I've seen a few posts where especially single males discuss how a lot of ladies don't even reply to their mails. I hope I can give a little perspective on this, and perhaps other women will also add their point of view.
As a rule, I try to say a friendly "No, thank you!" to anyone who contacts us in whom I am not interested, whether this is in the chat room or by pm. Bull has said I should simply not reply, as for many guys, any response whatsoever is considered encouragement. He's absolutely right, that has happened, but I still try to remember to reply.
We ourselves have contacted people and been ignored. Shrug and move on.
I agree with what I think Make said on another thread, your best bet is the chat room. And yes, I myself have sat staring at the screen, watching other people talk, every effort to join in the conversation unsuccessful. Just keep trying.
This situation is the reality of s4i, and whoever doesn't like it is perhaps in the wrong place. I don't agree with the suggestion that women put in their profile if they are only here for talking. I'm certainly here for action, but not with each and every guy who gets in touch or I'd spend the rest of my life in bed, whith a queue outside my bedroom door.
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Copied from a reply on another post, but relevant for this one I think..
NSA= No Strings Attcahed fun, and in most cases does not mean, hello I am up for fecking all in sundry, and because I advertise I should have to reply to everyone who mails me.
Would a woman go into into a singles bar and accept a drink from every guy who offers, would a guy feel he has to buy every woman a drink if she shows an interest in him?
Swing is not, for most of the members a sex site, NSA is a term used to imply that a sexual encounter can be enjoyed and shared without any future contact, I think it is time a lot of guys dropped the notion it is a knocking shop!!! and stop bloody whinging!!
There was a conversation going on in chat earlier, re the issue of time wasters ect.. and a few of us agreed, having a good attitude helps,all sites have endless chatters, not really interested in meeting.
But, so what? Does it really matter? If your mails get ignored, is it a reflection on others or yourself?
To be honest reading peoples posts about lack of meets and mails ect..can be a turn off, and smacks of immaturity..
My two-pen'orth:
I try to answer every mail I get - when it's apparent that the person has:
a] read my profile and knows that I have criteria for the sort of contacts I'm looking for;
AND
b] written a sensible message which show a level of maturity of mind - regardless of the physical age;
AND
c] has included enough facts about themselves and their interest in me - to make me interested in them.
I usually consign to the 'RANDOMERS' bin any one-liners and mails which are only:
'gis-a-shag'
'are you really female'
'My wife doesn't want sex'
'I'm hitting your town for ### nights - are you up for a meet'
'I'm horny - you free'
and the long-winded explanations about how they do not match my criteria - but they'd be able to promise me earth-shatteringly good orgasms in one sentence and ask for NSA in the next!!!
I've no time to waste on TWONKs.
I spend time in the chatrooms - seeing how people interact with me and others - I decide whether they seem like people I'd want in the same room as me in reality - and if I do, then I let them know it. Conversation may not be something everyone is good at or comfortable with - but without discussion - how in the name of JHC are you supposed to work out if you want someone upclose and personal with you? Are there really guys who would fcuk anything with a hole - just so they don't have to talk to real people?
Get real!! Get talking - and see the person behind the name on screen.
Okay - had to get that said - it's been brewing a while with all the whinging posts around here lately lol
I try to answer every mail I get - when it's apparent that the person has:
a] read my profile and knows that I have criteria for the sort of contacts I'm looking for;
AND
b] written a sensible message which show a level of maturity of mind - regardless of the physical age;
AND
c] has included enough facts about themselves and their interest in me - to make me interested in them.
I usually consign to the 'RANDOMERS' bin any one-liners and mails which are only:
'gis-a-shag'
'are you really female'
'My wife doesn't want sex'
'I'm hitting your town for ### nights - are you up for a meet'
'I'm horny - you free'
and the long-winded explanations about how they do not match my criteria - but they'd be able to promise me earth-shatteringly good orgasms in one sentence and ask for NSA in the next!!!
I've no time to waste on TWONKs.
I spend time in the chatrooms - seeing how people interact with me and others - I decide whether they seem like people I'd want in the same room as me in reality - and if I do, then I let them know it. Conversation may not be something everyone is good at or comfortable with - but without discussion - how in the name of JHC are you supposed to work out if you want someone upclose and personal with you? Are there really guys who would fcuk anything with a hole - just so they don't have to talk to real people?
Get real!! Get talking - and see the person behind the name on screen.
