I know that its against site policy to name and shame people, but iv had my time and money wasted two many times on here,one couple arranged to meet and didn't show up, I foolishly believed there excuse and agreed to meet again, they didn't show up a second time !!!!
This weekend a couple invited me to there hotel room, gave me a phone number so I called the lady and she seemed very nice and genuine, put petrol in the car and made to 20 mile trip, only to have her turn off the phone when I said I was there
Single males get a bad rep on here, and that ruins it for the genuine ones, So far iv been messed around on 5 occasions,I think its time there was a way to name and shame the no shows and time wasters on this site, be they male, female or couples,
This would make life alot easier on the site and stop the kind of nonsense that has happened to me and a many others on this site.
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Name and shame no shows and timewasters
Ok lets take a practical viewpoint of this naming and shaming and see if any of it makes sense shall we?
Some peeps make arrangements to meet, when they do, they don't share any attraction, chemistry or maybe, just maybe, they have nothing in common other than their fascination with the lifestyle.
Not all profiles on swing4 or other sites are what they seem, some swingers like to use pics that were taken a number of years ago and they try to 'mislead' other users that they are like that now, some have personas in chat which can come across as pleasent and seem like really nice peeps to 'get to know', and then the reality of the situation pops up, all is not what it seems 
Why do sites not have a name and shame policy?, well basically where would anyone draw the line? just because someone don't fancy you!, want to 'play' with you! don't make them timewasters, the sole responsibility of anyone venturing in to this lifestyle is down to them, not a site, if you genuinely want to hook up with someone, invest in a webcam, a spare sim card for your mobile phone, keep it separate from your real life, and its not a crime to be a swinger, but enough people have learned at this stage, that genuine lifestylers don't like taking risks so the idea of meeting 'last second' invitations are more miss than hits.
People are entitled to change their minds, the internet is just a virtual world. Then reality bites, peeps that turn up are not what was expected, its up to the user themselves to try and be honest and accurate with how they describe themselves and what they are looking for.
It may be wise to remember that One Persons Meat, Is Anothers Poison! but in the end make up your own minds, it's a site for those that want to enjoy swinging, NOT whinging ;)
Why do sites not have a name and shame policy?, well basically where would anyone draw the line? just because someone don't fancy you!, want to 'play' with you! don't make them timewasters, the sole responsibility of anyone venturing in to this lifestyle is down to them, not a site, if you genuinely want to hook up with someone, invest in a webcam, a spare sim card for your mobile phone, keep it separate from your real life, and its not a crime to be a swinger, but enough people have learned at this stage, that genuine lifestylers don't like taking risks so the idea of meeting 'last second' invitations are more miss than hits.
People are entitled to change their minds, the internet is just a virtual world. Then reality bites, peeps that turn up are not what was expected, its up to the user themselves to try and be honest and accurate with how they describe themselves and what they are looking for.
It may be wise to remember that One Persons Meat, Is Anothers Poison! but in the end make up your own minds, it's a site for those that want to enjoy swinging, NOT whinging ;) I agree with you baileys, if I met somebody and didn't click, that would be fair enough and I would have absolutely no problem atol with that, but when somebody agrees to a meet then doesn't even show up or txt to say they cant make it or just turn off there phone and ignore you, that's what annoys me
People are allowed to say in the forums and comments that they met x y or z and had a great time at a meet and greet etc, why cant we share our bad experiences we had with site members and let everyone else make up there mind about them ?
If anybody went too far saying anything out of line or overly nasty, the mods would step in just like they already do in the rest of the forums
Maybe this would stop people messing others around
Another side to this, lets saym protool I took against you for something u might have said in chat, so I get the hump and go to the forums and put up a big post how you are a timewaster. Would that be fair?
Anyone could post anything about someone, it would ruin the forums and turn into a big bitching session with the less honest members just using it as a way to get at people who wont meet them
I agree with wispa , A thumbs up or down system wud be a great idea, admins wud hav to approve a thumbs down and the person wud have to provide a reason for it, that way if a profile had nothing but thumbs up it wud prove they are thrust worthy
If they had more thumbs down you would know to avoid them
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I agree with you baileys, if I met somebody and didn't click, that would be fair enough and I would have absolutely no problem atol with that, but when somebody agrees to a meet then doesn't even show up or txt to say they cant make it or just turn off there phone and ignore you, that's what annoys me
People are allowed to say in the forums and comments that they met x y or z and had a great time at a meet and greet etc, why cant we share our bad experiences we had with site members and let everyone else make up there mind about them ?
If anybody went too far saying anything out of line or overly nasty, the mods would step in just like they already do in the rest of the forums
Maybe this would stop people messing others around
Honesty..Honesty...and Honesty..dont understand why peeps have honesty issues on a swing site...jeez..everyone is here to meet like minded couples/men/women, whether they are tv, gay. bi or straight that they can get together and have sexy fun with... without your everday friends and family finding out ofcourse, but how could they ever find out, unless they too are on site looking for the same, if that is the case, who would they ever tell - no-one, that's who, because ofcourse they would also be telling on themselves (cause how else would you know a swinger, unless you were a swinger yourself) Elementary...so does it really matter if by putting on your profile that your a bi (curious) male, theres gonna be a number of couples/men/women who wont get in touch, but please spare a horny thought for the number of peep who will get in touch, cause your profile matches...much more fun and definately hornier...xx
