They do say there is no show like a Joe show .... But what if the Joe don't show
Yet again reports of "No Shows" at private meets, at parties and at an organised "meet & greet" .... And of course mainly guys being the main culpits .... Any wonder the single guys find it difficult to get meets or party invites ... or that there is a request for a name & shame list.
Everyone has last minute reasons as to why they wont be able to turn up ... But please show some common decency & manners ... Text, phone or email early enough to let people know ... Even if it is a lie as to why you wond be there, at least let the people know you wont be there.
Couples & single people with children go to great difficulties to organise their lives for that occassional meet.
Similiarly party organisers put a great deal of time & effort into making an enjoyable evening for all ... single guys not turning up means there may be a lot of disappointed single ladies ... because in most cases the ladies do turn up.
No one wants to be stood up in a bar, restraunt or left alone in a hotel room looking like a "billy no mates"
so show some respect to the hosts & those you are due to meet ... you pestered them long enough for that meet ... well send a text to say you wont be there ...
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NO SHOWS
you know Alan the no show thread appears about once month in Various formats, but ultimately the same, its the guys fault. The poor angelic couples and the saintly girls go to all the trouble and the single guys don’t turn up.
In the last week I have had two no shows, one a couple and one a girl. Thats my personal experience. Some of these gobshites get a kick out of it. The woman who stood me up actually boasted about the guys she had stood up and what a buzz it gave her. These people, male or female, treat the site like a porn site, the people they mess about are simply pieces of meat for them to get their odd kicks off and then cast aside.
Can I again make the point pretty please, there are moronic guys, there are moronic couples and there are moronic women who think its fun to talk shite and then not turn up. Can we finally accept that Its not whats between their legs that make them no showers, its what in their twisted brains!
Tom I am sorry this happened to you and yes you are right its not just the single males that do this........ there are a lot of people on here who really get their kicks out of leading people on and then not showing... but there are also a lot of good and genuine people on here Tom ........so dont give up...................xxxxxanny
Well said Alan I've been let down by the single guys on this site, for both priv 1on1 meets, parties and meet & greets the fems always show and the couples too.
Only a couple of weeks ago I had to post in the letsmeet forum for single guys to attend a party, at short notice because the guys that had said they would go to the party decided not to. 
As most know myself and Bongo organised the bi meet for the weekend and yet again it was the single guys only of which some let us down, some did not show, and some did not bother their eyeball to let us know.
We all had a fab night so of course it was the 'no shows' that lost out and I for one will NOT be inviting them to a meet & greet/party again (so don't ask timewasters you know who you are).:fury:
Alot of these begged for an invite to go and when they got the venue details decided to come up with the most hideous of excuses as to why they could not go these are what I will call 'the all talkers' there is a smiley icon dedicated to them :bs:
I see Tom has been let down by couples and fems and I'm not saying fems or couples don't let others down, but they have yet to let me down.....And I'm not saying it's all guys but the majority of let down's are single guys.
And they will be the ones to moan bout the ratio of fems to males on the site, how they never get invited to parties, how some couples wont entertain single guys etc etc :violin:
I even went to the bother of setting up a group for 'single guys interested in swing parties' to try help them along, sometimes I wonder why I bother!!!!
Again thanks Alan for highlighting this, sadly it needs to be brought to light every now and then and sorry for the lengthy reply.....
top of the moaning to ya 
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As most know myself and Bongo organised the bi meet for the weekend and yet again it was the single guys only of which some let us down, some did not show, and some did not bother their eyeball to let us know.
We all had a fab night so of course it was the 'no shows' that lost out and I for one will NOT be inviting them to a meet & greet/party again (so don't ask timewasters you know who you are).:fury:
Alot of these begged for an invite to go and when they got the venue details decided to come up with the most hideous of excuses as to why they could not go these are what I will call 'the all talkers' there is a smiley icon dedicated to them :bs:
I see Tom has been let down by couples and fems and I'm not saying fems or couples don't let others down, but they have yet to let me down.....And I'm not saying it's all guys but the majority of let down's are single guys.
And they will be the ones to moan bout the ratio of fems to males on the site, how they never get invited to parties, how some couples wont entertain single guys etc etc :violin:
I even went to the bother of setting up a group for 'single guys interested in swing parties' to try help them along, sometimes I wonder why I bother!!!!
Again thanks Alan for highlighting this, sadly it needs to be brought to light every now and then and sorry for the lengthy reply.....
top of the moaning to ya :kiss: "And I'm not saying it's all guys but the majority of let down's are single guys"
Amber just read that sentence you posted and see does it make any sense.
Your experience is that its single guys that dont show. My experience has been limited to couples and fems and my experience has been that there are plenty of no shows with them.
If you take both our experiences together it proves that people, either male or female dont show depending on whats going on in their heads.
