There had been an earlier thread on party & meet etiquette, & the party season is upon us again & as membership grows people are organising to meet new friends, so perhaps a timely reminder for those 1-on-1 meets & attending parties.
Remember we are all here for fun, not to waste time or be messed about.
1-if invited to a party RSVP the host.
Parties do not organise themselves, their is a lot of time, personal effort and stress involved in organising one.
2- if having agreed to go to a party, let the host know as soon possible if for any reason you will not be able to attend.
3- on the day of the party again confirm if you will be attending, numbers do need to be finalised, especially where rooms are being booked.
4- if you change your mind about attending the party, just say so, "the dog ate my homework" type excuses are not really acceptable, be honest.
5- do not text you are on your way and not turn up.
just because it is a swing party does not mean the hosts should not be shown the same respect you would show a friend or family member organising a party or celebration.
The above would equally apply to 1 on 1 meets also, many people go to a lot of bother to go to a meet (travel long distances, organise child-minders, time foo from work)...a "no show" without notification is bad manners. Understandably for a variety of reason people cannot turn up, but it only take a little time to send the text to apologies for your non attendance.
Manners, respect and honesty are as valued here as in society ... you may only get 1 chance at a meeting or a party invite ... without a good reason for your non-attendance there may be no 2nd chance.
Treat others as you would expect to be treated
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Party & Meeting etiquette
Well said alan mimi and marie specialy u marie u work the hardest here for m&g,s well done. I have had several partys here in my home and a lot of prep is put into it I get a lot of help from my good friend dubcplmg with the invites and the catering for food and making sure every 1 has a clean towel if needed lol. I have had party,d for about 55/60 at a time and to get that 55/60 I have to invite about 150 peeps allowing for the drop outs. I agree that married couples and single mums do say ill come but with kids that has to b takin lightly kids do get sick and other issues do come in to play for not attending this is fine and understandable but a lot of single men mostly and ladys just dont turn up on the nite and dont let me know y for the sake of a text. The food still has to b got for them and goes to waste, so lads please if some 1 is putting on a party let them know if u cant or wont b attending remember others have to pay the extra cost if a room is booked.
remember the baba aka clyde luv,s ya all
A lot has been said about no shows at meet and greets but what i feel is needed is something to help those nervous about attending, sitting with their invite but no knowing if they want to go or not.
Marieandu gave the best advice I heard waaay back about this.
Go early.....and by early I mean....not half an hour early.....but a few hours early if you can.
Lots of people travel to these events from all over the country and like to chill in the bar before the meet and greet.
If you have received an invite for the upcoming meet and greet this weekend....you will know who the organisers them.....they will most likely be at the venue well before the start time. They are hosting this event and as hosts, I have no doubt will do all they can to welcome anyone unsure or a little nervous so contact them....ask them to help you make the first initial introductions.
I am sure they would rather meet you and help introduce you to others beforehand.....than complain about you not showing up.
Come in....find your feet.....join in the banter that there will be......be yourself......the folks on swing are some of the friendliest, most welcoming I have ever had the pleasure of meeting.
Completely agree with Desdemona about going early! I went to my first meet last summer and checked in early around 4 and hung out in the bar. Got to meet loads there and it was all very relaxed. By the time we went into the function room I at least knew a few people to talk to so it was great. But if you can't go early try and buddy up with someone whether it's someone you regulary chat to or somebody else who's in the same boat as you! If a shy ( yes I am lol ) person like me can do it everyone else can! Worst thing you can do is arrive and expect to go right ' I'm going to have sex with her, and then her ' etc etc. I was shocked at my last meet by the behaviour of one person in particular, expecting an orgy in the bar pmsl. Chill out, have a few drinks and you might just be suprised about all the lovely people you get to meet :-)