Okay - had to get that said - it's been brewing a while with all the whinging posts around here lately lol
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wel said Marie... .. one more thing.. i recieved a message just a few minutes ago (11pm sunday nite) to say '' hey, im staying in your city tonite , wanna come over''......for flute sake.... ohhh hold on a minute, let me get my toothbrush !!! ffs...ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Ahhh Feck Dora - How are we supposed to get any sleep at all with running hither and thither at the whim of the boys who can't cum by themselves!!! :haha:
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ahhhhhhhhhh haaaaaaaaa... now i know......all the guys are sending messages to marie saying ...''can i go to your dungeon, please , please'' so she is not replying to them because there are so many wanting to go......no wonder they are whinging...
Ah Feck! Dora - Don't let the Cat o' 9 tails out the bag - I'll be inundated with "whip me, paddle me" requests again! There's a waiting list already!
The life of a fem single swinger.
We are coveted and courted,
Our mail boxes seemingly overflow.,
With offers, pics and promises,
Of endless hours of steamy fun, sure to make our juices flow.
If we reply but don't follow up, or don't reply at all,
We find ourselves in Lets' Meet Up, berated by the grumpy male,
Who badgers us in the chatroom, who having no understanding of the word No,
Gets irritable and upset, when he knows he is going to fail..
Code breaking mail, whilst fun, can be down right frustrating,
Does no-one expect us to have a life?
God forbid we give out our mobile numbers, to guys who get annoyed if we don't reply,
Who say 'Honest to god I am single', but their erratic texting suggests they have a wife..
So please before you rant and rave, and blame us for your woes,
Being a single fem is often not all it's cracked up to be,
It's not all fun and frolics, hot and teamy fun,
But you won't find us whinging in Lets Meet Up, we are way too dignified you see.
:grin::grin:I've been prompted to reply to this thread by a recent conversation on this very topic...
Like the other females on this site I receive quite a few emails. Unfortunately the majority of these emails are one liners, often a simple "hi" with the occasional "how r u?" thrown in. In my early days as a member of this site I did endeavour to reply to all emails received. However, I soon grew tired of it. It was at that point that I added my "under 30s only please" line to my profile. That may offend some but it is a personal preference. I naively thought that people would read my profile in advance of contacting me. Man, was I wrong. So I began to refuse to reply to any emails from people who clearly didn't bother to take the time to read a few lines of simple, plain English.
Recently, I decided that I'd try to weed out the people who didn't want to spend more than two seconds writing a message but once again I failed miserably.
I understand that it is hard for people, single men especially, to meet people off this site but in the overwhelming majority of cases it is their own fault.
Take 5 minutes to post a picture on your profile...it doesn't have to be a face pic and it definitely doesn't have to be a cock pic, but post something to show that you are willing to make a little effort. When writing emails, take 2 minutes to introduce yourself like you would to anyone you are meeting for the first time. If you can, spend some time in the chatrooms getting to know people. Do not whisper every girl you can find in there. Start a mature conversation in the main room or join an ongoing one. The majority of people in the chatrooms will say hi and will be willing to hold a conversation as long as it doesn't revolve around a quick shag.
And above all, please please please take the time to read peoples profiles. They are there for a reason and by not trying to contact someone who is not looking for what you have to offer you can't be rejected.
Oh and by the way...
Yes, I am a single female.
Yes, I do meet single males...in fact I ONLY meet single males.
Yes, I do like cum.
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Bravo Nicci,
Nice to see a response to this ever present 'Chestnut'
Now I'm away to randoml;y email a quick hi to the latest fem members with nice boobie pics....Byeeeeeeee....
Nah Back already It didnt work out...Feck...Must remember to read profiles.:taz:
after being on this site for nearly a week now i have sent some very detailed tasteful messages to single females on the site and have yet to get a response from anyone. I have read profiles carefully and have chosen women from my area and also ones that appeal to me and not just every one of them. I totally agree about the chat rooms, they seem to be the place to get started and get talking but they seem so hectic. Anyway, as a new member i thought i'd share my experience to date. Looking forward to chatting in the chat rooms when i finally figure you how to keep up.
Single, it takes a while to get used to chat, but once you spend a bit of time in there, perhaps just watching, I think you'll get the hang of it. Yes, it can get very hectic, but it can be fun to try and keep up.
Bull still doesn't like all that much to go into the chat room, so maybe for some it's just not the way to go. Good luck with your endeavours on the site. I hope that sooner or later you'll get a response.
Boo.
