Oh, hello, aren't you...?

If someone came up to you in public and addressed you politely by your swing username, you would....

28 Feb 2009

I've been pondering something. I haven't made a very big secret of my identity. Most people who've chatted with me a while know I'm a writer, that I cycle all over the place, and I like showing my face on cam so what I look like is no mystery. It occurred to me that people on here would have little trouble recognising me in public. My first reaction was: "Well, I hope they'll say hello." Then I remembered that I tend to assume everyone is lovely and nice, and I tried to think the thing through a bit more properly. Personally, I'm not ashamed of what I do on this site (having sex on cam etc.) or with people I meet through here (having sex in person etc. ;)). To be honest, I am happy and proud that Bull and I love each other enough, and are secure enough in our relationship, to recognise our mutual need to form intimate relationships outside our marriage, and to each not only allow this, but encourage it. I know I am not "easy", I believe I am simply well-adjusted enough to be comfortable with my sexual needs and pursue them. But that's me. I have to remind myself that few other people will look on my sexual behaviour the same way. Condemnation is unlikely from people on this site, as it would be a bit of a case of glass houses. However, what about people who think, "Ah, I saw her suck cock on cam last night. She's a right go-er, hey, well say no more, say no more!" I would be bemused to say the least if someone approached me with that attitude. But if someone came up to me and politely said, "Excuse me, are you Boo?" I would smile and confirm that I am, chat for a minute or so and go on my happy way without a second thought. Same as I would if someone came up to me and said, "Excuse me, are you that writer they had an article about in the local paper the other day?" "But Boo," I hear some of you think. "I've seen you naked, I've seen you being fucked by your husband, I've seen close-up photos of your nether regions." Yes? And your point is? Why should that make us more intimately acquainted than any other person I've had some vague contact with? What do you think? How would you feel if someone very politely asked if you were so-and-so, the username you use on here, chatted for a moment about the weather with a perfect show of respect, and moved on? Would that be okay? Or would you die of shame?

28 Feb 2009

This actually happened to me once, we had a nice chat and a bit of a kiss and a cuddle, so that was nice.

1 Mar 2009

:Pwell anyone who knows anything about us would know where our user name came from and why we are proud to use it ,someone did once ask us if we were on s4i we told them to join up and find out if we were or not :uhoh:

1 Mar 2009

when i first joined I was in McDonald's with my kids when some wanker said extremely loudly "oh ur bicuriousme from swing4 aren't you" ..kids were told to go to bathroom and I calmly told the muppet if he had any sense he would remove himself from McDonald's b4 I left the imprint of my tray in his forehead .. Have no problem at all with someone recognising me or even saying hi and having a chat , if I'm on my own ffs not with kids or other family members etc .. Some people really are just plain stupid banghead

1 Mar 2009

:laughabove: I suppose it also depends on what your username is on here. Of course I have no problem with someone calling me Boo in public, it's also my username in other internet forums here and there (cycling, tech support for the computer etc.) However, if someone approaches you and says: "Hello there, Lovetofuck," it might not matter how polite they may be. In fact, choosing a username such as that might be the perfect deterrent to being approached in public - imagine you see someone you know from here, you tap her on the shoulder and say: "Lickmypussy?" And it's the wrong person. rotflmao

1 Mar 2009

Excellent thread Boo........up to your usual high standard :inlove: I have to say that the idea of this didn't even cross my mind until I came across someone in, yes, McDog.....we looked at each other a couple of times (she was in the queue next to me with her kids), then I just quietly asked if she was who I thought she was (I knew her real name, so usernames didn't come into it).....she said yes, hi, and we left it at that. Not a bother. Like you Boo, we are not afraid to show our faces on cam, and are in no way ashamed of being members of the site or what we do on cam or in person - I've actually recommended the site to a few of my more liberal friends. Also like you, we are not natives of this country, so have no family to embarrass, which may be part of why we feel the way we do, and why so many folks on here are secretive about their real identity - although speaking personally I have no real sense of shame at all, so for me it really wouldn't matter if we were here or back in my home town. So if you see me on the street, don't be shy whoever you are - say hi, have the craic, and walk away knowing you have done the right thing as far as I'm concerned.:thumbup: Andy Call me anything you like, but don't call me late for dinner boink

2 Mar 2009

well, this is a tricky one... id say that if someone recognises you , they would be thrilled. as swing is based on respect and trust id have no problem with a fellow user saying hi, however if was obviously not convenient to chat i would expect common sense to prevail.