Your post pays lip service to the notion that couples and fems dont show but its very clear you are convinced its men only that have the problem. That attitude is plain wrong and anyone who goes into swinging thinking that women and couples are not going to mess them about are going to be sorely disappointed. There are thousands of men on this site and of course there will be loads of them time wasters. I would have no doubt that the percentage of time wasters is exactly the same as for couples and single women. The skill is in trying to work out who they are before wastin a trip.
And as anyone who reads my posts will see, I have not been too good at that of late!
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"And I'm not saying it's all guys but the majority of let down's are single guys"
Amber just read that sentence you posted and see does it make any sense.
Your experience is that its single guys that dont show. My experience has been limited to couples and fems and my experience has been that there are plenty of no shows with them.
If you take both our experiences together it proves that people, either male or female dont show depending on whats going on in their heads.
Your post pays lip service to the notion that couples and fems dont show but its very clear you are convinced its men only that have the problem. That attitude is plain wrong and anyone who goes into swinging thinking that women and couples are not going to mess them about are going to be sorely disappointed. There are thousands of men on this site and of course there will be loads of them time wasters. I would have no doubt that the percentage of time wasters is exactly the same as for couples and single women. The skill is in trying to work out who they are before wastin a trip.
And as anyone who reads my posts will see, I have not been too good at that of late!
Yes it makes sense to me the majority (greater number) all (every).
It is only clear to me as my experience of "timewasters" or "no shows" has been men, not couples or females as yet anyway, I'm not saying it won't happen. I never suggested that females or couples will not mess people around!!!!
I do agree that trying to work out the all talkers from the genuine can save us time and hassle, but no matter how hard we try there will always be a 'no show' at some stage.
Perhaps the reason so many no shows are men is because there seems to be more male members here than cpls or fems. And maybe the male no show issue is high lighted more therefore making more of an issue of it?
We have only had one male no show, two female no shows and two cpls no shows.
It`s a risk we all take, its how you handle it that matters.
Ravenfire I think its just a different mindset. There are lots of people on this site who use the site as a porn site. They get off watching the conversation, looking at cams and in some cases fantasising about meeting by talking to people about meeting. They tend to be ones that fixate on every detail (what you wear, what you will do, how long you last, how often you have done it etc etc) They also tend to be kinda creepy about collecting and wanting to "swap" pictures.
The common point with them is that they dont see the person they ar watching or talking to as a person at all, they are no different to a porn video that they were watching before or even while they are talking to you. The person is an object to get off on and dosent really figure as an individual.
When you realise that it explains why they are not a bit worried about not turning up and they get quite upset if you challenge them on it. After all, how many of us have had porn actor text us and give off to us cos we switched the dvd off half way through!
There are also a lot of women on the site and couples also who don't turn up and we should remember that also and not get the idea that it is only the guys who do no shows as it's hard enough for single guys to make an impression on the site as it is, single guys also may have to go to great lenghts to make arrangements to meet someone e.g. such as taking time off work etc etc and for someone not to turn up is rude to say the least as a text costs nothing and an e-mail even less so there's no reason for getting in touch. As there are more guys on the site this gets highlighted more.
Live Long & Prosper!
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you know Alan the no show thread appears about once month in Various formats, but ultimately the same, its the guys fault. The poor angelic couples and the saintly girls go to all the trouble and the single guys don’t turn up.
In the last week I have had two no shows, one a couple and one a girl. Thats my personal experience. Some of these gobshites get a kick out of it. The woman who stood me up actually boasted about the guys she had stood up and what a buzz it gave her. These people, male or female, treat the site like a porn site, the people they mess about are simply pieces of meat for them to get their odd kicks off and then cast aside.
Can I again make the point pretty please, there are moronic guys, there are moronic couples and there are moronic women who think its fun to talk shite and then not turn up. Can we finally accept that Its not whats between their legs that make them no showers, its what in their twisted brains!
Couldn't have put it better.
Live Long & Prosper
As im not on this site to long maybe il see more as time goes by but ive already been stood up once by a lady on this said she rang,but theres not a hope in hell she did..As i work wkends quiet alot of the time i must say it really pissed me off as not only did i have to pay for a suite(dont get me wrong,i had no problem paying for that)that never got used,bar me in a big double bed for the night with the latelate:giveup: but i also used up one of the only precious free wkens il get in the next few months.:upset:
The reason that more men seem to be no showers imo is that theres simply way more of them on this site,but in my+i must state,little experience so far,everyones as guilty.
This issue keeps rearing its ugly head again and again but I would like it if we could possibly separate the types of occasion that we are talking about. Lumping personal meets and meet and greet social events are in my eyes two totally different thing
My only issue with no shows is the meet and greets and I have spoken about this before.
*****NEWSFLASH*****
Yes again more reports of no shows by women and couples...
OK the headline there was just to have a sense of balance to this post lol I have been on swinging sites here and elsewhere for a long time and i can honestly hand on heart say each time i've arranged to meet a woman they have always turned up........NOT.
