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People who dont bother to turn up for pre arranged meets

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Too many messers on here who say they will turn up for a meet then dont have the courtesy to contact people to cancel or otherwise !! Dont know if we can name and shame but would love to be able to !!!!!!!!!!!
have u had loads? you should make sure they are established..read comments... ask around about ppl before you meet them.. i doubt if u should/could name and shame.. sorry to hear you are falling foul of the messers.. chin up there are some lovely real genuine people on here! XX
As frustrating as it is, you are not allowed to name and shame. Its part of the lifestyle that really sucks, but Gingerfire has given you some good advice. Hope you get back on track soon. Try an meet and greet so people can see what you are about and you can see what they are about. Sean
This happens to us all on here from time to time it's something that goes hand in hand with any site like this sadly and it's happened to me a few times as well so I know the feeling as well there.
I'm not sure about making sure people are established as I've found it hasn't made a whole lot of difference to be honest and just because they are not verified doesn't mean they are not nice genuine people all the same and I mean anyone on here who isn't verified not anyone in particular.
Hi guys Many thanks for your advice. The people in question are verified so that doesnt seem to be worth a hill of beans and we still think they should be named and shamed to stop them doing it to others and also teach them a lesson but we will be guided by your comments and desist from doing so. Cheers Mr & Mrs Curiousor
We've all been through what ye have been through and it really sucks. But naming and shaming will only run into abuse of the system...thats why it can't be done. However....on another site (which i am no longer on because of messers rolleyes ) have incorrporated this option into their report section. On a person's profile there is a report button for abuse...but when you report i think there should be options of what type of abuse...in which admin. screens and then takes action. For example: The options: abuse behaviour/mail fake pictures No show at arranged meet pestering/stalking Not who profile says they are (male w/female prof. or single male w/ cpl etc) Then somehow admin screens how many abuse complaints there are against someone and takes action.. For example: 5 complaints ...letter of warning and day ban 10 complaints ...week ban 15 complaints ...lifetime ban Of course this all has to be relevent to what the complaint was so someone could get a lifetime ban their first complaint :eeek: Maybe admin can look into doing something like this because sadly alot of paying longterm genuine users are getting very fed up at this stage. S4i is the best site out there but its slipping sadly sad and we want our fun care-free sexually charged site back :rascal: xxx worship
Worship we already have guidelines in place and we do take on board and act on all abuse reports and follow protocol.
When any abuse report is submitted the content of that particular abuse report is followed up with the necessary action for that particular type of abuse and the severity of it, so there is no need for admin to list the types of abuse when a member wants to report it, it is self explanatory when we read it.
Fortunately there is only a minority who do not heed to warnings as for the others we do keep an eye on them ;) So all that you have suggested, we already have up and running :thumbup:
hi guys this will happen it happen me too and i was called a time waster as well xxxxxx
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Worship we already have guidelines in place and we do take on board and act on all abuse reports and follow protocol.
When any abuse report is submitted the content of that particular abuse report is followed up with the necessary action for that particular type of abuse and the severity of it, so there is no need for admin to list the types of abuse when a member wants to report it, it is self explanatory when we read it.
Fortunately there is only a minority who do not heed to warnings as for the others we do keep an eye on them ;) So all that you have suggested, we already have up and running :thumbup:

Ambs wave Oh i do know we have an abuse procedure here, sadly i have had to use it a few times. And i must say that admin and the moderators do a great job at acting swiftly. However my suggestion I guess only was giving the people that are fed up with being stood up and outlet to express their anger. You see i would have never even thought of making a abuse report about someone that stood me up sad sadly usually we that get stood up take it personally :( and it feels trivial making an abuse report....but if its being done...i have a few names for ya :giggle:
Thanks again Ambs :thumpup:
While we understand the frustration this kind of behaviour causes. If it is happening off site what really can admin do about it? We met a couple from another site who actually threatened us but the admin of that site couldnt help because the incident took place off site. Am very sorry this happened to you curiouser but unfortunately it does. Hope it wont put you off and that you will have loads of other positive experiences xxxxxxx
Id say it would be worse if people who werent invited turned up outta the blue at your party bolt
Oh no sugarloaf that's just not on at all whatever happend to discretion????