2 Mar 2009

Hello Boo... I have to agree with Solo on this in some respects. I was in Dunnes with my much younger and no so open minded sister when someone said...well missmjj!!! My sister looked bewildered....and i made a similiar face and walked off... I might have said hello if i;d been on my own...luckily my son was off picking a treat fro himself at the time, otherwise i too would have been less than impressed. Thankfully my username is not one that i would shy away from being called in public. But being approached when not on your own is imo unacceptable. I have had complete strangers mention to me in passing that they'd see me in the beach bar(when it was the beach bar chat automatically logged you into) If you;re going to tell me you know me...at least have the decency to tell me who you are on the site. Having peeps whisper you and say....where you such and such a place today?? is a bit unnerving.....but for me thats more because i am usually looking rough and preoccupied....lol I dont go on cam anymore....and I find it rather surprising that people still remember what i actually look like!!!!! So folks....if you do come over to ask if i am who you think I am.....make sure I am on my own....family members and kids a no no. Even my closest friends dont know I am a member here and I would like to keep it that way. Otherwise, I am normally quite chatty and friendly....and wont bite your head off.

2 Mar 2009

JJ,,, you know my tale, in Woodies, and someone comes up and say, "Hi Padds" lol,, I turned around and a number of people where all staring at me,,, including one of my work colleagues!! which one said it lol!! Thankfully, my user name is less descriptive and I could wash it off, but others are not so fortunate and therefore all users should always be aware of that fact and respect that. JJ I still call you JJ even in person and your other half smile

XX Padds

2 Mar 2009

....and thats why I decided not to call myself 'supershagadellicsexgodohlordywhatanorgasm'...just be too embarrassing to hear in holy commuinion line at mass:sticky: Great thread Boo, I have to say I personally wouldnt give a fiddlers feck if someone said hello to me in public, I do go on cam and feck it if it happens it does. like Ava and mr Bags said I would like to think out of mutual respect and the small sense of kinship the genuineswingers on here have that you'd just nod and smile and continue on your merry way if they were in company that was non site related. Just me few bob.

3 Mar 2009

Quote by user=Titan79
....and thats why I decided not to call myself 'supershagadellicsexgodohlordywhatanorgasm'...just be too embarrassing to hear in holy commuinion line at mass:sticky:

:laughabove: Ah, god, I love that username rotflmao

It's great to see people's reactions here, and I'm surprised at the poll result so far. It seems though everyone would like tact and discretion poke

, most wouldn't mind a smile and a chat if there's no family or friends around who can be a problem blink

. I'd really thought people would be more inclined to run away screaming bolt

, but trying to picture that happening for real I can see it might draw more attention than a quiet chat.
Boo

3 Mar 2009

Boo I'm imagining that there's a few people who look like you who are wondering why total stranger keep going up them to them and saying "Boo!" JC

3 Mar 2009

:laughabove: rotflmao

3 Mar 2009

Great thread Boo:thumbup: Personaly I would never approach a person from Swing in any social setting, unless I was friendly with them off site, and we had already discussed the issue. It would be impossible to know how the other person would react, and unfair to put them in an awkward situation.. As for anyone approaching people out with family, especialy children, and using their Swing usernames, cop on and get and a damn life!!! While I have no problem with being on a swinging site, when I use the site my family don't!.. This is primarily while I do not cam, or have face pics, so avoiding the possibility of my children being upset..