Well it's not really news for most of us but here goes single women and couples also do no shows as evidenced by the comments above and we've all had experiences of this in the past (well most of us anyway). Yes some guys don't show up and that's terrible not to mention completely rude but the same goes for couples and single women who do this also.
Does it ever occur to anyone that one of the reasons that guys find it hard to get a look in is because posts like this appear on a regular basis after meets etc talking about guys not showing up all the time.
Yes again more reports of no shows by women and couples...
OK the headline there was just to have a sense of balance to this post lol I have been on swinging sites here and elsewhere for a long time and i can honestly hand on heart say each time i've arranged to meet a woman they have always turned up........NOT.
Well it's not really news for most of us but here goes single women and couples also do no shows as evidenced by the comments above and we've all had experiences of this in the past (well most of us anyway). Yes some guys don't show up and that's terrible not to mention completely rude but the same goes for couples and single women who do this also.
Does it ever occur to anyone that one of the reasons that guys find it hard to get a look in is because posts like this appear on a regular basis after meets etc talking about guys not showing up all the time.
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*****NEWSFLASH*****
Yes again more reports of no shows by women and couples...
OK the headline there was just to have a sense of balance to this post lol I have been on swinging sites here and elsewhere for a long time and i can honestly hand on heart say each time i've arranged to meet a woman they have always turned up........NOT.
Well it's not really news for most of us but here goes single women and couples also do no shows as evidenced by the comments above and we've all had experiences of this in the past (well most of us anyway). Yes some guys don't show up and that's terrible not to mention completely rude but the same goes for couples and single women who do this also.
Does it ever occur to anyone that one of the reasons that guys find it hard to get a look in is because posts like this appear on a regular basis after meets etc talking about guys not showing up all the time.
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Sex God
Quote by user=style1979
*****NEWSFLASH*****
Yes again more reports of no shows by women and couples...
OK the headline there was just to have a sense of balance to this post lol I have been on swinging sites here and elsewhere for a long time and i can honestly hand on heart say each time i've arranged to meet a woman they have always turned up........NOT.
Well it's not really news for most of us but here goes single women and couples also do no shows as evidenced by the comments above and we've all had experiences of this in the past (well most of us anyway). Yes some guys don't show up and that's terrible not to mention completely rude but the same goes for couples and single women who do this also.
Does it ever occur to anyone that one of the reasons that guys find it hard to get a look in is because posts like this appear on a regular basis after meets etc talking about guys not showing up all the time.
Its a similar problem as the people with Multiple accounts, you'd think they'd make theyre mind up which one they'd use, instead of trying to represent more than one viewpoint, when both seem eeerily similar.
Sex God
Some zaza, some.
Good post again Alan,
I have always attended meet and greets when I have said I would. As for private meets it is the same, only once have I been let down. Guys if you have an opportunity to meet at least turn up. The worst thing to do is leave someone or a couple wondering if there is something wrong with them. Politeness costs nothing and can earn you a lot more !
We do agree that it is very bad manners not to show for a meet and greet, but many people do attend them therefore the possible costs for the event would almost be covered, but like style said he was not only out of pocket but also lost valuable free time. Some of us have to go to great lengths to arrange a meet and can be let down, therefore it is time wasted that could have been used for some other purpose.
Meet and greets as we said have many people there so if some don't show the evening is not a complete waste of time while private meets with no shows are a total waste of time, which you can not get back.
Sex God
I wonder sometimes are personal meets made to quickly, by that I mean without enough thought, “would you like to meet, oh yes that would be nice, when , next sat, right so ill see you there“,
Then it gets thought about, nerves kick in , or other things crop up, or lets be honest I think sometimes with some people the hornieness goes off 
Iv not been stood up, but I’ve been cancelled with very short notice a few times, and as fusion says there, its very award when you have made arrangements, or your sitting there all dressed up and no where to go :mad:
So what I do now is try and avoid making meets unless its all been thought out by both sides, to make sure it all goes ahead smoothly, and I try not to agree to a meet unless I’m totally sure I will be there, only down side is it takes some of the spontaneity out of it, which is a pity 
Iv not been stood up, but I’ve been cancelled with very short notice a few times, and as fusion says there, its very award when you have made arrangements, or your sitting there all dressed up and no where to go :mad:
So what I do now is try and avoid making meets unless its all been thought out by both sides, to make sure it all goes ahead smoothly, and I try not to agree to a meet unless I’m totally sure I will be there, only down side is it takes some of the spontaneity out of it, which is a pity 
Orgasminator
Good points Slightly re being all dressed up and nowhere to go. Now before having read any of these no show threads, I did arrange a meet and actually forewarded the booking confirmation from the hotel to my partner of the night so that they could see that I had put in that effort and respected them enough to show them I was genuine. Now no one asked me to do that but perhaps if meets in neutral places are being organised, something like that could be done to put the other partner at rest.... I know this doesn't help if the no show is the girl or a couple, or whoever is not paying the initial booking but can possible help the single male?
