?? i would understand it with the girls, as most of them have children, but there are not that many single dad's in ireland.
This is a swing site, it is not a cheating site. for those people there are sites out there that cater for them, and the women on those sites are looking for the same thing, extra marital sex.
What the true swingers on this site do is not the same thing, so i would like to see admin remove these profiles, most of the girls on here would not entertain a married man, so please, if u are looking for an affair, look for a site that u would have more success,, Then maybe there wouldnt be so many complaining that there are too many fakes on here. and oh, for the guys that have set up profiles as a couple, but are single, it might take time, but u will be caught
Sex God
Mr Babychicks,
Speaking as a single guy I can say I agree there is far too much competit... mean other single guys lol.
I suggest we have a mass cull Lol..But can I get an exemption first please..Ive been a good boy and santa might not come this year so need all the female attention I can Garner.
I dont need house training and Despite my appearance I am low maintence.
Sex God
Very good way of putting it Ava.
Quote by user=avalonpat
i think a real swinger can be defined by the following criteria... someone who can have sex purely for pleasure..with no emotional individual who recognises anothers right to explore their sexuality without hindrance or moral issues clouding their judgement.
Perfect :clap:
Orgasminator
:doggy:hmmm . we would like to think we are experienced swingers after ten yrs on the go , we have no problem with folks been social in fact its one thing that makes s4i a good site for making friends and potential swing partners , it seems, that some people think swingers will shag anyone at the drop off a hat, and get very vexed when they discover swingers are not whores &whoremasters .we have make some great friends on swi as well as swing partners , and personaly we have our rules and morals concerning we will continue to use swi as a social network as well as for meeting swinging partners,thats just our opinion and it works for us .
Orgasminator
:devil:nb, none off our morals arise from any religious beliefs.
Master of Sex
well, i have to say i find surfdudes attitude both patronising and annoying? who are these folks who set themselves up as arbiters of what should and shouldn't happen here, or who is or isn't a "real" swinger? it may take some folks weeks, even months to both gather their courage and find someone they feel comfortable having sex with. we had our first full meet within 2 weeks of joining the site as total newcomers, but by the same token haven't had a meet now for 2 or 3 months...are we not "real" any more coz we haven't had a meet for a while??
Get over urself surfdude.
Master of Sex
Quote by user=avalonpat
i think a real swinger can be defined by the following criteria... someone who can have sex purely for pleasure..with no emotional individual who recognises anothers right to explore their sexuality without hindrance or moral issues clouding their judgement.
i have to say that, while i can see where ur coming from here, u have just defined most of the male population of the planet with the first part of ur definition :giggle:.
I have to agree with losmags to a degree . I found surfdudes comments to be slightly off ....now I'm not sure if i have enough experience of "swinging" to pass a comment as such ,, but what i will say is that without the chatters in the rooms this place would be very cold nd clinical .. Ive met both experienced swingers and ones just dipping their toes and I feel that both have as much right to be here as each other , I don't think someone joins and is automatically a swinger .. everyone goes at their own pace and are entitled to do so and if that means being on the site for years just chatting, without "Swinging" then so be it thats their choice , as long as they are open and not deceiving anyone ...no harm
Interesting post and it’s generated some philosophical replies. Couldn’t help but add my pennies worth (most of which has been mentioned but what the hell). Firstly, people are trying to define what swinging is and I think Avolonpat has it spot on. I’ve heard of a few people put of swinging by “baggageâ€. Thinking that there are hard and fast rules…but surely that’s the point there are no rules beyond those basic tenets which Avolonpat mentioned i.e., respect. As for the OP’s statement it would be a very dull and quiet chatroom if there was not the banter. Wait minute there’s a clue in there some where “chatâ€room!!! Not everyone is going to shag you on sight (ooohh how I know that :cry). Some people may be more discerning and this is where the chatroom comes in handy…and S4I is no different that a lot of sites in that regard. Let everyone go at there own pace. Many people would say that swinging has become easier since the current chatroom was up and running.
The OP is right this is a swingers site and we are all here for the same reason (be it ranging form dyed in the wool to curious) but the more the merrier…its about being inclusive rather than exclusive. As long as people make some effort to fill in their profile I don’t think it’s too difficult to realise what people are looking for…if you’re not having meets at the moment then simply say so on your profile.. in all aspects of this site I think honesty is key. I do think the changes in the site have gone some way towards addressing the OP’s concerns. If all you are after are the experienced people just search for the established members.
As for all the single guys…what a single guy I could turn around and say I’m jealous of all the others stealing all my couples and single girls but if I were that jealous I don’t think this is the site for me. The people who want to meet me will still meet me regardless.
Once you’re honest and respectful welcome aboard
Finally…..all this talk about amateur we suppose to be getting paid for this!!!! Where do I pick up my cheque €€€€€!!!
anyway - im still waiting to buy you that happy meal - when u free......:inlove: